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Jul!a Jul!a
I'm in the process of planning mine and looking at what some other people have done just makes my head spin. Some of these are so elaborate and some are just so plain and simple. Honestly, if I didn't have my dress already, I would probably just go to the courthouse and have a party afterwards. But I have my dress, and I've settled on a location that I'm very happy with to have the ceremony and reception, and I was wondering what the rest of you married folk did.

And I know that not all of you are married, or planning on getting married, but for those who want to someday, what would your ideal wedding be?
04/26/2010
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El-Jaro El-Jaro
Ok, it may sound like I'm being snarky or dumb, but...Chuck E. Cheese Reception.

Pizza for all check
games check
alcohol check


...just an idea

I've always wanted (yes, I'm a guy who's thought about his wedding) to do the lakeside/sunset thing. I'd go total cotton linens and bonfire. I've also pondered how cool it would be to have a karaoke reception.
04/26/2010
Elodie Elodie
Quote:
Originally posted by Jul!a
I'm in the process of planning mine and looking at what some other people have done just makes my head spin. Some of these are so elaborate and some are just so plain and simple. Honestly, if I didn't have my dress already, I would probably ...
I've never cared much about the wedding. A courthouse would be fine. There's this chocolate bar in the area where I'd love to have the reception, and I have thought about the cake. Some wedding cakes are so gorgeous, I'd feel bad eating them.

On the other hand, I've been planning my perfect honeymoon since I was about 12.
04/26/2010
Sir Sir
My ideal wedding? As strange as this may seem, considering who I am, I want a wedding in...a church. Or a synagogue, either one. It's just so..beautiful to me, I do not know why. They'd probably condemn me though for even stepping foot in there, but hey, oh well..HAHA!
04/26/2010
Jul!a Jul!a
Quote:
Originally posted by El-Jaro
Ok, it may sound like I'm being snarky or dumb, but...Chuck E. Cheese Reception.

Pizza for all check
games check
alcohol check


...just an idea

I've always wanted (yes, I'm a guy who's thought about his ...
Nothing snarky or dumb about it I think. That, or something like that would totally be something I'd do for an afterparty. And there's nothing wrong with being a guy who's thought about his wedding
04/26/2010
Tuesday Tuesday
My wedding was very small. The wedding and reception took place in a restaurant.

I desperately wanted a courthouse wedding, but my mother made such a deal about how I would regret it. I don't think I would have.

My advice to you is to not let anyone pressure you into wedding details that aren't what you want.

And if there's a next time? I'm living in sin. There won't even be a courthouse wedding.
04/26/2010
DONOTSHOPHERETHEOWNERISPSYCHO DONOTSHOPHERETHEOWNERISPSYCHO
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Originally posted by Jul!a
I'm in the process of planning mine and looking at what some other people have done just makes my head spin. Some of these are so elaborate and some are just so plain and simple. Honestly, if I didn't have my dress already, I would probably ...
We got married at a small church with about 40 or so of our friends and family present. I bought all the decorations from Wal-Mart or the dollar store and made them myself. The preacher's wife helped me decorate, for free, and made my bouquet for me. My mother-in-law paid about $150 for our cake and we made a bunch of inexpensive finger foods for the reception. My mom, grandma and other women from my family brought food to help. We probably spent $1500 total on the entire deal, including my dress that we bought on sale for $258.

We were young and broke. If we had an opportunity to do it again I might spend a little more on a few things, like a photographer so we would have some good pictures from that day, but I'm pretty pleased with how it turned out. Even with as low key as it was we were both exhausted after the wedding and did a lot of sleeping at the hotel.

You do not want to spend so much money on the wedding and reception that you are in debt when you begin your marriage. You do not want to spend your special day stressed out because of all of the chaos. If you're more comfortable with simple, do simple.
04/26/2010
El-Jaro El-Jaro
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Originally posted by DONOTSHOPHERETHEOWNERISPSYCHO
We got married at a small church with about 40 or so of our friends and family present. I bought all the decorations from Wal-Mart or the dollar store and made them myself. The preacher's wife helped me decorate, for free, and made my bouquet for ...
Those are the exact reasons I'm all about the ceremony in the water with linens and a bonfire with a couple kegs or something...maybe a bbq or something...

