Watching teen girls grow up.....whats your parenting style(or what will be like)

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Watching teen girls grow up.....whats your parenting style(or what will be like)

usmcwife99 usmcwife99
Mainly for the women, but guys feel free to awsner

Not all of us have teen girls, so lets say we do

This disscussion was sparked by my sisters(ime more of a mom then a sister, and I have custody of them)

We all know one day our kids will start to kiss, then makeout and well before we know it they will be having kids of there own. As a parent whats your take on this, whats the age you let them do this. Do you think you wont even let them kiss till shes 18. Do you think you wont control it. With the whole issue of sex edd in schools, do we even need to tell them about condoms.

Bascily talk about your parenting style you plan/have with your daughters.

Perhaps a few things to include are......

-Will you let them watch porn
-Will you let them openly talk to you about sex
-would you let them know what youve done in your past
-do you think you should and have a right to know everything your daughters done
-would you get your daughter on birthcontrol for the SOLE PURPOSE of she plans on having sex even with a condom
-would you let your daughter go to a after prom party
-would you let her have a boyfriend at 13
-what if she wanted a viberator
-would you even joke about making out, or give advice
-would you let her wear a thong
-basicly stuff like that
07/24/2010
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NuMe NuMe
I've already raised 3 grown daughters and here are my answers. And remember this is how I feel about it, not necessarily everyone elses opinions.

-Will you let them watch porn
(NO!!!)
-Will you let them openly talk to you about sex
(Of course)
-would you let them know what youve done in your past
(Not on your life! I've already told them it's none of their business)
-do you think you should and have a right to know everything your daughters done
(No, they deserve the same right)
-would you get your daughter on birthcontrol for the SOLE PURPOSE of she plans on having sex even with a condom
(That would be up to them, I would discuss it with them though)
-would you let your daughter go to a after prom party
(No)
-would you let her have a boyfriend at 13
(No way!)
-what if she wanted a viberator
(No)
-would you even joke about making out, or give advice
(Yes)
-would you let her wear a thong
(Sure, why not)
07/24/2010
Alicia Alicia
Quote:
Originally posted by usmcwife99
Mainly for the women, but guys feel free to awsner

Not all of us have teen girls, so lets say we do

This disscussion was sparked by my sisters(ime more of a mom then a sister, and I have custody of them)

We all know one day our ...
-Will you let them watch porn --not with my knowledge of it until they're 18.

-Will you let them openly talk to you about sex -- absolutely

-would you let them know what youve done in your past -- not details

-do you think you should and have a right to know everything your daughters done-- not a right, no. I'd hope she'd let me in on the big stuff though.

-would you get your daughter on birthcontrol for the SOLE PURPOSE of she plans on having sex even with a condom -- yes, but I'd let her know she should still have the guy wear condoms because it will protect her against STDs that BC will not.

-would you let your daughter go to a after prom party-- yes, I think it's part of growing up.

-would you let her have a boyfriend at 13 -- a boyfriend yes, unsupervised dates at a non public place? No.

-what if she wanted a viberator-- depends on the age really

-would you even joke about making out, or give advice-- sure, why not. I'm not going to give in depth advice

-would you let her wear a thong -- as a teen I would, before probably 15 or so...no.
07/24/2010
Sir Sir
Pornographic films, that depends. I'd like to approve the film beforehand if they plan to watch it, because there are certain things that I would not want them exposed to.

I would definitely talk openly and freely about sex, yes.

I would NOT let them know about my past, as it is not their business to know until they are older. They will make their own mistakes - they will know that I have made some in my life, but that does not mean that they have to know what mistakes they are!

I do not want to know EVERYTHING that a child of mine has done, but I would like to know most. I would like to know if they have had sex, if they have been protected. I will teach my children beforehand about protection and safe measures as to keep from mishaps.

No birth control. I do not like pills.

Depends on the party. I'd prefer the child to have a party at my house with only a few friends rather than go to one.

I would let my child have a partner at any age. There are requirements for this, though, and if my child is not willing to follow them, then they will not be allowed to date.

I would buy my child a vibrator, of course. I know so much about these things, I would rather buy one for my child than have them go out and have sex with random people.

I would not joke about kissing, no, and I would not give "advice." That's for the child to find out on their own.

I would let my child wear a thong if they came to me in a proper, respectful way.

