OK, I know this might sound petty, but remember, Im a mother lol. My sister in law (lives in CO) surprises us with a visit home for the birth of our niece today! She's been in town for almost a week now. Great! Heres the problem: When we found out she was in town, I got bummed because my older two children (from another marriage-not her "blood") would be with their father for Easter weekend. had I known she was going to be in town, I would have made arrangements for us to bring the kids this weekend with us across state. Obviously its too late for that. Bummer big time! Im afraid to tell them that shes even in town because I know how upset they'll be! We haven't seen her since Thanksgiving. So...When we said "Awwww why didn't you say something to use sooner!? We won't have the older kids with us! Just the baby" She says to my husband "Don't worry! Its not a big deal!" and I about blew a gasket. I try my damnedest to make sure that all my children are treated equally between the families. There is no "step/half etc" in my vocabulary and I would be quick to point out to anyone that would be so rude to use them, that its unacceptable to me. (My kids are 8 and 10-My newest daughter is 9months) So, heres my question. Should I say something to her? Should I let it go? I don't want to make a fuss when we see her because the new baby is what this weekend is all about, but I can't take it anymore the way she says things without thinking how it might come off to others or hurt my kids if they heard. She does this a lot. She definitely swoons over my baby girl, but pretty much does this whole "to hell with the other two" thing. It bugs me. Its rude and I can see their hearts break every-time they look to her for attention and affection and she is too busy in my baby's face. Ugh. I hate that!