little white lies.

misterazor misterazor
do you lie to your partner sometimes if it's harmless and makes them feel better?
example..."do my ankles look thick?" absolutely not! (even though they might look a little big) example..."so, you don't mind that i'm balding?" of course not...you look distinguished.
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sometimes i lie
kendra30752 , Martiniman , CollegeFun2014 , ViVix , Meltingfish , js250 , XYCopperheadSly , Beck , table38792 , MasqueVivi , llellsee , Lioncub , AHubbyof2SexualMinds , BlooJay , PropertyOfPotter , KissTheSkyBaby , deltalima , Andrey2052 , GONE! , RonLee , Do emu , CindyH , Trixxxy , zombiegirl2013
24  (96%)
i never lie, even if it makes them cry
TrenchcoatHunters
1  (4%)
Total votes: 25
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12/31/2012
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kendra30752 kendra30752
Quote:
Originally posted by misterazor
do you lie to your partner sometimes if it's harmless and makes them feel better?
example..."do my ankles look thick?" absolutely not! (even though they might look a little big) example..."so, you don't mind that i'm ... More
Thought about voting "no, I never lie even if it makes them cry," but I realized then you'd just know for sure I was a liar! Haha.

I really don't like dishonesty and I do not lie to my loved ones except for sometimes. I have lied to keep from hurting someone -- not to hide some betrayal I've comitted, but if someone I love or am friends with is getting hurt really badly and if I told them for example, "yes, you are single because you are a high maintenance, picky butthole," then it would be mean and hurt them. I've lied about things like when one of my loved ones asks if I want something and I just don't want to burden them. Actually, that is the only lie I tell my partner. I really try to be as honest as possible, and I actually am very honest, but there are things I lie about. I won't betray someone, but I've lied to my partner when he asks if I'm in pain and I don't want him to worry or if I want something (food, drink) and I don't want him to have to fix it. He knows this most of the time and says "I can't trust you because you lie thinking you'll make things easier, so I'll just start doing it for you." He asked if I wanted him to bring me coffee from McDonald's the other night. I said no, but really wanted him to! LOL. So he says now he doesn't know if I'm telling the truth when I say I don't want something.

Those are not lies that hurt someone though. The lies that would hurt someone are ones I avoid at all costs. I will lie if it means inconveniencing someone and only causing myself to do without, but otherwise, the lies are usually kept to that.

Now if you ask me what I did in the bathroom, hell yes I will lie. LOL. I'm not going to ever talk about personal stuff like poop! Ha Ha Ha! I wouldn't lie about how someone looks though. If my loved ones ask me how they look, I tell them the truth because I certainly don't want them lying to me about something like that, and well, when my sisters eyelash has been half blown off by the wind (falsies), I ain't about to let her walk around like that all day! Lol. I definitely tell the truth when asked about looks. I mean, when my family and loved ones ask, it's because they really, really want to know if something looks bad or not. Same reason I ask and I want to be told.

Most people have this (mostly) misconception that all women want to be told they look fabulous no matter how they really look. This could not be further from the truth for most of us. We don't ask because we want to be told what makes us feel better, we ask because hell, if we really do have snot on our nose, we want to know so we can fix that shit! Lol.

Now the balding thing? I wouldn't actually mind if my partner was balding. I wouldn't lie, but that's not something that would be unattractive anyways, to me.
12/31/2012
Martiniman Martiniman
More than likely everyone lies, it's just to what extent. A perfect example is when my wife asks me if I want to go shopping with her. I enjoy shopping with her, but its more about time with her than shopping. I don't spell it out, I just say yes. So on the rare occasion I didn't want to go shopping, but said yes to spend time with her, I lied. Maybe a poor example, but I think you get me point.
12/31/2012
ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by misterazor
do you lie to your partner sometimes if it's harmless and makes them feel better?
example..."do my ankles look thick?" absolutely not! (even though they might look a little big) example..."so, you don't mind that i'm ... More
I definitely tell little lies to avoid hurt feelings.
12/31/2012
Meltingfish Meltingfish
I'll tell little lies, but I never lie about anything big.
12/31/2012
js250 js250
I do when it is nonessential...like when my hubby loved the shirt of Johnny Cash flipping off Billboard-I hated it but told him it was okay so he would not feel like he had to sneak in wearing it.....
12/31/2012
Beck Beck
I do tell lies when it's best not to tell the truth. I don't lie about big things. Only the little white lies.
12/31/2012
MasqueVivi MasqueVivi
If I feel it would make somebody cry or feel truly awful, I won't tell the complete truth. I tend to pad it heavily, so the idea comes across but it's not too harsh. Some people would consider this a lie, I think it's just kind.
12/31/2012
Lioncub Lioncub
It's all in how you say it. Everyone does it to some extent.
12/31/2012
AHubbyof2SexualMinds AHubbyof2SexualMinds
I don't want to lie to my wife, but I will on occasion as is warranted. But she trusts me enough to ask "Do you I look fat in this dress?" to know I will tell her the truth. Sometimes the dress isn't flattering and I need to say so, and sometimes she's fine. It all depends on the situation.
12/31/2012
Voir Voir
Why tell lies when you can present a vague truth? That way you are free of blame - because in all technicality you told the truth just not in detail - and you can't be blamed for being vague (unless you are usually overly detailed) when details were not requested

I dunno if I tell white lies o.o I doubt it - I don't say anything at all, tell someone to mind their own business or tell them the truth.

