Pregnancy scared...but not in the way you think.

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Pregnancy scared...but not in the way you think.

Rod Ronald Rod Ronald
My and my wife have tried to have another baby for about 5 years now. After multiple miscarriages and a very nasy and nearly deadly ectopic prenancy that involved the removal of one of her tubes, we pretty much gave up all hope. Our blood types hate each other, which doesn't make matters any better. It took us nearly 7 years to concieve our son. So our chances were slim.
Today after 14 days past her period, she took a test as a fluke. She's pregnant and we are both scared shitless. We went and made sure at a clinic and called the Doctor that dealt with her ectopic ordeal. However, we still can't beat the cloud of dread over us both.
Has anyone else dealt with this? We haven't told anyone. We can not deal with another disaster like before. We got use to it, but still this can't happen again.
Any words from people who have been through this will help more then you know
12/06/2012
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married with children married with children
I know how you feel. My wife and I never had much trouble with our two kids. But I have had many friends who have lost babies at different times in the pregnancy. I buddy at work, his wife was just about to her due date when they lost the baby. It can be a very hard thing to deal with. And I understand how you feel now, thinking in the back of your head that you will have to go through it all over again. All you can do is be happy and hope for the best.
12/06/2012
Hubby80 Hubby80
I'm so sorry. I wish you all the best. Nobody should be put thru that.
12/06/2012
VioletMoonstone VioletMoonstone
Has she had a rho-gam shot?

I think all you can do is to be hopeful. Be happy for what it is now and expect good things. Go to the doc and get checked out regularly if you're worried and keep a close eye on it. I don't want to sound negative but I think it's best to be happy and hopeful but at the same time not to completely give your hopes up if something happened to go wrong... not that I'm saying it will. Gosh, I don't know if this came out right or not. I hope you get what I meant. I'm wishing you all the luck in the world though.
12/06/2012
bayosgirl bayosgirl
Oh man, I do know how you feel. My situation was not as severe as you and your wife's (7 weeks miscarriage, happened naturally, no complications) but still, it was the loss of a baby. I was scared to get pregnant again, but we did and I am currently 6 weeks. Still having a lot of mixed emotions.. so yeah, I totally get how you're feeling right now. Jingling for a healthy pregnancy for us both.
12/06/2012
Gone (LD29) Gone (LD29)
I don't have any advice or similar experiences to share, but I wanted to let you know your family is in my thoughts. Sending all the good wishes I can your way!
12/06/2012
spineyogurt spineyogurt
Try hypnosis
12/06/2012
Beck Beck
Quote:
Originally posted by Rod Ronald
My and my wife have tried to have another baby for about 5 years now. After multiple miscarriages and a very nasy and nearly deadly ectopic prenancy that involved the removal of one of her tubes, we pretty much gave up all hope. Our blood types hate ...
I wish you good luck!! I really don't know what else to say. I know what it's like to lose a baby (miscarriage.) But nothing as tragic as what you guys have gone through. Congrats on the pregnancy and I hope all turns out well.
12/07/2012
Rod Ronald Rod Ronald
Quote:
Originally posted by VioletMoonstone
Has she had a rho-gam shot?

I think all you can do is to be hopeful. Be happy for what it is now and expect good things. Go to the doc and get checked out regularly if you're worried and keep a close eye on it. I don't want to sound ...
She will after 3 months I think. She goes for lab work today, then again monday. She hasn't complained about any pain, but then again she never did when she had the ectopic pregnancy, which baffled everyone of those doctors. She was on the verge of bledding out when they removed her tube. It was scarry as shit, but yet she never complained. Afterwards when the Doctor was telling us everything, we were just dazed. It was that quiet heartbreak. If it was to happen again, or something similar, i have no idea how I would handle it. thats whats bothering me the most.
12/07/2012
Rod Ronald Rod Ronald
By the way. seriously thank you all for your support. I know i come of as a jackass on here, or annoying, but seriously thank you all. I don't mean to spill my life out before you all to see, but this place helps. really does. So once again thank you all.
12/07/2012
Chilipepper Chilipepper
I wish you lots of luck. Having such a succession of losses is heartbreaking. Here's prayers that things will turn out right this time. *hugs*
12/07/2012
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