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I voted yes and other. Yes I want the forum to continue but can the bitching stop. That wasn't meant to be an insult to people but honest. I used the forum to select new toys to learn from people I called friends. Most of those friends are
I voted yes and other. Yes I want the forum to continue but can the bitching stop. That wasn't meant to be an insult to people but honest. I used the forum to select new toys to learn from people I called friends. Most of those friends are gone because of all the shit EF pulled, but it happened nearly a year ago and I'd like to think that those of us that stayed can move on and support a new group. Am I ever going to be as active as I was a year ago NO probably not, but that's on EF not me. I can honestly say that if the forum became a learning and teaching tool again I could totally see myself logging on more often but every post I open has someone complaining that they want the old EF back. THAT'S NOT GOING TO HAPPEN GET OVER IT! So yes I want the forum to stay but I wanted it to be used for what it's intended purposes were and not for a bitch fest
I think most of us have similar sentiments as you, indiechick. Though, I might have missed all this bitching, because I haven't seen it. However, I am not on the forum as much, so it's possible I've simply missed it (you'll realize why later on). I don't think it's productive and yes, it does get annoying to hear constant complaining from those who should have dealt with this by now and realized, after almost a year, that things won't ever go back to how they used to be.
But I always try to remember that there are always newly returning members to whom everything is a shock. They are reacting as we all did when it was fresh, so I try to give them their time to process, just as it took us to process when it happened. With so many threads removed and lingering posted info from before the changes, not to mention little posted new rules and such, I think it's difficult for unfamiliar people to wade through and figure out what it was that happened and how things are now - what they can and can't do, etc.
I do think one of the unfortunate things about the way things used to be on the forum was that some new members felt judged and pounced on by longer-time members who were impatient with their questions and attempted to control what should be talked about by dismissing and sometimes belittling them. I felt this way and being dismissed or attacked is only going to drive away people. We don't own the forum. So, while I don't take issue with your pointing out your frustration, I also try not to get frustrated with others talking about things I might not like. So, I try to practice avoiding topics and people who I know will annoy me!
I figure if we don't feed the trolls, they will starve and go off in search of greener pastures, lol!
@Edeneve, I don't think you sounded at all like you were bitching! besides, if it bothered me, I'd have just not replied