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Fascinating! Is there a particular instrument you fancy?
edit - there's a tl;dr below so you can skip all this
I play flute/piccolo and piano. I didn't start music lessons until I was 8 and took theory (which included piano) and surprised everyone. I look back as an adult and am really shocked, but as a kid, it wasn't anything special, I did what I liked. That's when I taught myself flute when I asked for one. I wanted to learn a new instrument at least each year! My parents wouldn't let me take any more lessons because they wanted me to focus on school. Oh, was I steamed when my parents said it was too expensive and I had to stick with flute and piano; I had plans! They gave me a piccolo for Christmas as a peace offering, lol! But never caved in, much to my chagrin.
So, we had to decide when I was 9 whether I was going to pursue music exclusively, or as an extracurricular activity. There are a lot more talented people out there and the pressure to be the very best was not something they wanted for me - the odds are not good - then you end up struggling to make a living. Since I was excelling in school, they decided I had a much better chance of success pursuing academics. I still can't watch these little kids performing on you tube, it makes me sad. No matter what anyone says, the pressure is enormous and as they age, they loose their 'edge' (meaning the uniqueness of youth), unless they are the one in a million star. So many child prodigies burn out and find their lives were controlled by others for so long, they were like little robots. Luckily, music wasn't my only talent, so I had choices. (God that sounds pretentious, sorry!)
I am relieved (but still wistful) that things worked out as they did, but I am a more rounded individual. I see a friend from back then who wasn't as gifted, but worked really hard and she is still struggling, teaching music lessons to kids who don't want to be there and playing in a second rate orchestra. You can be the most industrious person ever and you still cannot beat the person born with the talent who works half as hard as you -- you just can't compete, let alone if they do
work as hard as you. And I don't know why she never learned it, but it's sad that at 45 she is still struggling so hard.
So, I stayed in lessons, did the youth orchestra thing, did the solo performances, but all after school. I am grateful to my parents for all the time and money spent on lessons! And now that I have the migraine thing, I cannot even pick up the flute most days because blowing & noise is not the best thing for your head. At least I haven't lost my music skills as much as I lost my French, lol! But not speaking French was on purpose after having a horrid time in France that scarred me forever, lol! (Bastards were so mean, makes you realize how nice Americans are about trying to understand non-native speakers!)
Holy Moses, I just wrote a novel, sorry!
tl:dr My parents decided to not have me pursue music exclusively.