I'm feeling sad today...

XYCopperheadSly XYCopperheadSly
I haven't been on here in quite a while. I intend to start writing reviews again, but life is just a bit much right now.

So I'm on "vacation" with some of my family members (it's not exactly the best trip I've been on....I keep a word document open on my laptop just for venting when my partners aren't available- neither of them are on this trip).

Anyway, I didn't want to go to Disneyland...like AT ALL. Even if it were free, I wouldn't have wanted to go, much less have someone pay for me to be miserable and me have to pretend that I want to be there because it would be rude otherwise.

Nevertheless, I was pushed into going. We were there for more than twelve hours (I spent most of the time trying to avoid sun exposure), and I ended up losing my wedding ring (which had belonged to my grandmother). Even though the "cast members" were all incredible nice and helpful, and seem to be diligently working to find it, I don't at all expect them to find it.

I'm incredibly sad and bitter now....I know it's messed up, but I just want to hear some sympathetic words from strangers. I feel too bitter towards my family members to find comfort in their words right now....
06/15/2013
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SourAppleMartini SourAppleMartini
I am so sorry about your wedding ring . Did you inform Disneyland? They must have a lost and found service. I know it is unlikely, but someone might find your ring later.
06/15/2013
Ms. N Ms. N
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Originally posted by XYCopperheadSly
I haven't been on here in quite a while. I intend to start writing reviews again, but life is just a bit much right now.

So I'm on "vacation" with some of my family members (it's not exactly the best trip I've been ... More
Hello, gorgeous! Not exactly a stranger, but I have been thinking of you this past week. I've missed seeing you around these parts!

I am sorry you had to go on a family trip you didn't want to go on. I know how that is. I hope someone will turn in your ring to the lost and found. If you have any pictures of it (or wearing it) on your computer, maybe you can email it to Disney so that they will know what to be looking for.
06/15/2013
SMichelle SMichelle
Just sending many hugs your way, hun.
06/15/2013
XYCopperheadSly XYCopperheadSly
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Originally posted by SourAppleMartini
I am so sorry about your wedding ring . Did you inform Disneyland? They must have a lost and found service. I know it is unlikely, but someone might find your ring later.
Yes. They were very nice and helpful and searched the train (where I think I probably lost it) and said they would look on the track the next day. I filed a report and they said they'd call me and send it to me if they found it...
06/15/2013
XYCopperheadSly XYCopperheadSly
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Originally posted by Ms. N
Hello, gorgeous! Not exactly a stranger, but I have been thinking of you this past week. I've missed seeing you around these parts!

I am sorry you had to go on a family trip you didn't want to go on. I know how that is. I hope ... More
I wanted to go on the trip because I'd never been to the west coast. It's just been a long trip and I'm wearing a bit thin.
06/15/2013
XYCopperheadSly XYCopperheadSly
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Originally posted by SMichelle
Just sending many hugs your way, hun.
Thank you
06/15/2013
sunkissedJess sunkissedJess
It's such a horrible feeling to lose something with such great sentimental value. I really hope that an honest person finds it, and that it gets returned to you.
06/15/2013
Ms. N Ms. N
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Originally posted by XYCopperheadSly
I wanted to go on the trip because I'd never been to the west coast. It's just been a long trip and I'm wearing a bit thin.
Oh, you're in California! I never get those Disneys straight...never been to either one (though I have been to Orlando twice). When do you head back home?
06/15/2013
bog bog
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Originally posted by XYCopperheadSly
I haven't been on here in quite a while. I intend to start writing reviews again, but life is just a bit much right now.

So I'm on "vacation" with some of my family members (it's not exactly the best trip I've been ... More
Sorry that you lost your wedding ring.
06/15/2013
Virgingasms Virgingasms
I'm so sorry you lost your wedding ring.
06/15/2013
alliegator alliegator
I'm sorry about your ring and I hope someone finds it. I think we've all been on "vacations" that are anything but relaxing. Lots of family all concentrated together for extended periods of time can be like a pressure cooker making every little thing more annoying. Especially at a theme park in June! Hopefully you can get some time to yourself to unwind, like slip away to a coffee shop for a couple hours.
06/15/2013
LoveX LoveX
Well, I don't know you at all, but I have to say- you did better than I would have. I have a hard time playing it off like I want to be somewhere that I really don't.

