Single Parenting: Were you raised by a single parent? Are you a single parent? Is your child a single parent?

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Single Parenting: Were you raised by a single parent? Are you a single parent? Is your child a single parent?

js250 js250 02/13/2012

I am really wondering if issues like divorce, single parenting and unplanned pregnancies really do run in families or if it is just another myth. Please answer all the polls in order so we can have an accurate comparison. This should be a great learning experience.

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Did you grow up in a single parent household? Which parent were you raised by? What were the circumstances of the single parenthood?
02/13/2012
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PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
No I was not.
02/13/2012
Taylor Taylor
My mom died when I was 9. After that I just lived with my dad until he remairried when I was 18.

I know quite a few single moms and I always find it interesting to see what kinds of things they prioritize vs. what kinds of things my dad prioritized. It seems like every single mom I've talked to raises their kids totally different than how my dad raised me.

I'd be interested to talk to someone who was raised by their dad to see if they had a similar experience, but I haven't met too many single dads or people who were raised by one.
02/13/2012
Coralbell Coralbell
I wasn't raised by a single parent.
02/13/2012
Crystal1 Crystal1
Nope.
02/13/2012
T&A1987 T&A1987
single mom because all relationships are farces for pleasure.
02/13/2012
Baby-Baby Baby-Baby
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Originally posted by js250
Did you grow up in a single parent household? Which parent were you raised by? What were the circumstances of the single parenthood?
I am a single parent.
02/14/2012
Superbals Superbals
raised by a single parent with a couple "step fathers"
02/14/2012
Eva Schwaltz Eva Schwaltz
I was raised by a single parent, and I don't have kids yet.
02/14/2012
AmberM AmberM
I Was raised by my mother, and do not have children yet.
02/14/2012
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by js250
Did you grow up in a single parent household? Which parent were you raised by? What were the circumstances of the single parenthood?
I was raised in a two parent household by my biological parents.
02/14/2012
amandaco2011 amandaco2011
I was raised by just my mother when my father left when I was young.
02/14/2012
unfulfilled unfulfilled
No I was not. My parents are fixing to celebrate their 43rd wedding anniversary Feb 16th!
02/14/2012
DreamWolf DreamWolf
Nope I wasn't...
02/15/2012
KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
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Originally posted by js250
Did you grow up in a single parent household? Which parent were you raised by? What were the circumstances of the single parenthood?
My mother gave birth to and raised me and did a damn fine job of it. I'm so proud of her for being the incredible woman she is, she's the best mother I think I could have ever hoped for.

She did such a good job that I really didn't care that I never met my father.
02/15/2012
TitsMcScandal TitsMcScandal
I was raised by my mother.
02/15/2012
eeep eeep
I was raised by a single mom.
02/24/2012
AJvil AJvil
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Originally posted by js250
Did you grow up in a single parent household? Which parent were you raised by? What were the circumstances of the single parenthood?
I was raised mostly in a single parent household, my mom
02/29/2012
Starshiptrooper84 Starshiptrooper84
No I had both my parents. But my mom has hated my Dad's guts for the past ten or eleven years and left him 2 years ago as soon as my youngest brother hit 18.
03/01/2012
Ansley Ansley
Yes, I was raised in a single parent environment; my mother. My dad was a philandering alcoholic sociopath. No one should be raised in that environment (still, he had visitation rights).
03/02/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
My parents divorced when I was about 18. It wasn't much of a marriage, lots of resentment and game playing. I vowed never to treat a man the way my mother treated my father. NO ONE deserves to be continually criticized and nagged night and day. Yet her stories always shine on her as the Victim. Sheesh.

I don't nag my man and I rarely criticize (unless we're on the outs, sometimes the poison seeps in.) We've been together longer than my parents were, we have sex all the time and we are in love, yet my mother seems to think she needs to tell me "what men are like." She's rarely correct.
03/02/2012
K101 K101
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Originally posted by js250
Did you grow up in a single parent household? Which parent were you raised by? What were the circumstances of the single parenthood?
While my father worked weird shift throughout most of our lives, he and my mom both took care of us in the same home, thankfully. SO, I was raised by both and am not a single parent. I am a parent and both my partner and I raise the child together. My child is not old enough to have children so no, he is not a single parent.

I guess mine was pretty easy to answer Strange though that it may run in families. Never thought of that...