The linen clothes because:
a) light fabric
b) can wear any other time
c) can be really cheap yet romantic
d) our beliefs are non-christian and frugal.

my aunt is a cake decorator, both my sisters are photographers (amateur yet good).

I just can't wait until then...
04/26/2010
Sammi Sammi
We did it the easy way - married and honeymoon all in Vegas. The only downside was I never had a cake.
04/26/2010
Chilipepper Chilipepper
My wedding ceremony was like my engagement ring - cheap and it looked it.

Year 2000 prices:

CZ channel ring from the bargain bin at Jimbo's Jewelers and Pawn, which began turning green in the settings within three months ... $8

Wedding and reception including dress (made), cake (from my work), hall rental (garden club), food (picnic buffet - but NO booze), decor (plastic everything), DJ (the only real expense), flowers (from my work), marriage license, rings (sterling silver), and printer ink for the digital pictures ... $800

I'll leave it at that, the rest of the tale is worse.
04/26/2010
cherryredhead88 cherryredhead88
I am far from being married but I know I want it to be fun at least, not too expensive and not tons of people. Probably 50 or so tops. Lots of booze, lots of dancing! lol.
04/26/2010
Polyserena Polyserena
I'd love a wedding near the water. But beaches are pretty windy and I don't know any really beautiful lakes that are nearby. I think hiring out a small cruise ferry would be a nice touch actually. I wonder how much that would cost me.
If someone arrived late... well... that would be a bit of a disaster for them. But it would most likely be a reasonably short trip anyway- the ceremony, photos, and a few drinks before and after. Could have a dinner reception on shore! God you really have me thinking!
Whoa, the one I was thinking of actually does have wedding packages!
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even looks like they have a dancefloor!
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Awesome! My wedding is planned, now I just need a groom! And money! ( I still don't know how much it would be!)
I love ideas that come to me as I write. It must have been sitting back there in my subconscious for a while
04/27/2010
Polyserena Polyserena
Quote:
Originally posted by El-Jaro
Ok, it may sound like I'm being snarky or dumb, but...Chuck E. Cheese Reception.

Pizza for all check
games check
alcohol check


...just an idea

I've always wanted (yes, I'm a guy who's thought about his ...
It would certainly cut down on the stress of organising something family friendly.

Weddings can be so boring for little kids. Not to mention stressful.

Some couples actually don't invite children because they're afraid they'll spoil their day. But then people have to get babysitters, which isn't always convenient.

Living in Australia I've never been to a chucky cheese, but don't they have ball pits? Those things look awesome.

Some of the all you can eat buffets and community clubs around here can be great for family get togethers- they usually have a small game room too. And I like the idea that people don't have to sit in the same seat for the whole time because they are waiting for their ordered entree/dinner/desert to arrive. It can get boring talking to the same people all night.
04/27/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Sigel and I wanted a hand-fasting but our families are both staunch Catholic so we got married by justice of the peace to make peace with family. It didn't work, no one showed up except some very dear friends. My parents graciously paid a total of $80 for a white dress, cake and non-alcoholic sparkling cider (we were only 20). The judge was rude, condescending and rushed the whole ceremony forgetting half of the vows to save time and ease his own conscience (he felt he was committing a sin since obviously we'd be divorced before the ink dried). this year is our 20th anniversary...I'd say the ink done dried many years ago!

Have fun with it and make it your special day. Good luck and Gods bless.
04/27/2010
VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
I want to big to do. I want the church, the dress, and the forever. If I get that, it'll be a miracle. Here's to hoping.
04/27/2010
J's Alley J's Alley
My wedding was basic. Vegas (if you are close enough, I highly recommend it). We didn't have everyone there (my best friend did though and her's was amazing). We got up on Dec. 26 and J said, get in the car we're getting married. Yup, he didn't have to tell me twice. We got there and I (who was preggo and hormonal) HAD to have a dress...I went and got a great dress and we called some places and on the 29th we were married. Afterward he took me to an expensive restaurant for a nice dinner.