To me, age is a number. If my child is willing to come to me as a respectful person and follow my rules and orders, then I will bend and allow them to do things like this. However, my first priority in my child's life will be their schoolwork and success. That comes before any dating, any thongs, any sex or anything. Schoolwork, health, and being happy.
07/24/2010
Envy Envy
I don't want any kids myself. However I will say that my dad raised me alone himself and I'm his only child. Here is how he would answer all of these, I know him well, and I have asked him certain things before and he told me exactly what he wants, doesn't want, etc:

-Will you let them watch porn: No

-Will you let them openly talk to you about sex: No

-would you let them know what you've done in your past: Yes, and highly all the bad parts only

-do you think you should and have a right to know everything your daughters done: Yes, he wants to know absolutely everything

-would you get your daughter on birth control for the SOLE PURPOSE of she plans on having sex even with a condom: No, no sex allowed, period, so long as living under his roof. He says birth control makes women want to have sex and causes cancer.

-would you let your daughter go to a after prom party: No (I never went to Prom anyway, and i still even now have a curfew)

-would you let her have a boyfriend at 13: No, no boyfriends until 30 (seriously, he kept insisting that)

-what if she wanted a vibrator: No, no sex toys allowed in the house

-would you even joke about making out, or give advice: No

-would you let her wear a thong: No

I can pretty much say that is how it was, is, and always has been at this house. Needless to say if my toys were ever found they'd either be chucked in the trash or I'd be told to move out. Yes I have a bf but only because he lives out of state, otherwise he chases off any and all potential dates and swears men ruin lives and that I 'need' an education and a career and be successful first and foremost.

Our house is basically run the old traditional European way where nothing is done until marriage. Of course I don't agree with that (or rather a lot this family thinks, does, or says), and I have just learned to be sneaky. I know right from wrong, I know to stay out of trouble, but really, a lot of the rules are stupid, especially since my dad cannot accept the fact i am growing up and does all he can to keep his thumb on me.
07/24/2010
Blinker Blinker
Quote:
Originally posted by usmcwife99
Mainly for the women, but guys feel free to awsner

Not all of us have teen girls, so lets say we do

This disscussion was sparked by my sisters(ime more of a mom then a sister, and I have custody of them)

We all know one day our ...
I would avoid this altogether. My boyfriend and I are NOT having girls. No way. Just a couple of boys (ues, we've planned this out).
07/24/2010
Envy Envy
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Originally posted by Blinker
I would avoid this altogether. My boyfriend and I are NOT having girls. No way. Just a couple of boys (ues, we've planned this out).
Haha I agree. IF I HAVE to have a kid, one boy please. Then i can be the cool mom and play all the latest video games with him, go fishing, shooting guns, etc etc.
07/24/2010
Miss B Haven Miss B Haven
I am hoping for boys as well LOL

But if we have girls then:

I would let them watch soft porn at first and let them determine when they feel ready for more.

I would encourage them to talk to me and my husband about sex. I want them to know there are two sides to it and feel comfortable asking questions.

I would not go into details about my past but I would give them advice about some of the things I had to go through.

I would want to know what they are doing though I would not push for details. I would listen if they wanted to talk in detail.

BC...is a tricky one for me. I don't want to push my daughter into taking hormones unless I knew for a fact she was having sex at a younger age. I would want to keep her as safe as I could to prevent her from having a pregnancy too soon.

No, I don't think I would let her go to an after prom party. I would basically be giving her consent to have sex and probably drink.

I would let her have a boyfriend at 13 depending on her maturity level. I had a bf at that age but we were so young and naive that we just had simple movie dates and hand holding.

hmmm...the vibrator question. I guess it depends on her age and again maturity level. I would definately buy her one when I felt she was ready to get to know herself.

My hubs and I love to lighten up serious topics. So I think we would both joke about making out and we would both give advice.

I don't see anything wrong with my teenage daughter wearing thongs or any panties she found comfortable. As long as they aren't showing through her pants.

We do not currently have children but I want to educate my kids better than I was. I had to figure things out on my own and consquently made poor choices and I don't want my kids to go through the same headaches as I did. My husband and I have agreed that whether we have boys or girls that we will both educate our kids from female and male perspectives so they will have respect for each gender.
07/25/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by usmcwife99
Mainly for the women, but guys feel free to awsner

Not all of us have teen girls, so lets say we do

This disscussion was sparked by my sisters(ime more of a mom then a sister, and I have custody of them)

We all know one day our ...
I have raised several daugters to grown age, and one still growing.

Will you let them watch porn?
I won't SHOW It to them. I think a young woman needs to figure out her own Love Map before outside influences like Porn intercede. Of course after a certain age (say 17 or so) they know more about the computer than you do, so they ARE gonna look at it. I wouldn't encourage it in young adolescence, though.

