A question about swinging neighbors?

A question about swinging neighbors?

Martiniman Martiniman
This question can be answered as a couple or on your own if you're single.

Scenario:
You have new neighbors move in next door to you, and after a few get togethers to get to know each other, they invite you to be their guest at a members only swingers club they belong to.

What do you do?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Tell them hell no and have nothing more to do with them!
princess22 , Noelle
2  (5%)
Politely tell them no thank you, but continue being friends.
Cosmonaut , KyotoAngel , Checkmate , Rossie , Living Doll , leanright69 , Septimus , padmeamidala , doowop , married with children , Sera26 , Rory , Feisty , swordfighter , Gluesnffr , PropertyOfPotter , butts , Nicolelaing89 , ShadowedSeductress , dv8
20  (51%)
Politely tell them no thank you, then avoid them in the future.
Tell them yes, but then cancel thru an email right before the event.
Tell them you need to think about it, yet you have no intent to even think further about it.
Ryuson , Wicked Wahine
2  (5%)
Tell them you need to think about it, then you actually consider the offer.
Katelyn , peachmarie , KinkyKatieJames , joolie , LauraE
5  (13%)
Tell them yes, but you set rules that you're only going because they invited you, but you want no part of sex with strangers.
Tell them yes, you're actually excited to see what a swingers club is all about and you might participate.
Allison.Wilder , Ansley , spiced , TJax , Msmueller
5  (13%)
Tell them yes, you're actually looking forward to becoming a swinger yourself and the sex that lies ahead.
Tell them yes, then ask them if they want to get an early start! (Wink wink)
Airen Wolf , Eugler , Lioncub
3  (8%)
Other...please explain.
Trysexual , PeaceToTheMiddleEast
2  (5%)
Total votes: 39
Poll is closed
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Cosmonaut Cosmonaut
We would say no. I wont be with someone unless they are tested for STDs or if I haven't known them for quite a while.
04/05/2013
Allison.Wilder Allison.Wilder
Quote:
Originally posted by Martiniman
This question can be answered as a couple or on your own if you're single.

Scenario:
You have new neighbors move in next door to you, and after a few get togethers to get to know each other, they invite you to be their guest at a ...
I would tell them yes. I'm so curious. I don't know for certain that I'd be interested in following through with anything, but I've toyed with the idea for a few years and am definitely interested!
04/05/2013
KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
I would probably say no, but remain friends with the people unless things got awkward; in that case I would try to sit down and talk things out.

I'm pretty sure my partner would react the same way too.
My issue with it is that I most likely wouldn't feel right about being with any other man aside from him.

...threesomes with another woman, though, I'd be more than fine with.
But he's not even really up for one of those either. ^_^
04/05/2013
princess22 princess22
def not
04/05/2013
Trysexual Trysexual
Depends on the neighbors
04/05/2013
Septimus Septimus
I'd politely decline. My fiance and I have absolutely no interest in ever being with someone else, especially not a couple that we hardly know.
04/05/2013
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
I'd initially take the easy out, telling them I need to think about it. That will tip them off that it's out of my realm of experience. Then, later if they pursue it, I will tell them, no thank you, it's not for me, but I appreciate the offer. If I already really liked them, I would still be friends with them. I would even probably ask them about their swinging experiences because I'm curious & have no problem discussing anything. Who knows, they might even convince me to go, just to watch what happens, but I know I wouldn't participate, though I have no problem watching!
04/05/2013
spiced spiced
If this had happened when I was single, I'm sure I would have pursued it, but only if I was living there temporarily. I would have loved to try this back then, but I would NOT have wanted to risk screwing up (pun not intended, but appropriate!) neighborly relations in a long-term living situation. Of course, I would have had to find the couple attractive, too, and safe sex would have been a must.

I actually did have an apartment neighbor try to set up a three way with him, me and a hot young woman who lived in our apartment building, years ago when I was in college. I was pretty excited about it — but she WASN'T. Oh, well.
04/05/2013
Lioncub Lioncub
Since we are swingers we'd jump on the invitation.
04/05/2013
TJax TJax
If I was single when this occured I would be more likely to participate. Not sure if I would while in a relationship. Either way I would be curious to see what it's all about.
04/05/2013
married with children married with children
tell them no, and if it came up again I would not have anything to do with them from that point on.
04/05/2013
peachmarie peachmarie
Hmmmm. It would depend, I think I'd be more into it than my boyfriend, so we probably wouldn't because he wouldn't want to.
04/05/2013
KinkyKatieJames KinkyKatieJames
Would definitely want to think about it. My boyfriend and I are very open-minded and experimental. However, we would want to talk privately before we made a decision.
04/05/2013
Msmueller Msmueller
I'm curious just to check out a swingers club... I had been invited to one when I was about 22 and never went, but I'd love to just check it out
04/05/2013
Rory Rory
I would say no and if I liked them and we were getting along I would stay friends.
04/05/2013
Pete's Princess Pete's Princess
I would stay friends but not participate. I would let them know we were flattered to be asked but that is not something that we would feel comfortable doing. I have friends and family members that participate in lifestyles that I would not personally partake in.
04/05/2013
Feisty Feisty
I would say no. That isn't something that we are interested in. We would probably remain friends.
04/05/2013
PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
I actually have been to a swingers club. I would go with them as friends but not take part in the activity's. I would like to remain friends in the long run and not want to feel awkward if it does not go as plans. That way we can be civil neighbors.
04/05/2013
swordfighter swordfighter
I'm not quite into that so I'd politely decline but still see them afterwards even if it's awkward for me.
04/05/2013
Gluesnffr Gluesnffr
No thanks.
04/05/2013
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I would politely decline but continue to be friends with them.
04/05/2013
Noelle Noelle
Quote:
Originally posted by Martiniman
This question can be answered as a couple or on your own if you're single.

Scenario:
You have new neighbors move in next door to you, and after a few get togethers to get to know each other, they invite you to be their guest at a ...
NO THANK YOU!!
04/05/2013
butts butts
I'm not really interested in swinging but I'd continue being friends with them.
04/06/2013
ShadowedSeductress ShadowedSeductress
I would politely decline, then hope to continue a friendship. No reason it needs to ruin a friendship!
04/07/2013
Total posts: 25
Unique posters: 25