My older sister (we all have the same parents and were all raised in the house with both parents.) She is a single parent as is my twin sister. I'm the only one that isn't.
03/03/2012
samanthalynn samanthalynn
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Originally posted by js250
Did you grow up in a single parent household? Which parent were you raised by? What were the circumstances of the single parenthood?
im happy to say i was raised with both my parents and me and my husband are togther raising our 2 kids.but i no alot that isnt this lucky
03/21/2012
sexxxkitten sexxxkitten
I was not.
03/21/2012
slynch slynch
My brother & I were raised by our mom.
03/21/2012
buzz buzz
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Originally posted by js250
Did you grow up in a single parent household? Which parent were you raised by? What were the circumstances of the single parenthood?
I was raised by two parents till I was 13, then from 13 to 15 I was raised by my dad only. I don't know if that really counts.
04/11/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
My parents got divorced when I was a teenager. So, I don't consider myself "raised" by a single parent. I was fairly "raised" by the time they broke up.
07/26/2012
giftdgecko giftdgecko
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Originally posted by js250
Did you grow up in a single parent household? Which parent were you raised by? What were the circumstances of the single parenthood?
I was raised by a single parent who had me when she was 17 turning 18 so she took a long time to actually grow up, made for issues as I got older
07/26/2012
LilLostLenore LilLostLenore
yes i was.
07/26/2012
hyacinthgirl hyacinthgirl
I was partially raised by a single father - my mother died when I was 5. My father re-married when I was 11, but I was pretty well formed by then.

My parents were older when I was born (45 and 40), and both had pretty high power jobs (high up military officer and college professor). My mother was diagnosed with malignant breast cancer when I was almost 3, so most of my memories of her involve her dying. My father couldn't be around much because of the huge responsibilities involved in his job, so we had live-in nannies.
07/26/2012
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Unique posters: 29
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PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
I was raised by my mom and step father.
02/13/2012
voenne voenne
I was raised by both parents, technically, but separately. They divorced when I was 11, but were separated on and off since I was 5 or 6. Even when they were living under the same roof, I hardly ever saw them together anyway.

Honestly, though, the situation was so messed up. I ended up being raised more by my grandmother than either parent... And I ran away to live with her before I was of legal age. But the relationship between my grandfather and grandmother was just as bad, though not divorced (financial security, mostly, though I wish they had).
02/14/2012
AmberM AmberM
I was raised by my mother-it was an unplanned pregnancy and my father left.
02/14/2012
unfulfilled unfulfilled
I was raised by both parents though mom was a stay-at-home mom and dad worked to provide for us so I was around her more, but they were both there.
02/14/2012
SexyRayne SexyRayne
My mother tried to raise me but later i went to live with my grandparents, i was unplanned but i know i am very loved. I am married and raising my two girls with my husband. He is stepfather to my older daughter but he treats her like his own. I am lucky to have a good relationship. He is my second husband i married my first daughters father and it didn't work out. we got divorced and i remarried he hasn't.
02/29/2012
Undead Undead
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Originally posted by js250
I have already gone over my reasoning for this comparison and poll, please feel free to elaborate.
I was raised mostly by my mom, they divorced when I was a kid
02/29/2012
Missmarc Missmarc
I was kinda raised by my grandparents for about 8 years.
02/29/2012
Femme Mystique Femme Mystique
My parents divorced when I was 16, but I was raised by both of them, I'd say.
02/29/2012
curious kitten curious kitten
No, my parents were together from when they met till they passed away, first my dad, then my mom a few years later.
03/21/2012
BlooJay BlooJay
Yes, I was raised by my mother only.
03/21/2012
ViVix ViVix
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Originally posted by js250
I have already gone over my reasoning for this comparison and poll, please feel free to elaborate.
I was raised by my mother because my father was abusive, and they divorced.
03/21/2012
giftdgecko giftdgecko
I wasn't planned and my mom was 17 turning 18, she never got married to my father and he wasn't really around because she was caddy and he was kinda meek. Not a situation I recommend
07/26/2012
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Answer the questions and explain 'other' option if marked, please.
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I am a single parent.
02/13/2012
Coralbell Coralbell
No, I am not a parent at all at this point.
02/13/2012
T&A1987 T&A1987
no, it will never happen and even if it did it'd be aborted.
02/13/2012
poetprincess poetprincess
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Originally posted by js250
Answer the questions and explain 'other' option if marked, please.
I am a single parent and I chose to be this way. my children's dad got into some bad stuff and I didnt want it around them.
02/13/2012
AmberM AmberM
I am not a single parent. nor do i plan on it.
02/14/2012
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Answer the questions and explain 'other' option if marked, please.
I am co-parenting with two partners who are the fathers of my children. The total opposite of single parenting!
02/14/2012
unfulfilled unfulfilled
I'm not a single parent. My husband and I are still married and we have 2 boys.
02/14/2012
curious kitten curious kitten
yes, I raised 2 sons after divorce.
03/21/2012
buzz buzz
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Answer the questions and explain 'other' option if marked, please.
I am not a parent
04/11/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
I got married when I was about 3 or 4 months pregnant with our first child. We have already planned to get married, bought a house, and wanted children badly. Our first baby was a surprise, but was totally wanted.