-Will you let them openly talk to you about sex

Of course, I always do

-would you let them know what youve done in your past

NO, that's MY business. My Man and I talk to our kids about sex, but we don't use ourselves as examples, IMO, that's invading both OUR and their personal boundaries too much.

-do you think you should and have a right to know everything your daughters done
No, of course not. If they are old enough to have responsible sex, it isn't really my business (but neither am I raising any grandbabies, so they better be responsible! I have, however, funded Plan B, after a broken condom with one of my dds. She was scared out of her mind, she came to me in tears, she HAD been responsible and shit happened, so we ran to the pharmacy and grabbed up some Plan B and thankfully, she got her period a few weeks later.)

-would you get your daughter on birthcontrol for the SOLE PURPOSE of she plans on having sex even with a condom
My kids know that BOTH are necessary. They've been taught to say "No glove, no love." They also know where Planed Parenthood is and what they are for.

-would you let your daughter go to a after prom party
No, they were expected home by 1:00 AM after Prom. I'm more afraid of the alcohol and Date Rape than any responsible sex.

-would you let her have a boyfriend at 13
HELL NO! That's still a child.

-what if she wanted a viberator
Again, that would be HER business. My buying one for any of my girls would be WAY over our Boundaries, both theirs and mine. There is a fine line between being "Open" about sex,. and getting your nose in somebody's business where it doesn't belong. My older girls have jobs and Pay Pal accounts, they can buy what they want. I'M NOT GONNA DO IT for them, though.

-would you even joke about making out, or give advice
I make jokes. I don't give sex "advice" unless it is asked. and then I try to shield everyone's privacy as much as possible.

-would you let her wear a thong
It's her ass. I don't wear them, but once they are 16 or so, I don't buy their underwear anymore, so it's up to them, if they want a string up their ass all day long, that's their business.
07/25/2010
NuMe NuMe
For those of you who want sons because you think it's easier, can I say, I have one son, and he was much harder to raise than all three girls put together. And he's still a pain in my ass. LOL!!! I love him though and wouldn't trade him for another girl if I could.
07/25/2010
usmcwife99 usmcwife99
-Will you let them watch porn
They have a computer, ime not bothering to put a parental block on it, if they trually wana see it they could find it some other way. Theres plenty of free sites on the internet so its up to them. Well up to them till they get a virus, needless to say she dont visit that sight anymore. As long as there not in chatrooms or webcam I dont care.

-Will you let them openly talk to you about sex
Ime sorry if you have kids thats your responsibility. So yes

-would you let them know what youve done in your past
Not in detail. The know pretty much who ive done it with, when and how I lost my virginity, stuff like that

-do you think you should and have a right to know everything your daughters done
They dont have to tell me, its there choice if they do or not.

-would you get your daughter on birthcontrol for the SOLE PURPOSE of she plans on having sex even with a condom?
Luckily there not havin sex, so thats not something thats a worry. However I dont mind birthcontrol to help regulate periods.

-would you let your daughter go to a after prom party
Would I let her, NO. Luckily for me there pretty smart and have never asked. However somehow If the highschool girls volleyball team isnt at my house the middle school girls soccer team is at my house. I dont know what I was thinking when I bought a house on 3 acres, and put a pool, hotub and deck in. They can have them over as long as they behave and clean up. Far as guys my sisters boyfriend has selpt over a few times on the couch cause I was in a good mood and told her it was fine. Other then that No guy is sleeping over. Better yet if ime not home I dont want guys at my house. I know my sisters arent gonna end up in a room with a guy when ime not there. I just dont wana here from some parents thier daughters got pregnent at my house.

-would you let her have a boyfriend at 13
Nope, she can have friends but no boyfriends. At 13 I dont care her friends sleepover, but no guys sleepover.

-what if she wanted a viberator?
As long as they keep it to thereself and dont let people know I dont care. As far as lube well the one drives she can go buy her own. The other two well lets say somehow they end up having a bottle to. Dang, that clit sentising gel and other lubes can get expensive.

-would you even joke about making out, or give advice?
Theres a time to joke and a time not to. If were at home we joke around sometimes. At the same time they know ife ones in a bad mood or ones in trouble its not really the best time to joke.

-would you let her wear a thong?
Yep, the 3 of the 4 of us wear the same size underwear so who knows whos got what.



