Sex Everyday For 30 Days - Not As Fun As Might Seem?

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Sex Everyday For 30 Days - Not As Fun As Might Seem?

Stellar Stellar
So, the new week is here, I hope you all rested well, because here am I with new hot topics for us to discuss!

I think we shall begin with something really catchy - like sex everyday for a month! Sounds marvelous, huh? Well, guys, apparently, not so much. Buzzfeed.com made a survey based on the teachings of a sexologist Dr. Ava Cadell. They recruited three couples, who were risky enough to agree and to participate in this kind of sexperiment.

You can see for yourselves how well (or not) did it work out for them in the video you see above the text. If you are too lazy to watch the video or you just like reading what I'm writing, please, do proceed with reading further!

The interest of the survey was into establishing whether this "once a day sex" thing will influence relationship, will it build up to intimacy or turn lovers way from each other.

The first couple, Mallory and Kevin, normally have sex five times a week, which is pretty nice already.
Mallory and Kevin

Suki and Dimitri called themselves more of a two-to-three-times-a-w eek type of couple (although Dimitri feels like it’s more of a once-a-month affair).
Suki and Dimitri

Finally, R.J. and Will also stuck to the two-to-three-times-a-w eek party.
R.J. and Will

Each couple had set their own rules to compete this demanding challenge.
Rules

So they went on with it. A first couple of days was fun, and all of them thought this was no biggie. After a week things became a bit more intense.
Day 7

When the half of the challenge was behind them, Dr. Ava tried to convince the lovers that orgasm doesn't equal sex, and that they can enjoy each other's intimacy without climaxing. Judging by their faces, they were doubtful about it. I personally think it's really hard not to think of climax when you're having sex. Yes, intimacy and all that stuff is nice and important, but looks a bit futile, doesn't it?

R.J. and Will didn't like how this challenge was turning sex into some kind of a mandatory work.
Chore

Although, Suki and Dimitri were having kind of fun with it, despite their schedules didn't fit and it was really physically demanding.
Round up

When the end was nigh, Mallory and Kevin thought they wouldn't like sex anymore.
Mallory

Suki and Dimitri seemed more optimistic.
Day 26

When it was all over, each couple admitted it was tiring AF!
AF

As you might have guesses, only Suki and Dimitri have found this challenge bringing a positive (sensationally positive) effect on their relationship.
More sex


My question is simple, my dears - Do you think that having sex everyday is more of a good or an exhausting experience?

As we can see, 1 out of 3 couples found it beneficial, the others were just tired like hell.

I think that's a sexual temperament thing - if you don't express it enough, you need more sexual activity, and you'll bloom after bringing that out. If vice versa, there's a serious risk of hating your partner for sticking things inside of you (from my girly perspective). So, flourishing sex life on one scale-pan, a risk of having even less sex if any at all - on the other. What would be your verdict?
Mar 28, 7:53 am
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OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
We don't think it is. At one time we were every other day. And that was when we both had smooth easy jobs. So you know that didn't last long. LOL. A few times we tried to do it everyday but only got as far as 4 days in a row and only maybe twice. Last night we had a long session of self and fore play. Then some great sex. Today I don't feel like doing it. I won't know about her til much later tonight. We are both working late tonight and prob be too tired.

Exhausting is our 4 bits
Mar 28, 7:18 pm
unfulfilled unfulfilled
It would seem like a chore/task I had to get accomplished that day and not spontaneous/romantic. I would not like this at all.
Mar 29, 9:48 am
surreptitious surreptitious
When I'm seeing someone regularly, I tend to like having sex at least once or twice a day (sometimes three times, or sometimes none... it really depends). That being said, I /don't/ equate orgasms with sex (either his or mine - I don't like to orgasm during sex at all, and he's content with stopping before he's finished if that's how it plays out), and I certainly wouldn't like it if someone said "you have to have sex every day."

