How to love yourself?

I think every one goes through this and its kinda a constant thing. Just keep your head up and listen to your bf he knows what his talking bout! I know for me at least that one day i will have that same feeling so i make my self get up put on a little makeup and something that shows off my best features and it makes me fell better. And as bad as this sounds i love when i can catch someone else besides my bf checking me out i love it!!! Don't get me wrong i love hearing it from my bf and i love catching him check me out but there is just something different about it when its not some one that loves you.... I think that a lot of these issues stem from social media and society if you went back in time and looked at what people though was attractive compared to today its astonishing!!! Art itself shows that if you look at paintings from the Renascence those girls were not the toothpicks of today and that's because a healthy girl was one with some meat on her bones it was a sign of beauty and wealth. less

I don't think there's anything wrong with enjoying catching someone check you out!

I was actually having this discussion with a friend and it was during a time that I was feeling down on myself, and she says, "But you have (insert Mr's name here)! You don't need anyone else to think you're attractive." I said, "Yeah, but I've been with him for 10 years! I know he thinks I'm sexy, and that's great, but it still feels good when OTHER people think I'm sexy!"

It's a great booster! less

This is so true. Last weekend, I was feeling down, but most likely due to my hormones being out of wack because my period was about to start. I was feeling fat, ugly, lazy, unappreciated, angry, and then some. We were having friends over and I wanted to tell hubby not to have them come over, but they did. His friend made a comment about "how a beautiful women should not be so down." Well, didn't that just perk up my mood. Sometimes it is just nice to be told you are beautiful by anyone! less

I used to have very similar issues. Now, I feel like a goddess, even though I've gained some weight. What helped me most was being naked. No, really- being naked a LOT. I would stare at my naked body in the mirror every day, and tell myself I was beautiful and worth being loved (most especially and importantly, loved by me!). And I made myself pick three positive features that made me feel beautiful every day.

It's hard at first. When you start, you'll find more faults when you stare in the mirror than good things. Perseverance is the key. Do it EVERY DAY, until you start to actually see your beauty. And keep doing it, even after you start to believe it. Don't break yourself down and pick apart your perceived ugliness. Pick things you actually believe are beautiful: your eyes, the curve of your smile, the gloss of your hair. Pick small things, focus on how much you like them, and eventually, you'll start to like the rest of your beautiful self, too.

Good luck - you can do it! less

I know I've felt this way, "Who the heck would be attracted to this lanky, fat, albino who smokes too much?"

...then I realize "Someone will."

If confidence is the sexiest thing, lack of confidence must be the opposite. So I make it point to mid-line it - it is what it is. less

I think every one goes through this and its kinda a constant thing. Just keep your head up and listen to your bf he knows what his talking bout! I know for me at least that one day i will have that same feeling so i make my self get up put on a little makeup and something that shows off my best features and it makes me fell better. And as bad as this sounds i love when i can catch someone else besides my bf checking me out i love it!!! Don't get me wrong i love hearing it from my bf and i love catching him check me out but there is just something different about it when its not some one that loves you.... I think that a lot of these issues stem from social media and society if you went back in time and looked at what people though was attractive compared to today its astonishing!!! Art itself shows that if you look at paintings from the Renascence those girls were not the toothpicks of today and that's because a healthy girl was one with some meat on her bones it was a sign of beauty and wealth. less

I don't think there's anything wrong with enjoying catching someone check you out!

I was actually having this discussion with a friend and it was during a time that I was feeling down on myself, and she says, "But you have (insert Mr's name here)! You don't need anyone else to think you're attractive." I said, "Yeah, but I've been with him for 10 years! I know he thinks I'm sexy, and that's great, but it still feels good when OTHER people think I'm sexy!"

It's a great booster! less

This is so true. Last weekend, I was feeling down, but most likely due to my hormones being out of wack because my period was about to start. I was feeling fat, ugly, lazy, unappreciated, angry, and then some. We were having friends over and I wanted to tell hubby not to have them come over, but they did. His friend made a comment about "how a beautiful women should not be so down." Well, didn't that just perk up my mood. Sometimes it is just nice to be told you are beautiful by anyone! less

I think the allure of having it come from someone other than your SO is that your SO is SUPPOSED to think you're beautiful/pretty/hands ome/sexy (whatever you prefer). From strangers, it's like, "Oh! And he/she/they don't even know anything about my personality! HEEEEYYYY!!!!" less

We were with my boyfriends family, and my boyfriend was staring at me.

His mom was like " I know that look, you look at Vanessa (me) like she's the most beautiful thing you've ever seen"

His reply was "Because she is"

Little things like that make me fall more in love with him.

but the problem is,

In my head, I turn it into something not so good. I'm extremely hard on myself. I am overweight, and I just don't see what he does. I'm currently trying to change by losing weight. In my eyes the weight is the ugliest part of me.

My question is, I've seen so many stories of people losing weight, but are still unhappy. How do I change my mind from this train of thought. How do you even start to love yourself, because I have NO idea how to do that. I want to look in the mirror and she the beauty he sees.

Am I the only one dealing with this problem? Did you have this problem? How did you overcome it? less

We were with my boyfriends family, and my boyfriend was staring at me.

His mom was like " I know that look, you look at Vanessa (me) like she's the most beautiful thing you've ever seen"

His reply was "Because she is"

Little things like that make me fall more in love with him.

but the problem is,

In my head, I turn it into something not so good. I'm extremely hard on myself. I am overweight, and I just don't see what he does. I'm currently trying to change by losing weight. In my eyes the weight is the ugliest part of me.

My question is, I've seen so many stories of people losing weight, but are still unhappy. How do I change my mind from this train of thought. How do you even start to love yourself, because I have NO idea how to do that. I want to look in the mirror and she the beauty he sees.

Am I the only one dealing with this problem? Did you have this problem? How did you overcome it? less