Do you appreciate the small things? The door being help open and chairs pulled out for you, or do you think in this day in age, it should be a back and forth thing. You hold this door, he holds the next?
I think it depends. I don't think that the man should have to make all of the small motions like pulling out the chairs and holding all the doors, but it's nice to get it sometimes. That being said, I do appreciate when my husband gets the door for me, and pulls out my chair, and does all of those little things. But it's usually when we're on a date, which doesn't bother me.
The only time I really realize the outdated chivalry thing is when my significant other makes a deal when I open up the car passengers door on my own (its more of less a joke and competition between us) as for door opening I think if you see someone coming or going while you are opening the door its just common curtsy to keep it open while they go through it.
I think its not completely dead just re-evaluated. Personally I prefer for the opening of doors to go both ways but as for car doors or chairs I'm perfectly able bodied and can do those things on my own so I don't see why someone else should feel obligated to do it for me.
I hope it's dead in the sense that a man has to do certain things for a woman. Women are perfectly able to take care of themselves, and yet, it's still nice to have things done for you, regardless of sex. While I think that chivalry is dead, I don't think that being nice to one another has yet died off.