Overall with my 3 sisters my "parenting style" is a little different just cause the situation. They choose what they want there life to be like. Ile trust them to make there own decisions. If they make the wrong ones Ile gladly knock them back on track. I will always be there for them when there week and need help.

Between the 4 of us my house is sorta crazy but I love my "crazy beautifull life"
07/25/2010
joja joja
I think it's foolish and unhealthy to deny that children are sexual. That doesn't mean they should be having sex, but you have to acknowledge that they are curious about sex and will someday have it, probably earlier than you would like.

Personally, I've seen a lot of parents who were out of control when they were younger taking on extremely strict policies for their kids. I guess I'm a liberal parent, because I think letting them learn for themselves will make them the most functional and rounded adults.

Also, who says you can't play video games, roughhouse, and shoot with a girl?

Though we're extremely unlikely to ever have our own biological child (we're both fertile, we'd just rather adopt), my boyfriend and I would definitely adopt a girl.
07/26/2010
Envy Envy
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Originally posted by joja
I think it's foolish and unhealthy to deny that children are sexual. That doesn't mean they should be having sex, but you have to acknowledge that they are curious about sex and will someday have it, probably earlier than you would ...
I hear ya there. Just with a girl i always worry how others would think of her being tomboyish. I was ostracized for it growing up, but I wouldn't change my habits or attitude for anything or anyone. i am who I am, that's just how it is.

And i agree, I do think it's wrong when families basically censor anything and everything sexual in the household and tell the child to wait until they move out and never ever share what they do.
07/26/2010
usmcwife99 usmcwife99
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Originally posted by Sir
Pornographic films, that depends. I'd like to approve the film beforehand if they plan to watch it, because there are certain things that I would not want them exposed to.

I would definitely talk openly and freely about sex, yes.

I ...
So ime just wondering, What do you consider a good pornographic film.

We all have our own thoughts witch is cool, but doesnt all porn end up nudity and sex.
07/26/2010
usmcwife99 usmcwife99
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Originally posted by joja
I think it's foolish and unhealthy to deny that children are sexual. That doesn't mean they should be having sex, but you have to acknowledge that they are curious about sex and will someday have it, probably earlier than you would ...
I totally aggree with the first paragraph.

When it comes to parents yeh ive seen alot of out of control parents to. I dont really think saying you cant go out is helpfull but at the same time I would deffinitly make sure she knows about condoms and the risks and stuff like that. I think some things are dont by trial and error, but others shouldnt be.

An roughouse with a girl, all the time. Shoot(ime guessing shoot firarms cause thats all I can think of with "shoot")firearms, ime all for it. I love having three acres and a neighbor who doesnt care if I use some of his property to go let some lead fly. At the same time they know that a gun can easily become fatal in just seconds. I wouldnt let them just go shoot for the fun of it alone but if ime with them its all cool.
07/26/2010
YoungCouple YoungCouple
We have a daughter and two sons, and we have not thought about these questions yet, we will cross the bridge when we get there. Hubby wants to weigh in on this topic though:

As a parent of a daughter, I want to let you know about my experiences beginning at around 13. At 13 i had:

Had sex with multiple partners, including at the same time.
Gotten BJ's from multiple girls
Engaged in restraint play
Smoked Cigarettes for some time
Smoked Pot
Drank Booze at least twice a week
Been way too near an STD for comfort (though i avoided it)
Had 3 friends become pregnant before 14 and never saw them again (not my kids)
Had a cousin who had sex at age ten
Been sexually abused

This is NOT a brag sheet, but a wake up call that in this highly sexualized, internet based life where both parents are often at work in the afternoons, your daughters WILL have boyfriends at 13. If you want to know about it you might want to consider letting them. My mom always offered condoms, but never asked if i was active. Honestly i think if she had the balls to open up and ask me about my experiences some of the bad ones could have been avoided. I could have offered too i just didn't.

In my experience, all the parents who were strict, controlling, and would tell their friends about their little angels had daughters who were sneaking out of their rooms at night to have a little fun time with the boy down the street. Please beware, and be open with your kids about sex, after all communication is the key to life.
07/27/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by YoungCouple
We have a daughter and two sons, and we have not thought about these questions yet, we will cross the bridge when we get there. Hubby wants to weigh in on this topic though:

As a parent of a daughter, I want to let you know about my ...
Dude from YoungCouple said: "life where both parents are often at work in the afternoons, your daughters WILL have boyfriends at 13. If you want to know about it you might want to consider letting them."

