I heard this discussed on the Today Show this morning and thought I'd ask here. How many of you have changed your name, or would change your name, after marriage? Would you keep your last name after marriage? Vote and discuss!
Keeping your name after marriage?
I did not change my name, and my wife took my last name but kept her own as well. However, what can be confusing is that she legally now has 4 names (given, middle, maiden, and last). Her maiden name is no longer a part of her last name.
Personally, I didn't care either way if she changed her name or not. I think it's silly that a bride traditionally takes the grooms name. Why? I would be fine if she kept her own. The only thing I would have been unsure about is how to name our kids.
I know a couple that created a new last name that is a combination of both of their last names. That way parts of both families get passed on.
Personally, I didn't care either way if she changed her name or not. I think it's silly that a bride traditionally takes the grooms name. Why? I would be fine if she kept her own. The only thing I would have been unsure about is how to name our kids.
I know a couple that created a new last name that is a combination of both of their last names. That way parts of both families get passed on.
09/30/2010
I'd consider changing my name. It really depends on a lot of things like my future partner's last name and if it's better/worse than mine. Tradition means nothing to me. But it would be nice if we had the same last name, whatever it turns out to be. I did always like the idea of making a new last name together.
09/30/2010
I was married (ok, technically still am but it's just a matter of paperwork and time) and never changed my name. I didn't see the point. Funny thing is, if I marry my current boyfriend, which I have every intention of doing in a couple of years, I will take his name. I think in my first marriage, I was younger and settling for something I didn't really want but felt expected to do, and wanted my name for my independence and separate identity....with the person I'm with now, I want to be intertwined with him in every way possible and have his family's name.
09/30/2010
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This is interesting, but I can't help but wonder what the second generation of such families would do when it comes to naming their kids. For example, John Smith-Jones marries Jane Harris-White. What would their child's last name be? Smith-Jones-Harris-Whi te?
Originally posted by
Kindred
I did not change my name, and my wife took my last name but kept her own as well. However, what can be confusing is that she legally now has 4 names (given, middle, maiden, and last). Her maiden name is no longer a part of her last name.
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I did not change my name, and my wife took my last name but kept her own as well. However, what can be confusing is that she legally now has 4 names (given, middle, maiden, and last). Her maiden name is no longer a part of her last name.
Personally, I didn't care either way if she changed her name or not. I think it's silly that a bride traditionally takes the grooms name. Why? I would be fine if she kept her own. The only thing I would have been unsure about is how to name our kids.
I know a couple that created a new last name that is a combination of both of their last names. That way parts of both families get passed on.
Personally, I didn't care either way if she changed her name or not. I think it's silly that a bride traditionally takes the grooms name. Why? I would be fine if she kept her own. The only thing I would have been unsure about is how to name our kids.
I know a couple that created a new last name that is a combination of both of their last names. That way parts of both families get passed on.
To make it more of a tongue twister, imagine what the names of the offspring of Smith-Jones-Harris-Whi te and Hill-Washington-Black- James would be!
09/30/2010
I married and changed my name ... regretted it just about everyday after that because it's difficult for most people to pronounce and anybody who glances at it always thinks it's an entirely different name. (I have since learned that my psychology teacher is correct - people are cognitive misers and will only look at the first two letters and last letter of a word to know what it is. It never worked with my last name.)
I am going to cherish the day when the divorce goes through and I can change it back to my maiden name again (which may be common, but it's easy to recognize and pronounce). Yes, there may only be a dozen people with my husband's last name and I was one of those distinct few, but I don't want to be associated with that family anymore.
If I ever get married again, I'm keeping my maiden name. A lot less legal hassles.
I am going to cherish the day when the divorce goes through and I can change it back to my maiden name again (which may be common, but it's easy to recognize and pronounce). Yes, there may only be a dozen people with my husband's last name and I was one of those distinct few, but I don't want to be associated with that family anymore.
If I ever get married again, I'm keeping my maiden name. A lot less legal hassles.
09/30/2010
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They didn't simply hyphenate their names, they actually merged the names together and made a completely new one. So in your example, if Smith married Jones, they made something like Josmith for both of their last names.
Originally posted by
Selective Sensualist
This is interesting, but I can't help but wonder what the second generation of such families would do when it comes to naming their kids. For example, John Smith-Jones marries Jane Harris-White. What would their child's last name be?
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This is interesting, but I can't help but wonder what the second generation of such families would do when it comes to naming their kids. For example, John Smith-Jones marries Jane Harris-White. What would their child's last name be? Smith-Jones-Harris-Whi te?
To make it more of a tongue twister, imagine what the names of the offspring of Smith-Jones-Harris-Whi te and Hill-Washington-Black- James would be!
To make it more of a tongue twister, imagine what the names of the offspring of Smith-Jones-Harris-Whi te and Hill-Washington-Black- James would be!
