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Sera26
I was just wondering how prevalent this is.
I had an appointment recently and even though I'm now in a real relationship she still managed to make me feel bad about it. Last time I went it had been quite a while since I'd had any sex
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I was just wondering how prevalent this is.
I had an appointment recently and even though I'm now in a real relationship she still managed to make me feel bad about it. Last time I went it had been quite a while since I'd had any sex (I was going because of pain issues) and she shamed me for my (I think) relatively low number of past partners. I don't feel like I have a choice in the matter because I can only handle going to a female gyno & she's the only 1 in the entire county.
P.S. This is not to say that I think that people who have sex with lots of partners should feel bad about it. That's what I used to want to do when I was single I just didn't have the opportunity/social skills.
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You think she "shamed" you for a LOW number of past partners? That would be the least likely thing I'd expect from a healthcare provider. I'd expect them to "shame" you over too many partners if anything, since that actually is risky for your health.
Strange. No, never experienced this at all and I've had 3 different ones over the years. My current lady is great, actually she's never asked me how many partner's I've had til my last visit, and she said she really hated to ask me these things because she felt they were none of her business or anyone else's, then she said I was free to tell her to shut up and then she proceeded to ask me how many partner's and such. LOL. I just laughed with her, and told her. My number of partners is pretty low, for my age especially and she showed no sign of judgementality toward me at all.
I think it could be the area I live in? I mean, people here are not likely to be all judgemental in that sort of way. Mostly, it's a southern hospitatlity thing I think.
I'm with you on only-female-gynos! I'm very, extremely and strictly female only. For many reasons, one being no matter how much schooling a man has he cannot ever truly know how my female parts go. Wow what county are you in? Here in my small area, we're SMALL and yet we still have more than one. All female too, unless you travel 30-45 minutes, and I prefer female anyway.
My OB/GYN and all 3 of the females I've had over the years were really kind. Except one. I do admit, she was half out of it, but I like that she was kind. I really truly don't think she had a clue where she was half the time or what the blasted heck she was even doing, which is why she's no longer there, but she was kind so it mattered. The very first one I had was the best! I was younger and so terrified of everything all the time, and she actually made a little impact in my life -- helped me through a really terrible struggle. She quit though and moved on to a better job.
Then I'm with someone fairly new to me still. I like her a lot though.
I don't know how I'd handle being stuck with a "professional" who couldn't act any better than that. You know what, if things don't get better and you don't have any other female GYN in your area, you should look into leaving your experience with that office either by email or letter or in person? I know recently there was a little "take one" survey asking how the service was at mine during my last visit. I made an effort to "take one" and fill it out because I want them to know how their patients are feeling. Lol. I mean, I only wish they gave us those back when we had the zombie still working. I was happy to fill it out and let them know that their patient is finally satisfied, and they're on the right track with the new lady. So you should think about doing something like this because there's no sense in you having to put up with nasty people who should be professional, and especially in such a... scary setting! A woman should be made as comfortable as possible by the staff when visiting a place where they touch your hoo-ha! LOL. It's the least they could do.