One of the reasons I have stayed home as much as I have. I HAVE worked, but have been at home a lot during my kids' adolescence. Their friends KNOW I'm here, THEY know I'm here, I am not "over strict" (because that's just asking for grandbabies in high school, IMO) And, with some Boundaries, but not too tight of rules, we've so far managed to do pretty well with our kids. They are NOT perfect, nor are we.

When you are too strict, your kids are going to lie and cheat and do pretty much what you tell them is "forbidden." If you are too loose, pretty much the same thing happens, because the child feels exposed and feels they need to go overboard to escape constant scrutiny and questioning (like a friend of mine who was more interested in her daughter's sex life than her own, asking the girl about her orgasms, her positions etc. The kid couldn't take it and went hog wild, and admitted to NOTHING. Kids need privacy, too.

My Man and I know more than one couple who raise their kids SO strict that one of these couples was raising TWO grandkids from two of their daughters before either of them had finished High School. These were kids who weren't allowed to watch MTV, when it was only videos, and even couldn't watch the Simpsons, they couldn't go Trick or Treating, no boyfreinds, even in High School (the girls HAD them, they just had to lie about it) and had to attend Pentecostal Services twice a week or more, and it just caved in for them.

You have to know where to butt in and when to stay out of their business, and you have to be FLEXIBLE because what works with one kid may not work with an other. Also you HAVE TO choose your battles. If you make everything a battle your house becomes a war zone and your kid is going to go AWOL.
07/27/2010
usmcwife99 usmcwife99
Quote:
Originally posted by YoungCouple
We have a daughter and two sons, and we have not thought about these questions yet, we will cross the bridge when we get there. Hubby wants to weigh in on this topic though:

As a parent of a daughter, I want to let you know about my ...
Ime not saying a 13 year old shouldnt/cant have condoms. I think a boyfriend and being sexually active is a little much. Even with condoms.

If she was gona do it heck, ide deffintily make sure she has condoms and ile put her on birth control as well.

I agree comunitcation is key to life. As hard as it is to listen to your 13 year old tell you she had sex one time hated it and doesnt wana do it for a long time. But still acept that fact and not get mad at her for it.
07/28/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by usmcwife99
Mainly for the women, but guys feel free to awsner

Not all of us have teen girls, so lets say we do

This disscussion was sparked by my sisters(ime more of a mom then a sister, and I have custody of them)

We all know one day our ...
I have two girls just hitting the teen years (13 and 12) and we are just starting to have to consider these questions seriously. We do not allow our children to watch porn and the porn in our house is locked up, mainly because we are very advanced kinky people and we want them to develop their own kinks naturally. Our girls are very innocent still and homeschooled so they aren't dealing with the same issues as some of their peers. We aren't intentionally keeping them sheltered; hell they know I sleep with both their Dad and their brother's father they just don't know what that entails, nor are they interested. We discuss sex openly with and around them in both mildly ribald and medical terms. I don't think any of the three of us would hide what we've done in the past should the girls ever ask, we aren't ashamed of what made us who we are or of what we've done. My sex life in detail is none of their business, nor will it ever be their business. I don't see a time where, as adult women, it will be my business what they are doing unless it threatens their lives or the lives of their children...and it would have to be pretty bad for me to get involved. Now if I suspected abuse then a frank discussion would happen but it still isn't my business if they tell me to butt out. I pray to God and Goddess that they have learned enough to be able to pick a partner or partners that wouldn't hurt them and I would fight like a scalded cat for each of them (if they were older and I'm no longer legally able to stop them...before that time I'd castrate anyone who would hurt them sexually male or female) but as adult women they have to be willing to fight for themselves equally hard for it to work. I hate that this is true. As teens I have the right to know if they are having sex, and if they are practicing safer sex practices. As teens they are still under my care and their well being is still my responsibility. Since they know I take my responsibilities very seriously they are prepared for me to inquire. I also reserve the right to be nosey about drugs, alcohol or other destructive acts. My oldest has the worst period pain I have ever seen and I think we are going to need to have her tested for PCOS or placed on BC to help her out. If either of them wanted to go on birthcontrol to reduce the risk of pregnancy then I would probably not have a problem with it as long as they understood that BC isn't 100% and won't stop you from contracting an STD. To me it would indicate they are responsible enough to be concerned about their health and trust me enough to talk to me about it.
My kids are homeschooled but I think that with some discussion about what to do if they feel pressured or have people enguaging in risky behavior around them I could trust them at an after party. I'd worry and be up all night but I hope I could trust them. At 13 my daughter isn't ready for a boyfriend emotionally, and at 12 my other daughter thinks boyfriends are too much trouble. I have met 13 year olds who were emotionally ready and I will have to judge at the appropriate time whether it's a good thing.
If either of them wanted a vibrator I'd first have a serious talk about their bodies, discuss why they want a vibe and then we'd discuss proper body safe materials and care/upkeep of said toy. I don't have a problem with them using a toy, I used them at a young age. Right now they aren't interested so I leave it up to them while letting them know my toys are off limits, I don't share.
We have a unique situation since both my daughter's parents have other partners at any given time (mine is a permanent fixture but he isn't poly, he's more of a swinger) so they hear make out advice inadvertantly though we keep it PG around them it leaks occasionally. To be fair even with my parents, Grand parents and aunts/uncles being monogamous we often heard ribald advice and comments growing up so it's no different. If they asked for my advice I'd certainly try to help but I wouldn't offer it unsolicited.
I don't care what underwear my girls wear except when they are out in public with me...then I would prefer that they wear underwear and that I not see them. Other than that I don't care, they get their choice in that.
The other question I get all the time is do I think I will be sickened if my children become raving sex lunatics...ok that's generally not how it's phrased but it's what people mean. The answer I have to give them is: As long as they are taking care to remain healthy in mind and body what they do in their sex lives is their concern and I love them even if they ARE raving sex lunatics. I will reserve the right to take out a huge life insurance policy if they are into highly risky behavior though...
07/28/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by NuMe
For those of you who want sons because you think it's easier, can I say, I have one son, and he was much harder to raise than all three girls put together. And he's still a pain in my ass. LOL!!! I love him though and wouldn't trade him ...
*Nods* My son is way more trouble and exasperation than my girls were and he's only 8 months old! His father and I are just waiting for the real fun to begin.
07/28/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
Dude from YoungCouple said: "life where both parents are often at work in the afternoons, your daughters WILL have boyfriends at 13. If you want to know about it you might want to consider letting them."