09/30/2010
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Why do you have to wait until you're divorced to change it back? You can normally just file paperwork to change it to pretty much whatever you want, whenever you want.
Originally posted by
Chilipepper
I married and changed my name ... regretted it just about everyday after that because it's difficult for most people to pronounce and anybody who glances at it always thinks it's an entirely different name. (I have since learned that my
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I married and changed my name ... regretted it just about everyday after that because it's difficult for most people to pronounce and anybody who glances at it always thinks it's an entirely different name. (I have since learned that my psychology teacher is correct - people are cognitive misers and will only look at the first two letters and last letter of a word to know what it is. It never worked with my last name.)
I am going to cherish the day when the divorce goes through and I can change it back to my maiden name again (which may be common, but it's easy to recognize and pronounce). Yes, there may only be a dozen people with my husband's last name and I was one of those distinct few, but I don't want to be associated with that family anymore.
If I ever get married again, I'm keeping my maiden name. A lot less legal hassles.
I am going to cherish the day when the divorce goes through and I can change it back to my maiden name again (which may be common, but it's easy to recognize and pronounce). Yes, there may only be a dozen people with my husband's last name and I was one of those distinct few, but I don't want to be associated with that family anymore.
If I ever get married again, I'm keeping my maiden name. A lot less legal hassles.
09/30/2010
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I had thought about changing my name in the past for the exact same reason, but since my name also comes from my grandfather who was very inspirational to me, I opted not to.
Originally posted by
VieuxCarre
If I ever get married, I do want to change my name just because I want no link to my biological father whatsoever. Plus, I feel that changing my last name to my partner's makes me more one with him. But, that's just me
09/30/2010
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Costs (lots of) money to file - may as well get it done at the same time as the divorce and make it official.
Originally posted by
Tori Rebel
Why do you have to wait until you're divorced to change it back? You can normally just file paperwork to change it to pretty much whatever you want, whenever you want.
09/30/2010
To be honest, I hate my last name. I can't wait to get rid of it! My man's last name is much nicer, and very easy to spell so I am psyched to take his
I would do the swapping my maiden name for my middle name, because I'm not a fan of my middle name either (Ruth- Jessica Ruth sounds so ugly to me!) but I think it would sound weird with my man's last name.
Of course, this is assuming he proposes to me! (which I'm pretty damn sure he will..)
I would do the swapping my maiden name for my middle name, because I'm not a fan of my middle name either (Ruth- Jessica Ruth sounds so ugly to me!) but I think it would sound weird with my man's last name.
Of course, this is assuming he proposes to me! (which I'm pretty damn sure he will..)
09/30/2010
I hyphenated...It seemed like a good idea at the time...keep my identity, while still making my husband happy...However. I now have the longest name ever. It doesn't fit on my credit card or bank accounts. I also get a lot of raised eyebrows when I get carded...I would probably just stick to my own next time. Changing all your accounts, SS card, etc SUCKS!
09/30/2010
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For clarity, I am not planning to marry again anytime soon, I meant if I could do it again...
Originally posted by
*NutrixCorda*
I hyphenated...It seemed like a good idea at the time...keep my identity, while still making my husband happy...However. I now have the longest name ever. It doesn't fit on my credit card or bank accounts. I also get a lot of raised eyebrows when
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I hyphenated...It seemed like a good idea at the time...keep my identity, while still making my husband happy...However. I now have the longest name ever. It doesn't fit on my credit card or bank accounts. I also get a lot of raised eyebrows when I get carded...I would probably just stick to my own next time. Changing all your accounts, SS card, etc SUCKS!
09/30/2010
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I completely relate to this. I kept my last name even though its boring and associated with my father just out of principle. I'm not my husband's possession.
Originally posted by
VieuxCarre
If I ever get married, I do want to change my name just because I want no link to my biological father whatsoever. Plus, I feel that changing my last name to my partner's makes me more one with him. But, that's just me
My husband didn't care as long as our kids have his last name.
09/30/2010
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Well, my relationship is different LOL. I am considered a possession, but, ya know, that's what I signed on for.
Originally posted by
Tuesday
I completely relate to this. I kept my last name even though its boring and associated with my father just out of principle. I'm not my husband's possession.
My husband didn't care as long as our kids have his last name.
My husband didn't care as long as our kids have his last name.
But yeah, I'd mainly change it to get rid of my ties to the douche nozzle that contributed to my birth.
09/30/2010
I'm not married, and boy it's annoying. My kids don't have the same last name as me, and either I get called by my bf's last name whenever places call, or if someone is filling something out (like COmcast for instance for billing) They'll put my last name wrong. Travelling is a freakin nightmare, they always want extra paperwork. Bleh. Too much hassle. Then when whomever notices the last name difference we get the "why aren't you married yet?" question. I hate that most of all.
So when we do get married. I will def. change my name.
So when we do get married. I will def. change my name.
10/01/2010
