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Contributor: RememberMe RememberMe 11/24/2012

Introvert vs. Extrovert: what do you prefer in a partner? Why?

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Introvert vs. Extrovert: what do you prefer in a partner? (59 posts)
Contributor: RememberMe RememberMe
Introvert vs. Extrovert: what do you prefer in a partner? Why?
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GirlOnGirl , llellsee , rosythorn , solitudinarian , - Kira - , SecretKinksters , kitty1949 , Supervixen , LavenderSkies , AliMc , melissa1973 , Master DarkWolf , DreamWolf , neil i. , invisiblehat , MissCandyland , puglove , Falsepast , ElizaFetishx , AishiteruYO , tortilla , peachmarie , Real or memorex , ghalik , Trysexual , TheirPet , SexyWalrus , atryonix , Bleu , Pururin , Lildrummrgurl7 , chicmichiw
32  (43%)
sXeVegan90 , Terri69 , minstrel69 , Gracie , Rod Ronald , Bignuf , sweetpea12 , Bethy Cassatt , malantha , satinlady550 , RonLee , hhh , apryls , ViVix , amplified to rock , edeneve , The Mother of a SiNner , sexxxkitten , Thomas90 , Kat and Aaron(aaron) , js250 , Incendiaire , h3artsav3r , SiNn , JennSenn , Stinkytofu10 , xOhxSoxScandalousx , gsfanatic , GONE! , Creepellah , mpfm , Geogeo , Cat E. , Chilipepper , Kirill1171 , jfree , dv8 , Deeder , potstickers , Anne , Tangles , ARPKasso
42  (57%)
Total votes: 74
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11/24/2012
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Contributor: sXeVegan90 sXeVegan90
My girlfriend is a mix of both, and honestly if she were one or the other I don't think our relationship would last. I love her introverted ways just as much as her extroverted.
11/24/2012
Contributor: Terri69 Terri69
Extrovet
11/24/2012
Contributor: GirlOnGirl GirlOnGirl
A little more introverted
11/24/2012
Contributor: minstrel69 minstrel69
Definitely extrovert
11/24/2012
Contributor: llellsee llellsee
Introvert, I seem to get on better with other introverts.
11/24/2012
Contributor: rosythorn rosythorn
I used to like extroverts, but my tastes have changed. My boyfriend is an introvert, and sometimes it gets annoying but it also means he doesn't mind if I go out on girl's nights! As he is fine by himself at home.
11/24/2012
Contributor: Gracie Gracie
Every guy I have dated has been far more extroverted than I. I think I would like a fellow introvert, but it never turns out that way.
11/24/2012
Contributor: Taylor Taylor
I've dated both, and they are both good in different ways. I think I do slightly prefer a fellow introvert though
11/24/2012
Contributor: Rod Ronald Rod Ronald
I would just like a person who isn't shitty. Know anybody like that?
11/24/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by RememberMe
Introvert vs. Extrovert: what do you prefer in a partner? Why?
We both share qualities of each of these, in different settings. I am, actually, by nature, shy. However, I get up and do lectures in front of 500 people, and have no issues with it. Hubby has some of those same features. People who meet him would call him "extroverted", but he far more enjoys being with me, alone, and spending time doing "quiet" things, then working the room at a large party..although he will, and does, do that often. He gives lectures in many different countries on his area of expertise, and yet he always gets a slight gut ache from anxiety because he does not like "large groups", but once you get him up there...he is amazing. He says hello and is "friends" to all the staff in a store or restaurant, but he is quiet with anything personal, unless around very good friends.

Thus, introvert or extrovert are really not so clearly or easily defined.
11/24/2012
Contributor: sweetpea12 sweetpea12
Quote:
Originally posted by RememberMe
Introvert vs. Extrovert: what do you prefer in a partner? Why?
I like a mix of both, but if I had to choose... it would be extrovert because I'm an introvert
11/24/2012
Contributor: Bethy Cassatt Bethy Cassatt
There's two sides to my guy-- a very private side, and yet, he's so energetic with others. It's very nice.
