Do you think your significant other notices your "best features" or your "flaws" more?

Do you think your significant other notices your "best features" or your "flaws" more?

 
 
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Bignuf Bignuf
I tend to notice my flaws far more then he does. I tend to overlook his too. Is that how it is with most of you or after a while do you think your long term significant other starts noticing your less then perfect spots?
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Feb 8, 9:03 pm
Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
She understands me extremely well, often better than I understand myself. She notices both the positives and negatives about me. She still loves me, so I guess she thinks there's more good than bad parts
Feb 8, 9:18 pm
zwee75 zwee75
His constant grabbing for my boobs makes me think he's focused on my good parts.
Feb 8, 9:38 pm
Missmarc Missmarc
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Originally posted by Bignuf
I tend to notice my flaws far more then he does. I tend to overlook his too. Is that how it is with most of you or after a while do you think your long term significant other starts noticing your less then perfect spots?
He notices my flaws, and bottles it up until we fight. Then he brings it all up.
Feb 8, 9:39 pm
zwee75 zwee75
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Originally posted by Missmarc
He notices my flaws, and bottles it up until we fight. Then he brings it all up.
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Feb 8, 9:40 pm
Destri Destri
He sees me as a beautiful woman... I don't think he sees any of my flaws (which are many). The closest he ever comes is when he tells me my hair is sticking up in the back LOL
Feb 9, 1:00 am
Cookie Monster Mike Cookie Monster Mike
She notices almost everything about me and retains all the important details. She loves my quirkiness, humor, craziness, cookie obsession, hyperness, when I annoy her etc. She loves my flaws and qualities Vica versa for me too.
Feb 9, 1:02 am
bayosgirl bayosgirl
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Yeah, I think that's characteristic of most men (and probably women too.) When we're not fighting, I'm perfect, but when we do fight you'd think I was the worst person in the world. Go figure.
Feb 9, 1:07 am
BlooJay BlooJay
I know she notices my best features because she will bring them up. But every once in awhile, she will bring up a flaw of mine. I only notice her good qualities.
Feb 9, 1:15 am
deltalima deltalima
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Originally posted by Bignuf
I tend to notice my flaws far more then he does. I tend to overlook his too. Is that how it is with most of you or after a while do you think your long term significant other starts noticing your less then perfect spots?
Hmmm, time to reevaluate my relationship.
Feb 9, 2:33 am
ladychristie ladychristie
J notices both good and bad but really focused on my weight pre pregnancy he said it was unhealthy I only weighed 100 if that. But he admired my patience and understanding as a parent so I could deal with the nitpicking on my weight and the pounds of food he always made me eat.
Feb 9, 6:11 am
KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
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Originally posted by Bignuf
I tend to notice my flaws far more then he does. I tend to overlook his too. Is that how it is with most of you or after a while do you think your long term significant other starts noticing your less then perfect spots?
@_@ ...according to him I don't have any flaws. (yes ladies, he's dead serious when he says that)
Even so I still do what I can to look as good as possible in his eyes. =3
Feb 9, 11:18 am
wdanas wdanas
I don't think we even notice the flaws except for when one or the other of us brings it up about ourselves. Then we'll support each other in changing something or just sort of shrug and get on with the day if it's something you can't really change. It's all part of the package, I guess.
Feb 9, 1:15 pm
sweetiejo sweetiejo
My guy is great about complimenting my better features, but he notices my flaws but won't mention them unless i drag it out of him, Even then he is pretty good about buffering it.
Feb 9, 2:26 pm
js250 js250
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Originally posted by Missmarc
He notices my flaws, and bottles it up until we fight. Then he brings it all up.
Same here!! I have just started to learn how to tune it out and not react with anger or hurt. It has been a long road, but people like that are so insecure with their own flaws, they need to build themselves up by concentrating on others' flaws.
Feb 9, 2:42 pm
Beck Beck
Mine notices the good and the bad.
Feb 9, 2:58 pm
Curiouscat Curiouscat
He notices the good things. He knows I have flaws, every human being does. He accepts them and loves me anyway.
Feb 9, 3:06 pm
DynamicKitty DynamicKitty
He notices the flaws but focuses more on the good.
Feb 9, 3:10 pm
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Mine notices both, and tries to help me on my flaws that can be fixed. IE my anger problems.
Feb 9, 3:23 pm
JR JR
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My ex's were always hung up on a couple of my flaws. Their loss if they can't see my good points.
Feb 9, 3:32 pm
Eliyahu Eliyahu
Pretty sure she's more focused on my better features than my flaws or shortcomings.
Feb 9, 3:45 pm
FleurDevereux FleurDevereux
I notice my flaws and point them out and he always tells me they don't bother him or he doesn't even notice them, and he loves everything good about me, I do the same with him and I really don't notice his flaws.
Feb 9, 7:51 pm
Highmaintenancegirl916 Highmaintenancegirl916
He Notice My good and bad flaws.
Feb 9, 8:20 pm
GravyCakes GravyCakes
i was a lot heavier when my bf & i first started dating. i was really insecure about it, & would talk about what i didn't like about my body more than i should. finally, one day, he said to me, "babe, you need to stop pointing these things out all the time, b/c i'm starting to see it." ever since then, if i say something negative about my appearance, i play it off as a jk, or i'll just look at myself & say, "ah, i can fix that in the gym." he's always loved the way i look.
Feb 11, 8:18 pm
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