We are planning a huge 10 year anniversary with vow renewals in a church and a big party after.
04/27/2010
Heather Heather
For us, perfect. His family wasn’t really thrilled but my husband and I couldn’t have been more thrilled with the whole day. I wanted a ceremony outside and didn’t care who officiated. My husband is a devout Catholic so there had to be a Priest and the church will not do a wedding outside. That was the only compromise either of us made. No invites to people we didn’t see on a regular basis, under 100 people invited and 98 people attended both the little chapel wedding and reception outside on a beautiful September day at a bed and breakfast/farm. There were tents with tables and a barn set up like a wine bar draped with grape vines. No standard flower arrangements all the same on every table. I went to antique shops, yard sales and open markets for large old pots for natural flower arrangements. No DJ, can’t stand a DJ wedding. My husband is a former drummer and his brother is a classical musician. We had a wonderful group of musicians playing string instruments. No first dance, no announcing the couple, no father-daughter dance and absolutely no seating arrangements. We invited adults and I fell you should be able to seat yourself. We did however break the bank on the best catered food I have ever had. The guy and staff were worth every dime.
This was as I said the perfect wedding for us, not my family and not his family but us. Keep that in mind and don’t allow yourself to get caught up in what you “should” do and not do. Too many people will tell you what you “should” do. Simply say, “I appreciate your thoughts”, and just do what you want to do. I remember fine details of the day because I decided not to make so much of the day, let it go and enjoy.
04/27/2010
El-Jaro El-Jaro
A ball pit at the reception would rock!

Of course, this thread brought up the topic with Cyn and I. We both realized we want about the same thing and really hate that we have to wait until she's done with school to do it.

DJ's: Waste of money nowadays. Sure, it helps to pay an under employed broadcasting grad to play music from their laptop...but I have PLENTY of music too. My sister actually did that for her wedding too (laptop w/mp3's)

We like the idea of a HUGE BBQ with a variety of meats auf dem Grill. NO VEGGIE TRAYS (fruit though). Bonfires (with s'mores). Alcohol. And, get this, Door Prizes! I've never heard of door prizes at a wedding, but I like it (everyone gets a free ticket and can buy more).
04/27/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by El-Jaro
A ball pit at the reception would rock!

Of course, this thread brought up the topic with Cyn and I. We both realized we want about the same thing and really hate that we have to wait until she's done with school to do it. ...
OMG I'd totally go to a wedding that offered door prizes! My Mom wanted to have a BBQ reception for me but couldn't get it past her skull that I WAS getting married, up until two hours after the ceremony she was still saying it wasn't going to happen. *virtual head shaking* Ah well your wedding sounds fun guys! Take lots of pics so we can all see!
04/27/2010
Jul!a Jul!a
Quote:
Originally posted by Sammi
We did it the easy way - married and honeymoon all in Vegas. The only downside was I never had a cake.
We're going to Vegas with friends later this year and since we already have a deposit down for a place we made them promise not to let us get really drunk and go anywhere near a chapel of love, lol
04/27/2010
Jul!a Jul!a
Quote:
Originally posted by El-Jaro
A ball pit at the reception would rock!

Of course, this thread brought up the topic with Cyn and I. We both realized we want about the same thing and really hate that we have to wait until she's done with school to do it. ...
If you're doing door prizes can I be invited? lol
04/27/2010
Dragon Dragon
Spend the time, and have the ceremony with your friends.

Your post did nothing but bring back memories for me. From the moment of taking all those pictures where I sat on the church steps and my mom said not to, and the photographer took a picture of me. The moment during "wedding party refreshments" before the ceremony that my dad jumped up and clicked his heels that was also caught on film.

The bridesmaids showed up wearing bras for a backless dress. All three of them.
We walked out to take pictures on the deck at sunset and my heel stuck in the deck - so firmly that I needed someone to release it.
My father in law asking to see my ring. He was the only one that did.
The toasts that were made when my father called the best man a "silver tongued devil" only to learn later that he practiced for four hours.

Take the memories...
04/27/2010
El-Jaro El-Jaro
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Originally posted by Jul!a
I'm in the process of planning mine and looking at what some other people have done just makes my head spin. Some of these are so elaborate and some are just so plain and simple. Honestly, if I didn't have my dress already, I would probably ...
I'm so glad you brought up this thread. It's proven to be a good start for Ms. C and I while we're waiting for the time.
04/27/2010
LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
You should absolutely do whatever it is that you want to do when you get married. Don't let the purchase of a dress stop you. Hell, a fancy dress doesn't mean you can't go down to city hall if that's where you want to get married.