11/24/2012
Contributor: malantha malantha
Quote:
Originally posted by RememberMe
Introvert vs. Extrovert: what do you prefer in a partner? Why?
As an introvert myself, it is nice to have a boyfriend who is an extrovert
11/24/2012
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
Honestly, somewhere in the middle of the two would be best.
11/24/2012
Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
I prefer in the middle. Too extroverted won't deal well with my social anxiety. Too introverted means neither of us will ever leave the house.
11/24/2012
Contributor: satinlady550 satinlady550
Quote:
Originally posted by RememberMe
Introvert vs. Extrovert: what do you prefer in a partner? Why?
My partner is a mix of both
11/24/2012
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
In a partner, I like aspects of both but a little more emphasis on the extrovert.
I'd guess that's how I present as well... well maybe I'm a lot more extrovert, actually.
When I was a kid I was very shy. I've really worked at overcoming that. Some might say that I worked too hard at it... LOL!
11/24/2012
Contributor: apryls apryls
Quote:
Originally posted by RememberMe
Introvert vs. Extrovert: what do you prefer in a partner? Why?
I'm an extrovert, but my hubby is an introvert
11/24/2012
Contributor: SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
I prefer more in the middle but leaning more towards an introvert.
11/24/2012
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by RememberMe
Introvert vs. Extrovert: what do you prefer in a partner? Why?
A mix is a must, but more extro than intro.
11/24/2012
Contributor: amplified to rock amplified to rock
I prefer having an extrovert for a partner, since I'm pretty introverted. I like having a social buffer around
11/24/2012
Contributor: edeneve edeneve
I've had both types of partners & find the extroverts to be more fun.
11/24/2012
Contributor: The Mother of a SiNner The Mother of a SiNner
Quote:
Originally posted by RememberMe
Introvert vs. Extrovert: what do you prefer in a partner? Why?
the extrovert
11/24/2012
Contributor: sexxxkitten sexxxkitten
A little more extrovert.
11/24/2012
Contributor: Supervixen Supervixen
I connect better with fellow introverts.
11/24/2012
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
Quote:
Originally posted by - Kira -
I prefer in the middle. Too extroverted won't deal well with my social anxiety. Too introverted means neither of us will ever leave the house.
Yep, in the middle is the most ideal. Mine's a bit more on the introvert side.
11/24/2012
Contributor: AliMc AliMc
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Originally posted by llellsee
Introvert, I seem to get on better with other introverts.
My reasoning too.
11/24/2012
Contributor: TWE112 TWE112
I have to go with introverts
11/24/2012
Contributor: TWE112 TWE112
I have to go with introverts
11/24/2012
Contributor: TWE112 TWE112
I have to go with introverts
11/24/2012
Contributor: Master DarkWolf Master DarkWolf
My Baby is very introverted, and I love that in her of course, wouldn't want her to change that ever...
11/24/2012
Contributor: DreamWolf DreamWolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Master DarkWolf
My Baby is very introverted, and I love that in her of course, wouldn't want her to change that ever...
My OnlyMaster too, and I love that so much in Him, just like all qualities of His of course!!! ^^
11/24/2012
Contributor: neil i. neil i.
Prefer an introvert.
11/24/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
I wish he was more extroverted....but it is okay.
11/24/2012
Contributor: Incendiaire Incendiaire
Slightly extroverted. I tend to be the quiet one so I like a guy who can fill the opposing side.
11/24/2012
Contributor: SiNn SiNn
Quote:
Originally posted by RememberMe
Introvert vs. Extrovert: what do you prefer in a partner? Why?
a little of both honestly
11/24/2012
Contributor: JennSenn JennSenn
They need to be more extroverted than me or we'd probably never end up dating! XD But that may change eventually. And a mix is best.
11/25/2012
Contributor: invisiblehat invisiblehat
Introvert. I don't know, I get along better with them.
