Roommates suck, but if you don't say anything to her, then you shouldn't be complaining here. It's only a problem when she says she won't do anything to remedy it. Talking should always be the first approach with these sorts of things.
Looking for Roommate Advice: Common area invasion
08/23/2012
It seems fine for her to use the space WHILE SHE'S ACTUALLY WORKING (provided you don't desperately need the space at that time), but not to store all of her stuff there. You live there too and it's perfectly reasonable to want, you know, a place to eat.
08/23/2012
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You are being reasonable.
Originally posted by
Lady of the Lab
My roommate designs & makes costumes for several theater companies, as well as commissions. I've noticed since the last show that the dining area has been swamped with her work. This is an issue because the one place to sit and eat is on the
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My roommate designs & makes costumes for several theater companies, as well as commissions. I've noticed since the last show that the dining area has been swamped with her work. This is an issue because the one place to sit and eat is on the couch in the only common area (excluding the kitchen proper) that has a clean surface. Also most of the floor space is piled up with materials in boxes, which makes it difficult to clean the wooden floors.
Am I being unreasonable in wanting her to take her work space into her bedroom? I sometimes take my 'work' (homework, projects) out into the common areas, but I make an effort to put away my textbooks, laptop, etc. when I am done. I feel torn because I understand that the kitchen table is a great size for her work, but on the other hand I brought it to the apartment for us to eat at...
Has anyone else dealt with a roommate's hobby becoming an issue of space? less
Am I being unreasonable in wanting her to take her work space into her bedroom? I sometimes take my 'work' (homework, projects) out into the common areas, but I make an effort to put away my textbooks, laptop, etc. when I am done. I feel torn because I understand that the kitchen table is a great size for her work, but on the other hand I brought it to the apartment for us to eat at...
Has anyone else dealt with a roommate's hobby becoming an issue of space? less
08/23/2012
Totally reasonable, you both pay to share the space, but it doesn't sound like much sharing is going on.
08/23/2012
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You are being reasonable.
Originally posted by
Lady of the Lab
My roommate designs & makes costumes for several theater companies, as well as commissions. I've noticed since the last show that the dining area has been swamped with her work. This is an issue because the one place to sit and eat is on the
...
more
My roommate designs & makes costumes for several theater companies, as well as commissions. I've noticed since the last show that the dining area has been swamped with her work. This is an issue because the one place to sit and eat is on the couch in the only common area (excluding the kitchen proper) that has a clean surface. Also most of the floor space is piled up with materials in boxes, which makes it difficult to clean the wooden floors.
Am I being unreasonable in wanting her to take her work space into her bedroom? I sometimes take my 'work' (homework, projects) out into the common areas, but I make an effort to put away my textbooks, laptop, etc. when I am done. I feel torn because I understand that the kitchen table is a great size for her work, but on the other hand I brought it to the apartment for us to eat at...
Has anyone else dealt with a roommate's hobby becoming an issue of space? less
Am I being unreasonable in wanting her to take her work space into her bedroom? I sometimes take my 'work' (homework, projects) out into the common areas, but I make an effort to put away my textbooks, laptop, etc. when I am done. I feel torn because I understand that the kitchen table is a great size for her work, but on the other hand I brought it to the apartment for us to eat at...
Has anyone else dealt with a roommate's hobby becoming an issue of space? less
08/23/2012
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He agrees with me. I am waiting for her to return from dinner.
Originally posted by
unfulfilled
Good luck to you, I'm sure you can come up with a compromise to this situation as well. What does the third roommate think about it?
I don't think you're being unreasonable.
I don't think you're being unreasonable.
08/23/2012
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I am planning on talking to her & I do admit I was complaining. I wanted advice because she is a friend of mine & I do not want to hurt her feelings.
Originally posted by
Ex-prude
Roommates suck, but if you don't say anything to her, then you shouldn't be complaining here. It's only a problem when she says she won't do anything to remedy it. Talking should always be the first approach with these sorts of things.
08/23/2012
Difficult as it may be, she should clean up all her materials from the common room each time she uses it, just as you do... if she's in there so much of the time that you can't even use the common area, then a talk between the two of you to reach a compromise is in order.
08/23/2012
I hope your conversation goes well. Since you are friends, hopefully you'll be able to come to an agreement. Keep us posted!
08/23/2012
Reasonable. You respect her need to work, but it shouldn't ruin your ability to eat and enjoy your shared space
08/23/2012
Yes you need to sit down with your roommate and talk. I'm sure all the items can be moved and you can have the space.
08/24/2012
You are being very reasonable. Everyone needs their space and a common area should not be taken over with one person's stuff when there are other people living in a house. Make some suggestions on other ideas for her work.
08/24/2012
Update:
I did talk to my roommate and the mess has improved... however, the temporary fix of moving it to another room (where my other roommate was) is no longer adequate because a new roommate is moving in. She is not interested in using the storage container I suggested or moving it into her bedroom, so I'll be talking to her again to figure out a different solution : /
Thanks for the input and support ~
I did talk to my roommate and the mess has improved... however, the temporary fix of moving it to another room (where my other roommate was) is no longer adequate because a new roommate is moving in. She is not interested in using the storage container I suggested or moving it into her bedroom, so I'll be talking to her again to figure out a different solution : /
Thanks for the input and support ~
09/24/2012
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