We got married a few months after I found out. We've been together a long time and had two more children and are still together. He's a good dad.
07/26/2012
giftdgecko giftdgecko
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Answer the questions and explain 'other' option if marked, please.
No kids yet! Maybe in the next few years
07/26/2012
Total posts: 12
Unique posters: 12
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PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
I am a single parent because I choose to be. I was with my kids father's for a couple of years and it did not work out, I gave them the option to change their ways on what they were doing and they did not want to listen. Both were alcoholics and one was a cheater and I draw the line when it comes to that stuff.
02/13/2012
Silverdrop Silverdrop
I'm not a parent at all. That didn't seem to be an option here.
02/14/2012
AmberM AmberM
Yeah, Same as Silverdrop.
02/14/2012
unfulfilled unfulfilled
I'm a mother of two sons, and I'm not a single parent. I'm still married to the boys father.
02/14/2012
Femme Mystique Femme Mystique
I act as a parent to a former partner's child and have a joint custody type arrangement, though there is no biological relationship and the child was conceived long before I met my former partner. I stay in the child's life by choice.
02/29/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
No. I live with and love the father of all my children. It's hard work, some of the hardest work I've ever done. But, I was careful when choosing him, as he was with choosing me, and we made sure as much as we could that we were right for each other before going further.

IMO, careful choosing of a life partner , including finding out if the two of you are sexually compatible or not is a good percentage of the equation. The rest of the equation is hard work, love and doing whatever you need to do to get along with that person.
03/02/2012
BlooJay BlooJay
No, I don't have any kids.
03/21/2012
ViVix ViVix
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Please answer the same as the previous poll.
I am a single parent. I was never married to her father. He refused to grow up.
03/21/2012
Total posts: 9
Unique posters: 9
js250 js250
If your child does not fit into this poll, please mark other and explain. Thank you, this should be interesting when we start getting some results.
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My kids are still young.
02/13/2012
T&A1987 T&A1987
no children and if i ever had them i'd tweak their personalities to make them socially unacceptable and virgins for life.
02/13/2012
AmberM AmberM
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no children and if i ever had them i'd tweak their personalities to make them socially unacceptable and virgins for life.
LOL! Oh wow. No. I don't have children yet, so i won't have to worry about that for years.
02/14/2012
unfulfilled unfulfilled
My children are too young to be reproducing.
02/14/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
One of my kids is too young to have kids. The other two do not want them at this point. One is in Grad School and wants to get her career started and on track first, and the other doesn't want kids until her partner can make enough money so she can stay home with the children.

So, no grandbabies for me. Although my best friend is about to become a grandmother today ! Her teenage son and his teen age girlfriend are having their baby today. They are, however, married.
07/26/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
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no children and if i ever had them i'd tweak their personalities to make them socially unacceptable and virgins for life.
You can't. I have three kids with three completely different personalities. There is little or nothing you can do, short of abuse, to change a child's basic personality. Temperament is inborn, and it is the basis of personality.

Personally, I want my children happy and social. However, one of my kids has Asperger's and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. I can't imagine her with a boyfriend, but I'm hoping someday. (She's only 12, but not the most social child. Imagine Sheldon from Big Bang Theory in a 12 year old girl's body. *sigh* Not as fun as it sounds, really.)
07/26/2012
Total posts: 7
Unique posters: 6
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Same as before, guys!!
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HannahPanda HannahPanda
I was adopted, but I wouldn't be a single parent. It sounds so hard :/
02/13/2012
AmberM AmberM
I don't have any children, either.
02/14/2012
unfulfilled unfulfilled
My boys are too young to have children.
02/14/2012
DreamWolf DreamWolf
No lil ones so far...
02/15/2012
Destri Destri
I was a single parent for 2 years, following a divorce and before I remarried. My youngest son is a single parent, he has custody of his teenage son. He was never married to the mother, and she raised him until he reached 16. Then she and her husband were just constantly butting heads with him, and my son took custody. They do fine together.
02/29/2012
Djiffy Djiffy
I was raised by my mother after my parents divorced when I was 13. I'll be curious to see whether I end up a single parent as well. I have no children yet, thank goodness (I'm a bit young for that).
03/21/2012
BlooJay BlooJay
No kids.
03/21/2012
Princess Zelda Princess Zelda
My mom raised me because My dad ran away with another man leaving my mom at the alter when the night before she was pregnant with me.
I am married with a 4 year old
07/26/2012
brevado brevado
Divorced and both remarried.
07/26/2012
Total posts: 10
Unique posters: 10