Paid for sex

Badass Badass
Have you ever been paid for sex?
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Yes
3  (5%)
No
58  (88%)
Kind of...
5  (8%)
Total votes: 66
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03/15/2012
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melissa1973 melissa1973
The way I see it when your married or have a girlfriend or whatever, your paying for sex legally. You put a roof over their heads, pay for the clothes, food, give money to pay the bills and so on along with whatever ealse he/she wants. There's the romantic unexpected dates (if you can find a sitter), gifts, special occasions and so on.
03/15/2012
Mwar Mwar
Quote:
Originally posted by melissa1973
The way I see it when your married or have a girlfriend or whatever, your paying for sex legally. You put a roof over their heads, pay for the clothes, food, give money to pay the bills and so on along with whatever ealse he/she wants. There's ... More
This. It is still payment. It's not the cut and dry method for ladies of the evening, but the results can be the same.
03/15/2012
BobbiJay BobbiJay
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Originally posted by melissa1973
The way I see it when your married or have a girlfriend or whatever, your paying for sex legally. You put a roof over their heads, pay for the clothes, food, give money to pay the bills and so on along with whatever ealse he/she wants. There's ... More
You make a very good point.
03/15/2012
dbm6907 dbm6907
Quote:
Originally posted by melissa1973
The way I see it when your married or have a girlfriend or whatever, your paying for sex legally. You put a roof over their heads, pay for the clothes, food, give money to pay the bills and so on along with whatever ealse he/she wants. There's ... More
True.
03/15/2012
ViVix ViVix
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Originally posted by Badass
Have you ever been paid for sex?
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I'm going to first say that I am a single mother who supports myself and my child with no help from her father. He never paid my bills, we paid OUR bills together. He paid for the first few dates, where we didn't have sex. Then, I often paid my way. It's kind of horrible to think about dating as being paid for sex. Seems disrespectful! So, no. I have not been paid for sex.
03/15/2012
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by melissa1973
The way I see it when your married or have a girlfriend or whatever, your paying for sex legally. You put a roof over their heads, pay for the clothes, food, give money to pay the bills and so on along with whatever ealse he/she wants. There's ... More
I completely disagree. Sharing a loving relationship is not paying for sex.

The vast majority of couples are both working and sharing expenses, chores, responsibilities and sex. The analogy that marriage is legalized prostitution is just arcane and outdated.
03/15/2012
js250 js250
Quote:
Originally posted by melissa1973
The way I see it when your married or have a girlfriend or whatever, your paying for sex legally. You put a roof over their heads, pay for the clothes, food, give money to pay the bills and so on along with whatever ealse he/she wants. There's ... More
So....have I been paying for sex for my husband when he was out of work for the last year??? This doesn't work anymore in two income households. I also did not get my carpet shampooed/vacuumed. clothes washed, house cleaned/dusted, weeding in flower beds done, meals cooked, baked goods, bathrooms cleaned, or any of the other things a 'wife' is supposed to do...am I getting ripped off????
03/15/2012
mistre$$ mistre$$
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
I completely disagree. Sharing a loving relationship is not paying for sex.

The vast majority of couples are both working and sharing expenses, chores, responsibilities and sex. The analogy that marriage is legalized prostitution is just ... More
I agree.
03/15/2012
- Kira - - Kira -
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
I completely disagree. Sharing a loving relationship is not paying for sex.

The vast majority of couples are both working and sharing expenses, chores, responsibilities and sex. The analogy that marriage is legalized prostitution is just ... More
This exactly. My husband and I pay our bills together. He doesn't individually put a roof over my head or anything else. My clothes come from my own percent of MY money allocated to me alone. The only thing he "buys" me is a present for a holiday out of his allocated percent of the funds.

I have sex with my husband because I want to, not based on who is paying the bills anyhow. If he was paying because I was out of work, I would not feel more obliged to have sex with him. It's marriage, not prostitution.

And no, I've never paid for sex, to answer the original question.
03/15/2012
Azule Azule
No I have never been paid for sex.
03/15/2012
samanthalynn samanthalynn
Quote:
Originally posted by Badass
Have you ever been paid for sex?
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never
03/15/2012
ksparkles16 ksparkles16
No, I have not either.
03/15/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by melissa1973
The way I see it when your married or have a girlfriend or whatever, your paying for sex legally. You put a roof over their heads, pay for the clothes, food, give money to pay the bills and so on along with whatever ealse he/she wants. There's ... More
That's not paying for sex, that's called being in a dedicated relationship. Marriage doesn't usually work out to "you go along with whatever he wants." Please. That's a bit of an insult to married women and to stay at home mothers.
03/15/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
I completely disagree. Sharing a loving relationship is not paying for sex.

The vast majority of couples are both working and sharing expenses, chores, responsibilities and sex. The analogy that marriage is legalized prostitution is just ... More
Thank you, Gun. Wives everywhere appreciate this sentiment.

I have sex with my husband because I want to, not because he happens to make more money than I do. And, when I was at home with small children I WAS WORKING. Damn harder. Harder than I do working "out of the home" any day. Even when I was home full time I was contributing as much to the household as he was, maybe not in money, but in the work I did raising our children.

Obviously anyone who believes "Marriage = legal prostitution" has a lot to learn about healthy, long term relationships and how they operate.
03/15/2012
Ciao. Ciao.
I've never paid for or been paid for sex.
03/15/2012
T&A1987 T&A1987
there's an interesting graphic novel about going to prostitutes, although it is somewhat sexist with an arrogant (rather than thoughtful) libertarian bent.

link
03/15/2012
CindyH CindyH
never
03/15/2012
llellsee llellsee
Never have been.
03/15/2012
Lover of Leather Lover of Leather
Interesting can of worms that @melissa 1973 opened up, fun reading all the posts after that one!! And no, being in a relationship of any kind, new, married, or other, and providing for the household or buying gifts or dinner does not constitute paying for sex. Cash for the sex act only, everything else doesn't count. And again no, I've never paid for sex.
03/15/2012
richsam richsam
Quote:
Originally posted by Badass
Have you ever been paid for sex?
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never
03/15/2012
plaidvulva plaidvulva
Nope.
03/15/2012
Lizzy Lizzy
it's all paid for one way or the other don't be so naive.
03/15/2012
Missmarc Missmarc
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Originally posted by Badass
Have you ever been paid for sex?
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Nope... never. For some of the stuff I did for some guys in my life, I should have gotten paid. LOL!
03/15/2012
Hallmar82 Hallmar82
Modern dating can sometimes be a grey fuzzy line on the issue. As a man though, no, I have never been paid either directly or indirectly.
03/15/2012
dhig dhig
nope
03/15/2012
Secret Pleasure Secret Pleasure
nope never
03/16/2012
BlooJay BlooJay
Nope
03/16/2012
Michele Michele
I said no....then, I read Melissa's post. She does make a good point.
03/16/2012
Badass Badass
Quote:
Originally posted by Mwar
This. It is still payment. It's not the cut and dry method for ladies of the evening, but the results can be the same.
Exactly, that is what I was thinking of when I put the kind of in there.
03/16/2012
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