Is sex that important?

usmcwife99 usmcwife99
Simple question is sex needed to keep a relationship going.

I use to think it was normal but now after being in a war having a phisically disabled husband(and I love him for it) and having kids to take care of I ask myself, How imprtant is sex.
06/29/2011
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iveversxe iveversxe
How important sex is varies in all relationships, so it's really up to you and your partner to make that decision.

For me, it's pretty damn important. I have a high sex drive and enjoy having frequent, great sex. But, I can always get around that by watching porn, using toys, and getting myself off.
06/29/2011
Ansley Ansley
In my relationship it is. I wouldn't leave my husband if there was a physical disability standing in the way.
06/29/2011
salaciousrex salaciousrex
Overall it depends on the couple.
I personally think can make a relationship better or worse, but you don't NEED sex to have a good relationship. If me or my guy couldn't have sex anymore, I would still love him and want to be with him.
We've talked about it before though, and he says sex is very important and he'd be unhappy if we stopped or couldn't have sex anymore. I'm pretty sure we'd eventually break up if we stopped because of his view on it..
06/29/2011
usmcwife99 usmcwife99
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Originally posted by iveversxe
How important sex is varies in all relationships, so it's really up to you and your partner to make that decision.

For me, it's pretty damn important. I have a high sex drive and enjoy having frequent, great sex. But, I can always get ... More
Thats what I use to think, I mean I had a high sex drive and still do but just dont do it......cause theres always the kids or my husband isnt up for it or something like that.
06/29/2011
indiglo indiglo
I definitely think it depends on the people and the relationship. Especially in your situation, I think I would just be happy to have him back with me. When you are already well into the relationship and love the person, and there is a drastic change in physical ability, that makes a big difference than just starting to date someone who has a different sex drive than you, you know? There are a lot of ways to please each other besides just PIV sex, so I think just getting creative and keeping the communication going is important.
06/29/2011
newfoundlust newfoundlust
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Originally posted by usmcwife99
Simple question is sex needed to keep a relationship going.

I use to think it was normal but now after being in a war having a phisically disabled husband(and I love him for it) and having kids to take care of I ask myself, How imprtant is sex.
Everyone is different, but medical research has repeatedly shown that some form of physical touch is essential for all of us, whether it is full sex, sex play, or just massage. PS, thank you to your husband and you for the service and sacrifice.
06/29/2011
GravyCakes GravyCakes
being intimate in any way i personally think is important, but sex, no. i don't need sex personally. i just need some time alone w/ my bf to be happy. & maybe a little sexual intimacy.
06/29/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
I think sex is very important. If My Man were somehow disabled we would find a way to revamp our sex life so it could go on. I'm a pretty imaginative person. I could have thought my sex life was over (or at least that I was through enjoying it) when my ability to climax became difficult. I could have given up on sex when I was diagnosed with not one, but two severe, chronic pain conditions, a few years apart. But, we changed our sex life to fit our new challenge and it became fantastic.

Even if My Man were totally disabled, I would still have him hold me and touch me while I did what I needed to do to have pleasure. When I've been out of commission, I can still hold him while he jerks off and help him come by simply being in his presence and touching him. There is more to sex than having standard penis in vagina intercourse or even oral sex, one person simply being there for the other can work. And the hormones which cause bonding in a relationship, prolactin and endorphins etc will still be produced and the relationship will sexually go on well.

Where there is a will there is a way. Even if it is only one partner helping the other come to climax, while LOVING him or her and then the other partner doing the same for the other partner.
06/29/2011
married with children married with children
I feel that it is a important part of a healthy relationship. Sex is part of the physical relationship. It needs to be mixed with the emotional and spiritual part to have a complete and healthy relationship.
07/01/2011
Beatitude Beatitude
Honestly I could take it or leave it.
But if I'm going to take it then it'd better be interesting. Hence, toys.
07/01/2011
indiglo indiglo
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Originally posted by P'Gell
I think sex is very important. If My Man were somehow disabled we would find a way to revamp our sex life so it could go on. I'm a pretty imaginative person. I could have thought my sex life was over (or at least that I was through enjoying it) ... More
That's beautiful, and so true! I am currently dealing with a neck injury that was getting better, until we had sex. That made it worse again. (We didn't even do anything acrobatic, it was just plain old sex, but my neck didn't care.) So my man is now afraid to have sex until I'm all better, because he doesn't want to push my progress back. But it could be quite a while until I'm all better and ready to go at full speed again. So I plan to use some of these suggestions so we can at least be intimate during the interim. Thank you!
07/01/2011
Shellz31 Shellz31
To me, sex is very important. Although, if something happened to a partner that prevented them performing penetrative sex, I would still stay and love him.
But I would expect him to still pleasure me with toys.
07/01/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by indiglo
That's beautiful, and so true! I am currently dealing with a neck injury that was getting better, until we had sex. That made it worse again. (We didn't even do anything acrobatic, it was just plain old sex, but my neck didn't care.) ... More
You're welcome. I think you and your partner can find a way to work out a sex life that works for both of you until you heal.

Feel better soon.
07/01/2011
Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
A good sex life is extremely important both for the mutual enjoyment, and for the emotional "closeness" that it brings. However you don't need to have penetrative sex to get those same results.
07/01/2011
BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
We think it's quite important; but there are always circumstances and reasons.
07/01/2011
Bunnycups Bunnycups
I think sex is important, but it is not needed to keep a relationship going. If someone ended a relationship because they could no longer have sex with their partner for medical reasons, then I don't believe they ever truly loved their partner to begin with.
07/01/2011
froggiemoma froggiemoma
it is important but i wouldnt leave my current partener if there was no sex or lack of it because of some dissabilty
07/01/2011
usmcwife99 usmcwife99
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Originally posted by newfoundlust
Everyone is different, but medical research has repeatedly shown that some form of physical touch is essential for all of us, whether it is full sex, sex play, or just massage. PS, thank you to your husband and you for the service and sacrifice.
Thank you very much. More of all dont thank me and my husband as much as to rember the true fallen heros.
07/15/2011
usmcwife99 usmcwife99
Thanks for the awnsers. Me and my husband just changed views. When we were younger we use to think its the one thing that mattered alot. Now with kids its hard to find time. And after almost(for those who dont know my husband suffered severe injuries from serving in Iraq/Afganistan and is still not fully recovered)loosing my husband I just got to thinking a orgasm is so uninportant in the grand scheme of things but still so darn fun but not crucial. I was just wondering how important other people see sex in there relationship.

Oddly enough I think my sex life now is better then before. We have alot less sex but when we do its more emotional and its just special because we realize what we have more then ever.
07/15/2011
Jul!a Jul!a
My husband and I have both had relationships where it seemed like the sex was all that mattered regardless of any other emotional connection there could be. For me and him, the relationship is about how well we communicate with each other and the quality of our time being spent together. We love having sex with each other, but it isn't anything that we have to do. It happens when it happens which makes it more enjoyable for the both of us. I know that it's going to work differently for other couples, but that's how it is for us. If one of us were unable to continue having sex, we'd encourage the other to still pleasure themselves and help out in any way we could.
07/15/2011
Eva Schwaltz Eva Schwaltz
I don't think sex is as important as intimacy.
07/15/2011
usmcwife99 usmcwife99
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Originally posted by Eva Schwaltz
I don't think sex is as important as intimacy.
very well put
07/20/2011
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