I have "adopted" nieces and nephews and both from my step brother and step sister.
I love children, have always worked and lived around children and enjoy their company. One has to understand that children act and think like children
not tiny adults. Once people realize children live in a magical world that they don't really understand and that "rules" are something that, to them, are only there to stop them from doing stuff they want to do (they don't understand rules are to protect them and protect others) and usually kids only obey rules to AVOID getting in trouble, it is easier to get along with them.
I have no problem with babies, small children or school age children. Teens, don't get me started. They KNOW why things happen, but it seems like they all have personality disorders
In fact, in Psychology, it has been said that people with
personality disorders have never emotionally or intellectually left their teens. Makes sense to me.
And, I also realize that even if I
think a child's behavior is odd or "improper" I realize that most of the time, that child's parents understand that child MORE than I do, as they live with that child, raised that child and LOVE that child.
Most even semi-reasonable people are the experts on their own children. Most reasonable
people are the experts on their children.
One only has to have children of one's own to understand why. I no longer think I KNOW more than an other parent's child (as I did, sadly when I was a new parent) because I know that child has idiosyncrasies, habits and issues that only a parent can understand.
There are things that I think have no place in parenting; hitting, shaming, manipulating etc. But, most of the parents who I see doing these things tend to spend precious little time with their kids and, honestly don't really know their own children
. Luckily, this not terrible common, but it seems to be the lion's share of children who have issues.