I realize the answer is pretty much "it depends on me, him, how the relationship ended." I don't want to burden the internet with tales of my past, so ... just answer for you. Would you open an email with that title?
If an ex-boy/girlfriend sent you an email with "You'll probably never read this." as the subject line, would you read it?
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It sounds kind of passive-aggressive to me.
I might change my mind and open it in a few days... but for now it's getting marked as read.
I might change my mind and open it in a few days... but for now it's getting marked as read.
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First I would check to see if it was spam. Then I would read it if it wasn't. I'm a person that likes to read things because I never know when it might be my last time to reply, etc.
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I probably wouldn't open it, especially if I was over the ex. But yeah, it would also depend on how the relationship ended and once I'm over an ex, I don't want them back, so I'd be suspicious as to what they want. I'm highly suspicious about everything though....lol.
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I would read it not sure id write back though.
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I'm a really curious person so I'd open it but most likely wouldn't respond.
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If he needed to tell you something, he'd call.
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I've gotten that email before. I read it, didn't reply, and deleted it. It was followed by snail mail letters, cards, and a chocolate cake - yes, a chocolate cake (I did not eat it). I never responded, and eventually, he quit, thank goodness.
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The title of the e-mail definitely does sound passive aggressive. If you can resist satisfying your curiosity, minor though it may be, then kudos to you. I voted that I'd probably read it (despite myself) because I am insanely curious, and it would eat at me until I did. Unless there was some compelling reason to respond (compelling in that it would spread positivity--which I doubt, given the title of the e-mail), I very seriously doubt I'd respond. I don't like to be manipulated and would feel annoyed the minute an e-mail so manipulatively and cryptically titled landed in my in-box--let alone the fact that I allowed myself to be manipulated enough to read it, LOL! If you don't want to end up reading it, I suggest deleting it a.s.a.p. and then deleting it from your trash file before you cave in a weak moment to read it.
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I am horrible, and I would read it. I have this incessant need to know everything about everything, and I usually can't let stuff like that go. The only way it would go unread is if I were able to delete it right off the bat, and then delete it from my trash so that I couldn't change my mind later on. I'm also somewhat guilty of having sent one or two emails like that. Not necessarily to exes, but I know I've sent out at least one.
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I'll read it and delete it immediately, I don't like any further contact with my exs once we're through.
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An ex is an ex for a reason. While I've remained friends with two of my exes, if I've gotten an email with that title from my first ex I wouldn't read it. What he did to break up with me was so childish.
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Im always curious, Id probably read it. But wouldnt answer.
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Unless things ended really really badly, I'd open it. I would open the email to prove to myself that he is unimportant and is unable to harm me...
Originally posted by
Antipova
It sounds kind of passive-aggressive to me.
I might change my mind and open it in a few days... but for now it's getting marked as read.
I might change my mind and open it in a few days... but for now it's getting marked as read.
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Same here
Originally posted by
LilLostLenore
I would read it not sure id write back though.
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I've remained friends with most of my exes (all of them except the two with strict "I never speak with my exes" policies, and one whose current girlfriend doesn't like him to talk with exes)... but most of them communicate in a friendly way, not in a passive-aggressive way.
Originally posted by
Vanille
An ex is an ex for a reason. While I've remained friends with two of my exes, if I've gotten an email with that title from my first ex I wouldn't read it. What he did to break up with me was so childish.
I've even talked with this fellow occasionally, with no bad blood that I could sense..?
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I would have to read it because its just like with kids you tell them not to do something and they do the opposite so when i would see something that says you will probably never read this,,then id go for it without care of whats inside!
Originally posted by
Antipova
I realize the answer is pretty much "it depends on me, him, how the relationship ended." I don't want to burden the internet with tales of my past, so ... just answer for you. Would you open an email with that title?
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I think I'd probably end up reading it.
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I would read it, make up my mind upon whether to answer it based on contents and let it go. At least I would feel like I made an informed decision.
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Probably read, but might not reply
Originally posted by
Antipova
I realize the answer is pretty much "it depends on me, him, how the relationship ended." I don't want to burden the internet with tales of my past, so ... just answer for you. Would you open an email with that title?
12/29/2011
I'd open it because I'd be curious.. I wouldn't reply though
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It would be hard for me not to read it, because I'm a curious person, but I would delete it. My ex has sent me texts, which I have to open because that's how my phone works, so I know he is still interested in me. So that is what the email would most likely be about. But I have a boyfriend and that relationship ended badly, so I just ignore him.
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I would read it because I would want to know what it said. There is no way I would respond tho. I'm in a very happy relationship
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I would be way too curious to NOT read it, but I most likely wouldn't reply.
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I wouldn't read it or respond.
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Nope, I'd just delete it. That seems like a super passive aggressive opening, so I wouldn't waste my time with it. If it was dire, it should make some note of it in the label.
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Curiosity would get the best of me and I'd definitely read it...but at the same time, going in, I'd probably know I'd end up regretting it. But could I stop myself? No way.
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I would read it and depending on what it said I might respond, but probably wouldn't. By the sound of the subject it almost seems like they might not want a response or not be expecting one. It could always be the other way around and he/she is trying to guilt you into reading it. Knowing that, with my past relationships I'd probably read and delete. I have no want or care to get with any exes of mine because I am thrilled at where I am. Any "confession" or whatever would really seem cathartic to me.
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I'd only "probably answer" because my mom still talks to my ex-fiance all the time. I think it's weird, but whatevs.
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I'd read it, but depending on the contents, I might or might not reply.
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