I'm rather known for blunt honesty but I can flat out lie if necessary
12/31/2012
BlooJay BlooJay
I like that....vague truths. "It ain't what you say, but the way that you say it."
12/31/2012
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I wouldn't say I outright LIE, but there are times when I word things a certain way so that it doesn't sound as bad. So I guess you could consider it a slight dishonesty, but I pride myself in being honestly and trustworthy.
12/31/2012
KissTheSkyBaby KissTheSkyBaby
It depends on the situation. If it's something that may be hard to hear but is ALSO ultimately beneficial and comes from my love for them then I may say it even if it upsets them.

Odds are if I'm upsetting them though I'm also upsetting myself so I save those times for the worthy topics. If its little stuff like say what do I think of his hideously ugly favorite shoes? Well they are unique and his I skirt a lie in those instances.
12/31/2012
edeneve edeneve
I don't lie, I look for something good or positive to say about "it".
12/31/2012
RonLee RonLee
Those who have to always tell the absolute truth, are callous heartless fucked up ass holes.

We all know there are justifiable reasons to tell someone a "white lie" when that's what will give them comfort.

When my spouse was dying of cancer she was still concerned about her appearance.

If someone had answered her question "do I look awful?" with the truth...
I'd have felt no remorse beating that person unconscious.
01/01/2013
TrenchcoatHunters TrenchcoatHunters
Quote:
Originally posted by misterazor
do you lie to your partner sometimes if it's harmless and makes them feel better?
example..."do my ankles look thick?" absolutely not! (even though they might look a little big) example..."so, you don't mind that i'm ... More
I'm pretty blunt about everything
01/01/2013
kendra30752 kendra30752
Quote:
Originally posted by js250
I do when it is nonessential...like when my hubby loved the shirt of Johnny Cash flipping off Billboard-I hated it but told him it was okay so he would not feel like he had to sneak in wearing it.....
OMG! My lovie has that SAME shirt! He has the Willie Nelson one too. He'd lost his Johnny-flippin'-bird shirt and just found it last night. I'd done bought him a new one for Christmas, only Johnny was not flipping the bird on that one. He has THREE Johnny Cash shirts. That is so awesome that our lovie's have the same shirt.

And back on topic. Yes, this is the type of lie I was referring to. One that wouldn't actually hurt someone. This is about like what my lies consist of. Nothing past that. LOL. Js250, you didn't like the shirt? Lol. I know what you mean though. It ain't the most... pleasant shirt. I don't hate it, but I like his other Johnny shirts more than the bird one.

Okay, I'm done now.
01/01/2013
misterazor misterazor
Quote:
Originally posted by Martiniman
More than likely everyone lies, it's just to what extent. A perfect example is when my wife asks me if I want to go shopping with her. I enjoy shopping with her, but its more about time with her than shopping. I don't spell it out, I just ... More
got it. thanks for the thoughts.
01/02/2013
misterazor misterazor
Quote:
Originally posted by Meltingfish
I'll tell little lies, but I never lie about anything big.
thanks for the post!
01/02/2013
misterazor misterazor
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
I do tell lies when it's best not to tell the truth. I don't lie about big things. Only the little white lies.
don't you find that it's best not to tell the truth sometimes when it would not be a small thing as well? what would you do if you knew it would be better not to tell when it was not a small lie?
01/02/2013
misterazor misterazor
Quote:
Originally posted by MasqueVivi
If I feel it would make somebody cry or feel truly awful, I won't tell the complete truth. I tend to pad it heavily, so the idea comes across but it's not too harsh. Some people would consider this a lie, I think it's just kind.
agreed.
01/02/2013
misterazor misterazor
Quote:
Originally posted by AHubbyof2SexualMinds
I don't want to lie to my wife, but I will on occasion as is warranted. But she trusts me enough to ask "Do you I look fat in this dress?" to know I will tell her the truth. Sometimes the dress isn't flattering and I need to say ... More
agreed. i would not lie to my wife about a bad looking outfit. she would want honesty. it's the easy example to give, but not the best example...as most women do want the truth there, i would think. thans for the post!
01/02/2013
misterazor misterazor
Quote:
Originally posted by Voir
Why tell lies when you can present a vague truth? That way you are free of blame - because in all technicality you told the truth just not in detail - and you can't be blamed for being vague (unless you are usually overly detailed) when details ... More
you've learned the game. getting off on technicality. awesome. thanks!
01/02/2013
misterazor misterazor
Quote:
Originally posted by PropertyOfPotter
I wouldn't say I outright LIE, but there are times when I word things a certain way so that it doesn't sound as bad. So I guess you could consider it a slight dishonesty, but I pride myself in being honestly and trustworthy.
subtle. learning to be subtle is a good skill to have.
01/02/2013
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