11/25/2012
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
I get along better with introverts also.
11/25/2012
Contributor: Falsepast Falsepast
I'd say introvert
11/25/2012
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Quote:
Originally posted by RememberMe
Introvert vs. Extrovert: what do you prefer in a partner? Why?
Extrovert
11/25/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
Slight to moderate extrovert. It's good to have someone to encourage me to try things, but there are days when I don't want to go out and be crazy
11/25/2012
Contributor: peachmarie peachmarie
I think I'm a mix of both but mostly an introvert, example: It bums me out that women my age at my work and I don't click, they go out for margaritas and dinner, then i think..I'd rather go home and watch tv, knit, read a book, take a nap, or play a video game and just generally not have to wear pants( I hate pants)then I become less sad that I don't get on with my female co workers LOL. That's why I enjoy my boyfriend, we aren't constantly going out and doing stuff with others like going to bars or partying (how exhausting) I enjoy excursions but large groups of people make me anxious and I like being by myself or with one or two friends at the most. I generally respond and open up to people who approach or peruse me, I'd never be the person to go up to a guy or girl in a bar and start chatting/flirting lol I'm far too shy.
11/25/2012
Contributor: Real or memorex Real or memorex
I need time to decompress and time alone, so introverts are the best match for me.
11/25/2012
Contributor: Geogeo Geogeo
Quote:
Originally posted by RememberMe
Introvert vs. Extrovert: what do you prefer in a partner? Why?
extrovert so im forced to not be a hermit
11/27/2012
Contributor: Cat E. Cat E.
Extrovert.
11/27/2012
Contributor: Trysexual Trysexual
Hmmm not sure..I might lean to introvert, since I am one too, but it's not a deal breaker, unless she is hyper dependent on being around other people every second.
11/27/2012
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
An educated extrovert - like my boyfriend, who understands that crowds drain my energy even though he recharges during them, and doesn't believe there's anything wrong with me because I'm like that. He also takes over a lot of the interactions and introduces ideas of what to do, which I appreciate, as I'm rather lost on such things and usually end up staying home and knitting. We've spent some evenings in and watching Netflix, but we've also gone out to the fair or watched a stage production.

Contrary to popular belief, introverts are not shy - crowds drain their energy is all. (Extroverts get energized from being in them.) I usually require a week or so to recover after being at a weekend-long convention. Parties take me three days to recover from. Instructors have been shocked to find out I'm an introvert because I give great presentations and have performed before crowds of hundreds.
11/27/2012
Contributor: Kirill1171 Kirill1171
Extrovert
11/27/2012
Contributor: jfree jfree
i'm a mix of both with a lean on the introvert side, but i like an extrovert who can get me out of the house to socialize and deal w/ being awkward/some mild social anxiety.
11/27/2012
Contributor: TheirPet TheirPet
I don't prefer anything per se but I picked introvert cause my partner is one.
11/27/2012
Contributor: Danneh Danneh
Introvert probably
11/30/2012
Contributor: Deeder Deeder
Extrovert. I'm too much of an introvert on my own, and with another one I get the feeling that nothing would ever happen.
11/30/2012
Contributor: Anne Anne
i prefer an extrovert. it equals me out.
12/17/2012
Contributor: Voir Voir
I'm both depending on the situation so I don't particularly care - it just depends on how well they can communicate with me. It's not really my business how they communicate with others unless it's extremely negative or could cause problems.
12/17/2012
Contributor: Bleu Bleu
My boyfriend was an introvert when we first started talking, he has come out of his shell a quite a bit. I love being the one to "awaken" his personality.
12/27/2012
Contributor: Pururin Pururin
A little of both. I tend to get along with introverts better, since I'm an introvert myself. But I also like people who aren't afraid to stand up for themselves. I like extroverts in the bedroom though.
12/27/2012
Contributor: Tangles Tangles
I am an introvert, so I think I would like an extrovert to balance me out.
12/27/2012