Should this person get tubes tied?

Contributor: kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
if someone has health issues that affect daily life everyday and its quite bad should they get their tubes tied?

If they got pregnant right after birth should they do the tube thing?

Someone who doesnt like birth control pills or objects inserted as birth control and also really doesnt like doctors/surgery...

What would be best bet?
07/31/2012
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Contributor: Littleone7 Littleone7
Seems like it might be there best option depending on how they feel about having kids
07/31/2012
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
What about using condoms? That someone doesn't need to do anything, let the guy take on the responsibility. If that someone who doesn't like doctors/surgery get her tubes tied and regret it later, she'll have to do a Reverse Tubal Ligation surgery, that means more visits to the doctors and spending lots of unnecessary money - is it worth it?
07/31/2012
Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
I have health issues that affect my daily life AND I have a child. It was a decision I didn't take lightly, but the decision I made. I would be pissed as all hell if someone took my right to that decision away.

I do not plan on having another child because I couldn't handle more than one with my health. I didn't get my tubes tied after birth because I don't like making permanent life altering decisions, no matter how strongly I feel about something. I use Implanon, which is hassle free on my end and works for three years. At the end of the three years, we will be revisiting a vasectomy for my husband, at his request, not mine.
07/31/2012
Contributor: Katelyn Katelyn
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Originally posted by - Kira -
I have health issues that affect my daily life AND I have a child. It was a decision I didn't take lightly, but the decision I made. I would be pissed as all hell if someone took my right to that decision away.

I do not plan on having ... more
Having a child does not depend on your physicality. Anyone can be a loving parent, no matter their bodily setbacks. I think parenting is about the love you give your child. If this is a personal decision and you feel that this is in the best interest of your future as well as a childs' I would suggest something longer term like an Intra-uterine device. But a child will love you even if you can play with him or her for an extended period of time, just be willing to be emotionally available! Stephen Hawking has kids,
this is her with him
07/31/2012
Contributor: kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
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Originally posted by Rossie
What about using condoms? That someone doesn't need to do anything, let the guy take on the responsibility. If that someone who doesn't like doctors/surgery get her tubes tied and regret it later, she'll have to do a Reverse Tubal ... more
ok how about a married woman who hates condoms along with husband.

do you thin ka married woman who wants to spend lots of time with husband and likes kid but is ill should not have anymore do to kids are work and illness can interfere?
07/31/2012
Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
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Originally posted by kinky girlfriend
ok how about a married woman who hates condoms along with husband.

do you thin ka married woman who wants to spend lots of time with husband and likes kid but is ill should not have anymore do to kids are work and illness can interfere?
I love spending time with my husband. I actually don't like kids in general, but I love MY son.

For me, my son gives me a reason to keep going. I know he needs me in his life, being the best I can be. So I try harder to stay healthy for him. I do what I can, but I am not as involved of a mom as those without illness. There are times I have to have my mom watch him for short periods of time while my husband cares for me and works. I feel terrible when this happens, but that's part of my life. What I know is that NO ONE could love him like I do. I know that having a child changed my life for the better, and even though there are days it is HARD, I would not have it any other way.

Is that something that can be said for everyone? Nope. Having a child needs to be a personal decision, not one folks on the internet make for you.
07/31/2012
Contributor: kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
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Originally posted by - Kira -
I love spending time with my husband. I actually don't like kids in general, but I love MY son.

For me, my son gives me a reason to keep going. I know he needs me in his life, being the best I can be. So I try harder to stay healthy for ... more
maybe 1 kid best for an ill woman who enjoys lots of alone quiet time who has health/monetary issues and things she wants to do.
07/31/2012
Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
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Originally posted by kinky girlfriend
maybe 1 kid best for an ill woman who enjoys lots of alone quiet time who has health/monetary issues and things she wants to do.
If you have "things [you] want to do" and feel you will not be able to put these things aside for your child, don't have a child. That matters more than any illness. It is selfless giving that makes a great parent, not health. I do not do even half the activities I once did. While there I days I miss my quiet time and even more so my party time, I would not trade for my son. He is everything to me. If you can't give up things for a child, then do not have a child.
07/31/2012
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
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Originally posted by - Kira -
If you have "things [you] want to do" and feel you will not be able to put these things aside for your child, don't have a child. That matters more than any illness. It is selfless giving that makes a great parent, not health. I do ... more
I agree, you shouldn't consider even having 'one' kid if the child will create so many issues for you (at least for the time-being), and it's not fair to the child. Although you don't want to get pregnant, you're also plain rejecting any birth control method other people are suggesting. If you really want to tie your tubes, no one can stop you, but you might regret the decision a few years later when your health and everything else have improved.
07/31/2012
Contributor: Noelle Noelle
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Originally posted by kinky girlfriend
if someone has health issues that affect daily life everyday and its quite bad should they get their tubes tied?

