Positive body image and society today.

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Positive body image and society today.

Booktease Booktease
My family is notorious for being incredibly body negative. In fact, just the other day my mom and sister were discussing all the plastic surgery they would like to someday have to fix what they think is wrong with their bodies. My younger sister (she is twenty-two) stated that she has considered adopting children instead of having them because she doesn't want her body to get 'all messed up', but has now decided to just have lots of plastic surgery afterward instead.

What are your views of plastic surgery? How do you cultivate positive body image in a world so very focused on looks? Do you have children and if so what do you plan to teach them about their bodies and their 'beauty'? For instance, I had a child at work once ask me why I didn't always shave my legs as often as other women. I explained that shaving your legs is a personal choice and isn't necessary and that I can shave them when I want to, or not at all, and that both are okay.

I've had similar discussions with children about height, weight and other physical aspects of a person. I also had a conversation about this with my partner recently after reading an article about African American women discussing their hair with their children. One woman's daughter was upset because she felt like her hair wasn't 'pretty' because it wasn't treated to be straight like her mothers. Her mother ended up shaving her head and letting her hair grow in naturally to show her daughter that it was perfectly okay to have natural hair.

Anyway, I'd love some more opinions about body image in general (hair, makeup, shaving, etc.) and opinions about how this relates to your ideas about raising children.
08/12/2011
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Ryuson Ryuson
I wear make up because I want to, and I feel like it makes me look nicer. I dislike my weight ect. sometimes but would never consider surgery to fix it! Dressing nicely, a little bit of makeup, and good accessories make me feel nicer than surgery could!

Personally, I think that everyone needs to lighten up about the whole thing! People will love you and be attracted to you no matter what you look like! If you want to lose/gain weight it should be for medical reasons, not cosmetic!
08/12/2011
Booktease Booktease
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Originally posted by Ryuson
I wear make up because I want to, and I feel like it makes me look nicer. I dislike my weight ect. sometimes but would never consider surgery to fix it! Dressing nicely, a little bit of makeup, and good accessories make me feel nicer than surgery ...
Agreed. I think some people (like the ladies in my family) have it so ingrained in them though that you have to be societies idea of beautiful or you aren't good enough. Its heartbreaking really.
08/12/2011
AngelvMaynard AngelvMaynard
I personally think as long as you go into it with a healthy attitude and a realistic expectation that having cosmetic procedures that make you feel better about yourself is perfectly ok. I have MANY friends who after having their children wanted to do a little something here or there that made them feel better about how they looked. Now, if the body images are more a mental state then no amount of surgery, makeup, new hairstyle etc. Is going to make a difference.
08/12/2011
Booktease Booktease
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Originally posted by AngelvMaynard
I personally think as long as you go into it with a healthy attitude and a realistic expectation that having cosmetic procedures that make you feel better about yourself is perfectly ok. I have MANY friends who after having their children wanted to ...
I think you've made an excellent point about the 'mental state' of going into some of these procedures.
08/13/2011
Ghost Ghost
I don't wear make up on most given days and I don't feel ugly for it. >_>
Maybe I am crazy.
08/13/2011
Chilipepper Chilipepper
Only shallow people obsess over how other people look. Don't bother doing it for them, they'll still find things to bitch about. Do the beauty on your terms.
08/13/2011
Diabolical Kitty Diabolical Kitty
I think people need to be just who they want to be and quit listening to what everyone else says.
08/13/2011
Booktease Booktease
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Originally posted by Ghost
I don't wear make up on most given days and I don't feel ugly for it. >_>
Maybe I am crazy.
No! That's spectacular!
08/13/2011
Booktease Booktease
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Originally posted by Chilipepper
Only shallow people obsess over how other people look. Don't bother doing it for them, they'll still find things to bitch about. Do the beauty on your terms.
I love what you've said here: Do beauty on your own terms.

I was actually given sort of a hard time about having long hair, wearing makeup and wearing a dress out in public once by another lesbian. It was hurtful, even if she wasn't meaning for it to be. And most days I don't even wear makeup and throw my hair up in a ponytail.

Not that that even has to be justified!
08/13/2011
wetone123 wetone123
I will be who I am, whatever anyone thinks about it. I don't wear makeup except on special occasions because it feels unatural and smothering. I try to keep in shape, but eat what I like to eat. I would never consider surgery. I agree with Chilipepper that shallow people obsess over looks and I do not give a flip what people think. I look just fine in my eyes and those who love me, thats all that counts to me.

I do think children should be brought up to know that beauty is only skin deep, and its whats inside that counts. As well, they should be complimented and loved so they will have a strong sense of self esteem.
08/13/2011
Booktease Booktease
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Originally posted by wetone123
I will be who I am, whatever anyone thinks about it. I don't wear makeup except on special occasions because it feels unatural and smothering. I try to keep in shape, but eat what I like to eat. I would never consider surgery. I agree with ...
Exactly.
08/13/2011
Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by AngelvMaynard
I personally think as long as you go into it with a healthy attitude and a realistic expectation that having cosmetic procedures that make you feel better about yourself is perfectly ok. I have MANY friends who after having their children wanted to ...
This is pretty much exactly what I was going to say. Only without the children, because while I do have a lot of friends with kids none of them have gone the plastic surgery route afterwards.
08/15/2011
Dawn (Lilac Distraction) Dawn (Lilac Distraction)
I don't think there's any way I could have plastic surgery for cosmetic reasons. Sure, I wish I had bigger breasts, but I don't think I could live knowing something about me is fake. My mom has had them for years and proudly flaunts them. My younger sister is seriously interested in getting them, but not me.

I wear make-up and I enjoy it, but I don't feel like I need it. I don't wear it to make myself "look better", I just wear it to accentuate my features or have a fun splash of color.

And when it comes to my own body image, yes, I feel like I'm too thin. I'd love to gain some weight and have some curves, but I don't feel super bad about being skinny. Most of the reason I want to gain weight is so I can fit into regular sized clothes and lingerie without it falling off me and looking silly.
08/15/2011
Miss Jenn Miss Jenn
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Originally posted by Booktease
My family is notorious for being incredibly body negative. In fact, just the other day my mom and sister were discussing all the plastic surgery they would like to someday have to fix what they think is wrong with their bodies. My younger sister (she ...
Read my article I wrote for Eden about Body Image.
link
08/15/2011
Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
i personally don't have a problem with plastic surgery and plan to get it after i graduate. i think it's important to understand why we want plastic surgery- are we doing it for ourselves or for someone else? and to be honest, why do we care about what other people are doing to themselves? it's not our business what someone does to make themselves feel good about their body image
08/16/2011
sktb0007 sktb0007
i am not a fan of plastic surgery. I would never get it done unless i needed a face reconstruction from a car accident/etc. Just for mere superficial reasons, nope.
08/16/2011
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