You made it through, and it's over now. Hopefully someone honest finds your ring, and you end up getting it back. I would probably have a melt down if I lost mine, it's been passed down too.
06/15/2013
Fluke Fluke
Man, I despise family vacations too. I don't even go on vacations at all anymore.

I remember one time I came back and the airline "misplaced" my bag and I'm like in a plane of 200 people how did only my bag get lost what the hell. Sometimes I wonder why is life doing this to me and not everyone else. I think it took them 2 weeks for them to call me and find it, hate airlines.

Losing a sentimental ring while sad is definitely not the worst thing that could have happened. I suggest busying your mind with something else for a few days to get your mind off of it.
06/16/2013
Zombirella Zombirella
I'm sorry you lost your ring . If it helps even a tiny bit, I lost my engagement ring during a fight with my fiance. We never found it and he had to get another. I felt like shit for the longest time. I hope someone finds it for you!
06/16/2013
XYCopperheadSly XYCopperheadSly
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Originally posted by Ms. N
Oh, you're in California! I never get those Disneys straight...never been to either one (though I have been to Orlando twice). When do you head back home?
I go back home Monday.
06/16/2013
XYCopperheadSly XYCopperheadSly
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Originally posted by LoveX
Well, I don't know you at all, but I have to say- you did better than I would have. I have a hard time playing it off like I want to be somewhere that I really don't.

You made it through, and it's over now. Hopefully someone ... More
One of the "cast members" stopped to help me because I was crying. He was super nice.
06/16/2013
XYCopperheadSly XYCopperheadSly
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Originally posted by Fluke
Man, I despise family vacations too. I don't even go on vacations at all anymore.

I remember one time I came back and the airline "misplaced" my bag and I'm like in a plane of 200 people how did only my bag get lost what the ... More
^ why I only take carry on bags
06/16/2013
Lildrummrgurl7 Lildrummrgurl7
Oh gosh! I would be a mess if I lost my engagement ring since it was my moms wedding ring. I can't even imagine losing a ring of my grandmas. Hopefully they do find it!
06/16/2013
kendra30752 kendra30752
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Originally posted by XYCopperheadSly
I haven't been on here in quite a while. I intend to start writing reviews again, but life is just a bit much right now.

So I'm on "vacation" with some of my family members (it's not exactly the best trip I've been ... More
Aw. Wow. That's sad that your vacation isn't really what a vacation should be -- loads of fun and relaxation. I'm really sorry!

Hey, I don't blame ya for not wanting to go to Disney Land! I'm the same way. Funny, my sister and I were just talking the other night about how we weren't ever into Disney Land. I'm more of a Sea World or Gulf World girl myself! Bless your heart! It sounds miserable & I am sorry you lost your ring. That's no fun. I hope you do end up getting it back. You have the "cast members" looking for you? Maybe they will find it. Give them your address at home just in case, that way they can mail it to ya! Also, you could give them your hotel address just in case they do find it and are kind enough to return it.

Yikes. Your situation sounds really similar to one I had during a family vacation. Didn't want to go to their outing, even if they did agree to pay
& was treated badly by some of the members who attended with us. I hate that for you. TWELVE hours?! I am so sorry. I couldn't handle that well either. That's a really long time, especially to have to be somewhere like Disney Land. . . well, unless you are 10 & then 12 hours at DL is probably heaven. Lol. But I totally understand. I would NOT want to be there, especially for 12 blasted hours. Lol I too would be feeling bitter and really, really down.

I understand about life being a little much. We all have those periods in our lives where we're simply overwhelmed, busy as heck or so stressed we can't think straight. I happen to be right there alongside ya with those, so I too haven't been as active with my EF friends as I'd like. I'm trying. Slowly but surely.