One of the reasons I have ...
OMG that's child abuse..it's called 'prurient interest' and it's none of your business unless the child has a question about her orgasms or sexual positions. Just ick...

I agree P'Gell you have to remember what it was like feeling all scared, excited and squicked that you were somehow weird and freaky. Then you have to be available and open...mostly it's just waiting for the appropriate moment and answering every question honestly.

For the love of God and little green apples NEVER tell your daughter that she'd better not bring a bastard to your home or you'll throw her out and disown her (or threaten physical violence). That was what my father did and it lead to a D&C for me alone and scared out of my mind at 17. I had a spontaneous miscarriage that had complications and I couldn't talk to my parents cause they threatened to hurt Sigel and me physically if I was pregnant. This is one of the most painful things I have had to go through and caused irrepairable damage to the relationship between myself and my parents. (As it is I still haven't allowed them near my son because I am afraid of the whole bastard label being pinned to him. His father has accepted him as legitimate and has given him his name but I am still afraid.) A baby is not a life ruining event...it's a blessed event regardless of the marital status of it's parents. It's something that can be avoided and SHOULD be planned but it isn't the end of the world, it's the beginning. It's much more difficult to raise a child when you are young and not able to care for yourself yet, but it doesn't make you a permanent disgrace. These are the lessons I want my girls (and son) to understand. PLAN to have time to PLAN for a baby, don't take needless risks. This could have been avoided in my case with BC. I asked for it but I was told I didn't need it and if I didn't have it then it would guarrantee I didn't have sex....mmmhmmmm real sucessful strategy.
07/28/2010
Sir Sir
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Originally posted by usmcwife99
So ime just wondering, What do you consider a good pornographic film.

We all have our own thoughts witch is cool, but doesnt all porn end up nudity and sex.
Not necessarily. Some pornographic films are more in the realm of the fetish/BDSM world. I would prefer my children to not watch those things, even though I'm into them. It would be best if they waited to be exposed to the "dark side."

My idea of an "alright" pornographic film is just plain sex, perhaps a little foreplay, maybe some afterplay as well. But again, I'd have to watch it beforehand to see.
07/28/2010
usmcwife99 usmcwife99
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Originally posted by Sir
Not necessarily. Some pornographic films are more in the realm of the fetish/BDSM world. I would prefer my children to not watch those things, even though I'm into them. It would be best if they waited to be exposed to the "dark ...
Oh, ok.

Idk I guess I never thought of it that way. I sorta see what your saying.
08/01/2010
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