Pregnant for attention

I think that it is the stupidest thing I ever heard

Right? I don't get why people do it, I'm 20 and I have aqantances younger than me doing all the above

Yes, children are a blessing NOT a TOOLS! My husband's ex-wife has used his children as tools to get what she wants for years and it has angered me to the point of insanity. I love my husband and my mother-in-law deeply so when I saw what she was doing to them I flew into a rage. I called her and confronted her with this outrageous behavior. The best she could do is stoop to name calling and threats. I told her if she felt froggy to go ahead a jump then tossed the phone to my husband. She had the nerve to ask him if this was true and he told her "Yeah, you always have". She then resorted to asking him if he would ever take her back. He told her, "Hell No". "Not even for the kids" and he pointed out to her that she was using them as pawns right then and told her, "There is no force between heaven and hell that would ever make me take you back!"

As for having a child to keep a man, I've seen it time and time again, it NEVER works out the way they want or hope. I have a friend who has 5 children and doesn't have custody of any of them. Nor is she with any of the fathers. To top it off she is wanting to have another child that she doesn't have the means to take care of. When will it stop.

Agreed.

Bringing a child into the world for only attention? I feel it's very selfish and terrible.

To bring another life (a helpless one, at that) into the world only because someone is so self-absorbed/selfish is disturbing because if they're so self-absorbed to the point they would do something so huge, it really makes you wonder how they're going to manage to become un-selfish in 9 months time so that they can actually take care of the child. That's sad. Even sadder is I know more than one girl who did become pregnant on purpose for only attention and did not want the child. One of them even had their partner thinking they were on birth control, when they'd secretly stopped taking it. The pregnancy was a huge surprise to him. Needless to say, they are not together anymore and the child was pawned off on the grandmother who was already raising 7 other kids that were not hers, but her children's! I hate that people don't take into account how much damage they are possibly doing to the child's life, because I doubt many of them who did it only for attention miraculously end up loving and properly caring for it in 9 months after the fact. Someone that selfish does not change in nine months, so the child won't properly be cared for, if any at all cared for.

Maybe I've seen too many kids not cared for by their parents and pawned off on someone else, where that person has to see the pain the children have every single freaking day of their lives. Maybe that's why I feel so strongly about this. At this current moment, it flat-out pisses me off to see this happen. To see people purposefully having kids and not caring about them (there are other options!) and people pawning them off on other people and never caring about the pain they're causing those kids & especially (especially) when the particular "parent" has already done this to their children and then become pregnant again, and again, never even making one tiny effort to prevent it. There are options & I'm all for choices and having free time alone from the kids for a while, but when you do so much damage over and over to your kids and keep freaking having them to damage some more, it gets to me.

And to lie and sneakily become pregnant behind your partner's back, what the F!? That's not only immature, but it's not cute to play with other people's lives that way (the unsuspecting partner or the poor child). If you feel you have to become pregnant with them by lying about preventing it, then clearly it's not the time to be having a child, or it's the time to go about it another way. It usually means the spouse isn't ready, but hey, who cares when you can lie and "accidentally&quo t; become pregnant? Forcing another life on your partner cannot signify a very... good or strong relationship. And say that partner has no intentions on raising kids ever. Does a girl just not care & stick them with one anyways? Selfish again.

I also know situations where the male spouse does sneaky shi* because he wants a child when she does not. I know of a situation where a male lied to his partner for a year saying he was not able (said he had a vasectomy!) and well, what happened? Of course she ended up pregnant. This happens to be a person who already has one kid that isn't even allowed to see her & there's even more problems that are just insane. So I think it's crap to do something like this, whether it's a male or female. BOTH should be in agreement on something like this.

Accidents are a different story. They happen & if both parties have already talked about what can come from having sex (which if they have already had sex, I sure hope they thought to discuss some things first) and agree that if ever an accident did happen, they'd both be okay with it and be involved with the child's life, love it, do their best ,etc. Fine. That happens and it doesn't end badly every time. However, doing sneaky things that involve seriously affecting lives just because one is so beyond selfish tells me something more is going on. Perhaps something is wrong.