Is it possible to love someone too much?

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Is it possible to love someone too much?

markeagleone markeagleone
Ok, I was thinking of how I feel about my wife. I pose this question in the aspect that everything is going fine. Your remarks will be most helpful!
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes, you can love someone too much
26  (52%)
No, you can't love too much
19  (38%)
Never thought of it before
5  (10%)
Total votes: 50
Poll is closed
03/06/2011
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Waterfall Waterfall
I think that it is never an issue to love someone too much unless it is causing a serious mental or physical problem for someone.
03/06/2011
DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
Definitely. Loving someone, when that relationship is detrimental to YOUR well being means you love them too much.

It stops being love and starts being codependence.
03/06/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I don't think it happens a lot - but anything that can be done - can be overdone. Your love and life will be better if you have the ability to be happy and enjoy life without your partner having to be involved at every turn.
03/06/2011
Eden C. Eden C.
Not if the relationship is healthy. However, I was in an abusive relationship previously, and I definitely loved her too much because I basically let her destroy me.
03/06/2011
potstickers potstickers
Quote:
Originally posted by Eden C.
Not if the relationship is healthy. However, I was in an abusive relationship previously, and I definitely loved her too much because I basically let her destroy me.
I agree. Loving someone a lot is one thing but becoming blind due to obsession is another.
03/06/2011
Lucidity Lucidity
Quote:
Originally posted by potstickers
I agree. Loving someone a lot is one thing but becoming blind due to obsession is another.
The line between love and obsession can be a fine one.
03/07/2011
Naughty Student Naughty Student
I don't see it as loving someone too much but as loving in an unhealthy way.

I love my guy VERY VERY much, BUT I know when to back off, when to give him some loose and when he needs me to cuddle with.

I once was in a relationship with a guy and it turned bad bcs I was totally head over heals in love with him and had my whole future mapped out even if we had only been together for 2 months! I was really obsessed. I became jealous of every girl he spoke to and he was very immature and irresponsive to my needs as his girlfriend....I didn't love him TOO MUCH, I just loved him in an UNHEALTHY WAY!

We left each other after 3 months (thank god it didn't last any longer).
03/07/2011
Eden C. Eden C.
Quote:
Originally posted by Naughty Student
I don't see it as loving someone too much but as loving in an unhealthy way.

I love my guy VERY VERY much, BUT I know when to back off, when to give him some loose and when he needs me to cuddle with.

I once was in a relationship ...
I totally agree with you!
03/07/2011
Shellz31 Shellz31
There's also loving someone too much who doesn't feel the same back.
03/07/2011
Valentinka Valentinka
I was seriously thinking about it like a year ago and my psychologist advised me to read one book. Translated into English it would be called "Love and other human relationships". An author there is strictly differentiating love from other forms of affection like dependence, obsession etc. So, I think, you cannot LOVE too much, but you can be - for instance - OBSESSED too much.
03/07/2011
Dusk Dusk
I loved my ex so much that I overlooked the fact that he was abusing me.

That was too much.
03/07/2011
Beaners Beaners
I'm with Shellz. When it's an unhealthy situation it's too much. I stayed with my ex when he was cheating on me for a year because I loved him so much. Ugh.
03/07/2011
*HisMrs* *HisMrs*
Quote:
Originally posted by Waterfall
I think that it is never an issue to love someone too much unless it is causing a serious mental or physical problem for someone.
I agree!
03/07/2011
tigerkate tigerkate
I don't feel like you CAN love someone too much, if you are actually being healthy in your love for them. I mean, there's nothing wrong with loving someone a WHOLE lot if you have proper boundaries, good communication, and a mutual love back.
03/07/2011
markeagleone markeagleone
Thank you all for your comments. I don't believe you can love someone too much, but it does walk a fine line with obsession. It is nice to see that you all know that line,but as some of you have said,love can be hurtful when the wrong person is on the receiving end.
03/09/2011
Valentinka Valentinka
Quote:
Originally posted by markeagleone
Thank you all for your comments. I don't believe you can love someone too much, but it does walk a fine line with obsession. It is nice to see that you all know that line,but as some of you have said,love can be hurtful when the wrong person is ...
That's for sure! And once you had some bad experience you begin to be afraid of giving your love to a wrong person again. I know this feeling very well. Although, my man has always reassured me in the way, which was difficult for me to understand fully, but still: even if the receiving person may turn out to be not worth it, you should be proud of yourself for all the pure sincere feelings you'd given him/her. Like...yes, it may be painful in the end, but you are developing through it, you are great anyway. Difficult to get when you are the one in pain, but makes sense in some way
03/09/2011
sexyintexas sexyintexas
Quote:
Originally posted by markeagleone
Ok, I was thinking of how I feel about my wife. I pose this question in the aspect that everything is going fine. Your remarks will be most helpful!
Yes, you can love someone so much that you lose sight of yourself.
03/09/2011
liilii080 liilii080
I believe you can but I think that kind of love tends to be unrequited. I think it happens more when you a pining away for someone who does not feel the same. It is easy to over love an idea of someone but the imperfections of everyday life keep you in check when you are in a real, romantic relationship.
03/09/2011
lezergirl lezergirl
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Originally posted by liilii080
I believe you can but I think that kind of love tends to be unrequited. I think it happens more when you a pining away for someone who does not feel the same. It is easy to over love an idea of someone but the imperfections of everyday life keep ...
Right on.
03/10/2011
PiratePrincess PiratePrincess
Obsession is not love, but when it is labeled as love, there tend to be problems and it becomes too much. If love is healthy and grows naturally, love is not too much, but if it is artificial love based on a need to please or receive attention than it is very easily for someone to misjudge their own emotions and the situation and love too much.
03/10/2011
Mommy2 Mommy2
I dont think you can love someone to much
04/09/2011
Brandi Rouxxx Brandi Rouxxx
I think I love my husband too much... if only y'all knew...
04/09/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by markeagleone
Ok, I was thinking of how I feel about my wife. I pose this question in the aspect that everything is going fine. Your remarks will be most helpful!
Only if they don't love you back. If the two of you are in love, then no. You can't love them too much.

Or, if you stop caring about yourself completely. Even in power dynamic relationships, the Bottom or sub still needs to take care of her/his emotional/physical/psy chological needs.
04/09/2011
sexyk515 sexyk515
yes you can and its not good
04/09/2011
Rhinobaby Rhinobaby
Quote:
Originally posted by markeagleone
Ok, I was thinking of how I feel about my wife. I pose this question in the aspect that everything is going fine. Your remarks will be most helpful!
It's what you do with that love.
12/07/2011
ToyGurl ToyGurl
You can never love someone too much If they're hurting you then it's a different thing.
12/07/2011
Eliza Eliza
Quote:
Originally posted by Eden C.
Not if the relationship is healthy. However, I was in an abusive relationship previously, and I definitely loved her too much because I basically let her destroy me.
My thoughts exactly.
12/07/2011
Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
You can never love someone TOO much, the only limit are perhaps practical ones, such as unrequited love - as it may drive you crazy or deeply depressed if the love is a one-way street.
12/07/2011
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Unique posters: 26