If they got pregnant right after birth should they do the tube thing?

Someone who doesnt like birth control pills or ... more
I think its a personal choice, but after I had my son, I thought I was done, and lo and behold, I was pregnant w/ my daughter. She was over 10lbs, so I decided, TUBE TIED for me!! After giving birth to that THANKSGIVING DAY TURKEY, I almost gave up sex completely...ALMOST...
08/01/2012
Contributor: kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
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Originally posted by Rossie
I agree, you shouldn't consider even having 'one' kid if the child will create so many issues for you (at least for the time-being), and it's not fair to the child. Although you don't want to get pregnant, you're also plain ... more
what if someone wants 1 kid but they think having one is best because of several factors,cost,time,illn ess,complications/illn ess,pregnancy hard on body.

The birth control thing maybe someone just wants 1 considering everything but what if they were afraid of the tubal option because they don't want plastic or metal permanently stuck in their body? What if

I think the femcap is less invasive however can you do it without applying the chemical spermicide gel stuff?

If you can get the tubal thing without plastic or any metal inserted or any cutting/lazering would be nice.
08/01/2012
Contributor: kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
Quote:
Originally posted by Rossie
I agree, you shouldn't consider even having 'one' kid if the child will create so many issues for you (at least for the time-being), and it's not fair to the child. Although you don't want to get pregnant, you're also plain ... more
what if someone wants 1 kid but they think having one is best because of several factors,cost,time,illn ess,complications/illn ess,pregnancy hard on body.

The birth control thing maybe someone just wants 1 considering everything but what if they were afraid of the tubal option because they don't want plastic or metal permanently stuck in their body? What if

I think the femcap is less invasive however can you do it without applying the chemical spermicide gel stuff?

If you can get the tubal thing without plastic or any metal inserted or any cutting/lazering would be nice.
08/01/2012
Contributor: kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
Quote:
Originally posted by Rossie
I agree, you shouldn't consider even having 'one' kid if the child will create so many issues for you (at least for the time-being), and it's not fair to the child. Although you don't want to get pregnant, you're also plain ... more
what if someone wants 1 kid but they think having one is best because of several factors,cost,time,illn ess,complications/illn ess,pregnancy hard on body.

The birth control thing maybe someone just wants 1 considering everything but what if they were afraid of the tubal option because they don't want plastic or metal permanently stuck in their body?

I think the femcap is less invasive however can you do it without applying the chemical spermicide gel stuff?

If you can get the tubal thing without plastic or any metal inserted or any cutting/lazering would be nice.
08/01/2012
Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
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Originally posted by kinky girlfriend
what if someone wants 1 kid but they think having one is best because of several factors,cost,time,illn ess,complications/illn ess,pregnancy hard on body.

The birth control thing maybe someone just wants 1 considering everything but what if ... more
Bottom line - you need to make a decision about children on your own. Not based off what random strangers on the internet say.

As for doing a tube tie without cutting, I don't know how that would be possible. Maybe get your significant other to have a vasectomy if you don't want to go through surgery yourself.

The Implanon (what I have) comes out after three years. It's not permanently in your body.
08/01/2012
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by - Kira -
Bottom line - you need to make a decision about children on your own. Not based off what random strangers on the internet say.

As for doing a tube tie without cutting, I don't know how that would be possible. Maybe get your significant ... more
Essure is an alternative as I learned yesterday afternoon. Similar, but less invasive, than a tubal.
08/01/2012
Contributor: kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
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Originally posted by Ansley
Essure is an alternative as I learned yesterday afternoon. Similar, but less invasive, than a tubal.
yes however clamps or plastic.

I Think a person who doesn't like plastic or metal inserted into the body where it can't be taken in and out should try the fem cap.
08/01/2012
Contributor: freshbananas freshbananas
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Originally posted by kinky girlfriend
if someone has health issues that affect daily life everyday and its quite bad should they get their tubes tied?

If they got pregnant right after birth should they do the tube thing?

Someone who doesnt like birth control pills or ... more
I think its about how many kids they can have, want to have and if they can provide of that number. If they are done, then maybe that is good option.
08/01/2012