Sex And Religion. At what age did your views change?

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Sex And Religion. At what age did your views change?

Tigerlily808 Tigerlily808
Okay I'm going to jump right into it. I'm a Christian and I come from a very religious household but my parents aren't uber strict. Anyway, growing up in the church I was always taught the ten commandments. The whole obey your parents, don't steal, don't kill, don't lie, etc. The one they always emphasized was no sex before marriage. They even said masturbation and watching porn was a sin. But then I got older and I began to listen more and see more and when I reached high school at the age of 15, I threw those sex rules out the window. I thought I would feel bad of some sort but I didn't. However if you asked me what the bible says about prematural sex, I'll tell you the bible says it's a no-go. But if you asked me what I thought of it, I'd say it's cool. If you were given rules about sex in general at a young age, when did you begin ignoring the rule? Were these rules there because of religion or just a strict upbringing.
01/31/2013
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hjtee hjtee
I never grew up religious, so there was never any 'bible-guilt' about having pre-martial sex. Additionally, my parents never really set any guidelines or age limit on sex.

Sorry, that's not really helpful when it comes to answering your question!
01/31/2013
laflauta laflauta
My family stopped going to church when I was about 10, so I wasn't even old enough to hear my church's stance on premarital sex yet. However, I did internalize the societal view that sex (especially for women) is bad before marriage. I'd guess I got beyond those views at around 15.
01/31/2013
Bleu Bleu
I've never like religion. I did go to church as a kid (from around 1-10) and I could not get why everyone taught one thing but did another. As anyone who is super involved in their church knows, people talk and do things the bible wouldn't be proud of all the time. Especially in the churches I went to. It's different being a sinner when you come in there but continuing to "sin" as you preach is not very good. Then having the same person teach children about sex, relationships, and what partners should and should not do is so hypocritical.

When I was 10 (almost 11) the Sunday School teacher nicely explained that people should "remain pure" until marriage after an older kid asked about it. Now, I went and asked a few adults in the church if they remained pure and (I could tell very early on when people were lying to me) they gave me the nervous smile and said yes.

I never understood why it was so bad. I think sex is so important in a relationship that waiting until marriage after years of masturbation and fantasizing (for most people), is dangerous and can destroy a relationship. So I would say I was around 14 when I ditched the "remain pure" and just went that if I was going to lose my virginity before marriage then it was god's plan and he would love me otherwise. He made me, right?
02/01/2013
MissAdara MissAdara
This is an interesting subject. I went to church from 2 weeks old-11. Things happened and didn't really get back into church until 2011. I was always taught that sex before marriage was bad, family-wise, weeelll....my grandma, mother, and aunt (at least, dunno about everyone else in my family) got pregnant before marriage LOL. But no one was condemned for it. I know what the bible says, and I know it's up to me to decide whether I want to follow it or not. I chose to wait, I've been so tempted many times, but when I was 13 a girl my age got pregnant, and her bf was a total dog. Right then it cemented my decision to wait. I have no problems with masturbation (obviously), I do think porn isn't the best thing for you though. Ultimately, the bible gives you rules, but as every single person knows, rules have been broken since the beginning, and God gave us free will so.
Just my two cents lol.
02/01/2013
butts butts
I didn't grow up with sexual restrictions really, more so just being left in the dark and discouraged from getting with boys because I SWEAR my mother secretly hates men. Luckily I had the internet from an early age and I was well educated on sexuality by the time I started having sex hhahah
02/01/2013
Tigerlily808 Tigerlily808
Quote:
Originally posted by Bleu
I've never like religion. I did go to church as a kid (from around 1-10) and I could not get why everyone taught one thing but did another. As anyone who is super involved in their church knows, people talk and do things the bible wouldn't be ...
Exactly. When ever an adult told me to wait until I'd wonder if they waited. I know they didn't and I don't hold it against them. The only two adults I know for sure waited are my grandparents. Funny thing is those are are also the only two who never encouraged me to wait.
02/01/2013
Tigerlily808 Tigerlily808
Quote:
Originally posted by MissAdara
This is an interesting subject. I went to church from 2 weeks old-11. Things happened and didn't really get back into church until 2011. I was always taught that sex before marriage was bad, family-wise, weeelll....my grandma, mother, and aunt ...
Why don't you think porn is okay? Just curious.
02/01/2013
GONE! GONE!
I started changing my beliefs around 15. I grew up in an Xtian household that was very oppressive about sex.
02/12/2013
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