But for me, once a day is about average when it's possible. If one of us is sick or not in the mood or busy, it's by no means the end of the world if it doesn't happen. But that's generally about how I like it to work out.
Mar 29, 10:09 am
Stellar Stellar
So, here are three of you saying that it would be exhausting and not fun at all... Hm... That kinda ruins my statistics
But, I'm just interested, could any of you agree that this kind of exercise can help some couples to increase intimacy level?
Mar 31, 7:22 am
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Quote:
Originally posted by Stellar
So, here are three of you saying that it would be exhausting and not fun at all... Hm... That kinda ruins my statistics
But, I'm just interested, could any of you agree that this kind of exercise can help some couples to increase intimacy level?
Yes, we def think it would increase our intimacy levels. Doing, caring, trying to please partner will certainly do that. Main thing is trying to think of your partner. We both enjoy the long period of cuddling and thank you afterwards.

Mar 31, 3:09 pm
catt catt
Every day sex is a wonderful experience and more than once a day is awesome!
As long as it comes naturally...but to be put on a schedule that must be adhered to takes all of the fun out of it...

I would reference a couple I knew trying to conceive...when they were just trying on their own...they were happy and accepted the fact that they didn't succeed that time...
Once they went to a doctor and were put on schedules and a 'demand performance'...not only did they not succeed but they were miserable and resentful

sex is fun and exciting once a day, a week, or a month just do it!

But yes, Stellar, I would agree that this may help people in trouble with intimacy...but not on schedule everyday...maybe an agreement to step up to more times per week or something a little different
Apr 2, 1:32 pm
Vnessa Vnessa
I think it would be fun try, just to see how far we get, but I know our schedules would sabotage it in no time flat. I could also see it becoming more of a chore and less enjoyable for couples who may not have a big underlying problem to begin with. You would have to go into it with an open mind and enough common sense to know if the experiment is doing more harm than good---and when to call it quits. For those couples who are really struggling with intimacy, I can see how something like this could probably help make them stronger, though.
Apr 3, 10:20 pm
BlackOrchid BlackOrchid
I would not want to partake in this activity, if I did not want to have sex and felt like I had to it would be the hugest turn off ever. I give credit to these people for trying.
Apr 4, 8:38 am
DancerKittyKat DancerKittyKat
I think that the minute you make something a "task," "requirement," or "chore," you are condemning the act to be less enjoyable. However, if the couple actively seeks out variety, 30 days of sex could be fun. Of course, communication would be key.

Also, in the BuzzFeed video, one couples stipulated that the sex needs to involve both parties climaxing. Many people do not climax easily or at all. The added pressure of climaxing could make it harder to climax and less enjoyable if the sex becomes frustrating.
Apr 4, 11:51 am
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Maybe if we went to a beautiful island resort all expenses paid, we would try having sex everyday. No stress, no worries, no chores, nice romantic days and nights, waited on hand and foot. That's what I'm talking about !

And maybe even have sex several times a day.
Apr 5, 2:14 pm
Peg Peg
The idea of having sex for 30 days sounds appealing but having "rules" for it to count as sex seems to take away from the act... Our sex is not based on rules in order for it to count but spontaneity, what feels good and giving pleasure. For us sex does not have to result in mind blowing orgasams every time although they are nice, to count as sex. Just a thought but maybe that is how the actors/actresses in porn can have sex every day, they are performers following a script. That being said there may be some who really enjoy every take of every scene but some videos do include outakes and bloopers which leads me to believe the script "rules" are what drives the scenes.
Apr 5, 8:07 pm
RockDoc RockDoc
I don't think either of us could commit to 30 days. Some days you just don't or can't. Kudos to those who can.
Apr 7, 10:15 am
Deja-vu Dream Deja-vu Dream
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Originally posted by Stellar
So, the new week is here, I hope you all rested well, because here am I with new hot topics for us to discuss!

I think we shall begin with something really catchy - like sex everyday for a month! Sounds marvelous, huh? Well, guys, apparently, ...
Interesting experiment, but I think it would be a real chore. Plus I am sure that one or both of us would get sore pretty soon.
Jul 13, 4:11 pm
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by Deja-vu Dream
Interesting experiment, but I think it would be a real chore. Plus I am sure that one or both of us would get sore pretty soon.
Amen , for sure
Jul 13, 6:49 pm
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