Anyways, I hope the vacation gets better for you & you end up having a good time afterall. I wish there was something that could be said to make it better, but I understand there are situations where nothing helps. A couple years ago, on our yearly Panama trip, my partner lost his entire wallet. It was like a huge ruiner for our entire trip. Thankfully, the family was staying too, and in the same motel so my parents loaned us the money to get back home. It completely F**&^$# sucks when your vacation gets ruined & you end up depressed the entire time.

Vacations can be stressful & especially when you're in a situation like yours where you're having a terrible time & lost something so valuable to you & then you're trying to not ruin everyone else's time on top of it while also feeling obligated to do things you don't want to with the family. Sometimes, after a night of sleeping, you wake up feeling a lot better. You may have a nice mood change & feel better. Is there anyone there along with you that you're really close to? Someone you can be yourself with and share how you really feel with? If so, that helps so much.

Is there something in the area that you would like to do? Maybe going and doing something you enjoy (say Gulf World, for example) alone or with one or two of the people with ya'll and enjoying yourselves for a little while, maybe sharing some of what you've been feeling & then go back to join the rest of the fam. I've did this plenty of times with my spouse & sisters. We have my sisters' kids all the time -- they live with us, and when we go on vacation, their parents usually tag along & so when we're there, we want our alone time. We have the kids at home, so when it's vacation time, we want their parents to spend time with them & take them to damn kid places while we go and spend a little alone time. Then, we often join the rest of the family later. It's nice because when I get overwhelmed, I can just have some alone time with him or my mom or one of my sisters too & we can talk, then have our own little fun & go back. It helps de-stress.

Everyone wants to enjoy their vacation & you deserve to get that too. I hope you have someone there who you can really open up to & begin to have somewhat of a good time. I know it's hard to have a good time when you have lost something so important to you.

Well, best wishes. I hope you get your ring back!! I also hope things get nicer for you while you're on your vacation.
06/16/2013
FieryRed FieryRed
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Originally posted by XYCopperheadSly
I haven't been on here in quite a while. I intend to start writing reviews again, but life is just a bit much right now.

So I'm on "vacation" with some of my family members (it's not exactly the best trip I've been ... More
Oh no...that's really awful, hon. I'm so sorry to hear that. A while back, maybe a week after my partner accepted my proposal and my mother's wedding band, and gave me her class ring in exchange (as it was unexpected, and that was all she had that was gold), I lost her ring! I thought I'd lost it in a bar, as I remembered taking it off to wash my hands, and thought I'd put it in my pocket, but it wasn't in my pants, and the bar didn't find it either. I felt so terrible. A couple of months later, when I was tearing the house apart looking for a missing bird, I found the ring under the clothes hamper.

I really hope your grandmother's ring turns up! If it doesn't, try to make the best of it and create a new memory with a ring of your own.
06/16/2013
Dolphin Lady Dolphin Lady
Sorry you lost your wedding ring. I hope you find it soon.
06/16/2013
XYCopperheadSly XYCopperheadSly
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Originally posted by kendra30752
Aw. Wow. That's sad that your vacation isn't really what a vacation should be -- loads of fun and relaxation. I'm really sorry!

Hey, I don't blame ya for not wanting to go to Disney Land! I'm the same way. Funny, my ... More
"Vacations can be stressful & especially when you're in a situation like yours where you're having a terrible time & lost something so valuable to you & then you're trying to not ruin everyone else's time on top of it while also feeling obligated to do things you don't want to with the family."

This was just the whole damn vacation summed up. I honestly only went because of my love of going places I've never been. The promise of visiting four states I've never been to was too alluring for me to deny. And, no, I was traveling with nobody I could be open with. Not even close.

I'm home now, fortunately, and I'm overjoyed to be back home with my partners. I did fill out a report, and they'll send the ring back if someone returns it, but I don't have much hope of that happening. The ring was precious to me, but it was still "only" an object, and there's no better reminder of what's really important than coming home to my husband and the one I love without having been ceremoniously bound.
06/20/2013
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