My wedding involved immediate family only (plus my three best friends who technically crashed the wedding), we traveled down to Eureka Springs, AR (you can purchase a marriage license and get married the same day). We all stayed in a bed and breakfast there and we got married in a small chapel that had been built in the woods entirely out of glass. It was like being outside and was amazingly beautiful. It was simple, short with a simple dress and our parents as witnesses. Afterward we had a small cake and some sparkling grape juice (I was 5 months pregnant at the time) at the bed and breakfast and the hubs and I retired to the honeymoon suite.

I had recently been through a massive, stressful wedding planning process with each of the weddings of the aforementioned three best friends the previous year. Each of them said that if they had it to do over again, they would have gone my route rather than the giant productions their mothers had orchestrated.

I'm not saying the huge fantasy wedding or even moderate sized gathering is the wrong choice, but I am a strong believer in the idea that a wedding should reflect what the couple wants and not what anybody else expects them to do.
04/28/2010
Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
Our wedding was rather odd I suppose. No white dress nor stuffy tuxedo. We wrote our own vows, and took them on a city sidewalk in front of an old building (no not a courthouse) simply because it had massive stone gargoyles overhead. Reception was at a public park.
04/28/2010
Red Red
We went to a beach at the end of the world, link, which is on an island and down a significant dirt road. Very small, only closest family and friends present...and absolutely noone else. Not even a minister was invited - a friend did the ceremony.

And no white dress either. I had a corset and skirt made in this rich blazing saffron silk fabric I got from an Indian store I still get a lot of wear out of it.

Good times
04/28/2010
El-Jaro El-Jaro
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Originally posted by Red
We went to a beach at the end of the world, link, which is on an island and down a significant dirt road. Very small, only closest family and friends present...and absolutely noone else. Not even a minister was invited - a friend did the ...
that sounds awesome-sauce!
04/28/2010
Jul!a Jul!a
Quote:
Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
You should absolutely do whatever it is that you want to do when you get married. Don't let the purchase of a dress stop you. Hell, a fancy dress doesn't mean you can't go down to city hall if that's where you want to get ...
So far planning has been pretty good. I was getting overwhelmed when I first started looking at ideas because honestly, I'm still clueless as to what's supposed to get done, lol.

We have our ceremony/reception location booked, got a photographer and dj, and I just got all the bridesmaids and such to get their dresses. Now just planning smaller details.

So far I'm happy with it. I've made sure that first and foremost it's something that both he and I want, and I haven't let anybody else talk me into anything I don't want
04/29/2010
Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
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Originally posted by Red
We went to a beach at the end of the world, link, which is on an island and down a significant dirt road. Very small, only closest family and friends present...and absolutely noone else. Not even a minister was invited - a friend did the ...
That beach is gorgeous!
04/29/2010
Angel deSanguine Angel deSanguine
My wedding dress was a white strapless with red accents and a red corset back with red patent leather strappy heels, our party wore black tuxes with red vests & ties. both my husband and I come from military based families and are passionate about history so it only seemed fitting that we were married on a battlefield in front of a pyramid of cannonballs that was located in front of a HUGE tree. I have a good friend with a chopped 57 Chevy that just so happens to be in the exact shade of red as the red of my dress and shoes. Since we got married outdoors us girls hatched the plan that she would pull up to the end of the 'aisle' and Dad would open the door, I would step out and off down the aisle we'd go. No one knew except my soon- to -be hubby, her husband and the two of us. It went off flawlessly and people loved it (they talked about our wedding for six months afterwards!) We wanted semi-formal but we made it very much ours with things like that, our cake wasn't the traditional white (I made wedding cakes for years and can't stand white cake because of it) I wrote our vows. We had a memorial candle for those that are dear to us but have passed on, I wrote a sand ceremony instead of doing a unity candle and we were introduced at the reception to J-Pop instead of traditional music.

The most important thing is to capture what is important to you and let the rest go even if it's something that you're 'supposed' to do. Make sure you take a few minutes to just step back and take it all in- this is your and your husband's day, take a minute to enjoy it.
05/01/2010
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