Wedding Ring

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Wedding Ring

klyte klyte
Have you ever thought of your wedding ring as a symbol.. like a collar? I got my girlfriend a promise ring for Christmas and we're kind of treating it like its sexy, because she's going to wear it on her ring finger. She said she's tired of guys hitting on her and she just wants to feel like she's completely mine until we get married, so everyone can see. Do you think a ring can kind of function like a collar?
12/15/2011
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A ring on the ring finger usually means "back off, I'm taken." I never thought of it as something particularly sexy.
12/15/2011
AndroAngel AndroAngel
It depends on the ring. I think of the traditional diamond ring as a bid, as being bought. I did however ask for a piece of jewelry to symbolize his claim on me, that I gave myself to him willingly, to function as a collar, so I view it about the same as you.
12/15/2011
badk1tty badk1tty
Quote:
Originally posted by klyte
Have you ever thought of your wedding ring as a symbol.. like a collar? I got my girlfriend a promise ring for Christmas and we're kind of treating it like its sexy, because she's going to wear it on her ring finger. She said she's tired ...
..that is exactly what wedding rings are. They're status symbols. They proclaim that you're spoken for, without having to be asked. So, yes. They're exactly like collars.
12/15/2011
T&A1987 T&A1987
if the ring is a collar,is the ceremony a metaphorical date with R. Kelly?
12/15/2011
GonetoLovehoney GonetoLovehoney
Not really, in my opinion, it's just a piece of overpriced jewelry that gets in the way of using your fingers for various tasks.
12/16/2011
Elnoa Elnoa
I had our rings custom made by a jewelry-smith. I helped create the design and choose the materials. These are the only two of their kind in the world and to us they are symbols rather than "bids".
12/16/2011
Girly Girl Girly Girl
i will love one
12/16/2011
Chilipepper Chilipepper
Rings are pretty. Well, usually. I got flak in the late 90's for having a silver Celtic knot design for my wedding ring instead of a regular gold band with a diamond engagement ring (we couldn't afford those, anyway). Seems Celtic knots were too ambiguous at the time.

You do raise a good point over how the couple interprets the ring itself for their union - a subtle reference of the collar instead of a 'bid' or a 'property marker' like most see it. Have to discuss that with Master if we ever do get to that point.
12/16/2011
El-Jaro El-Jaro
I'm not a fan of nuptial jewelry, but a wedding ring is a clue a lot of guys look for before they start flirting with a woman.
12/16/2011
Jaimes Jaimes
The line of reasoning makes sense. I like to think of it as a less smelly way for me to mark my territory.

My husband and I both believe in never taking it off unless there is a risk of losing it, like when we are kayaking. Though I do have to take it off for martial arts, otherwise someone could get hurt.

I do think of them as a symbol, and I consider my wedding ring my most treasured possession.
12/16/2011
Cherry21 Cherry21
Quote:
Originally posted by klyte
Have you ever thought of your wedding ring as a symbol.. like a collar? I got my girlfriend a promise ring for Christmas and we're kind of treating it like its sexy, because she's going to wear it on her ring finger. She said she's tired ...
It is sexy! She sounds like she had the same ideas on it that I did. Its sexy, because it marks her as yours, and that no one else can even have a chance! Also, its like you're claiming her vagina as yours too, lol.
12/16/2011
Cherry21 Cherry21
Quote:
Originally posted by Jaimes
The line of reasoning makes sense. I like to think of it as a less smelly way for me to mark my territory.

My husband and I both believe in never taking it off unless there is a risk of losing it, like when we are kayaking. Though I do have ...
me too!
12/16/2011
T&A1987 T&A1987
Quote:
Originally posted by Jaimes
The line of reasoning makes sense. I like to think of it as a less smelly way for me to mark my territory.

My husband and I both believe in never taking it off unless there is a risk of losing it, like when we are kayaking. Though I do have ...
i don't know, i've never cared for the idea of marking territory with a living, thinking, person. what right does anyone have to claim ownership, even mutual ownership, even in the narrative of marriage, over another person?
12/16/2011
Tuesday Tuesday
A wedding ring is a simple way of avoiding the awkwardness of someone asking you out. It doesn't stop everyone though.
12/16/2011
zwee75 zwee75
If my husband wants to upgrade me to a 3ct ring, he can call it whatever the heck he wants!

But really, I see what you mean...
12/16/2011
Kaltir Kaltir
I've never thought of it like a collar, because my husband doesn't own me. It's a symbol I'm with him by choice. A collar would be my choice too I suppose, but in a much different way.
12/16/2011
jedent jedent
rings are really special to us. i have a handmade wooden ring made with the bentwood process
12/16/2011
FemmeFlo FemmeFlo
I think rings and collars are two very different things. I'm about to be collared to my boyfriend/dom, but he and I aren't even going to consider marriage for quite a while, at least several years. But I guess it depends on how you view collaring as to whether a ring and a collar are synonymous symbols.

Personally, if I ever get married, I don't want a ring. I find them uncomfortable and unwieldy. If I had to wear it, I'd probably do so on a chain around my neck. I do get that it would be handy in warning people that I'm taken, but I like being hit on.
12/16/2011
Philia Philia
I've been with the same guy for ... uh, going on 22 years, and married to him for going on 11 of those, and I'm never going to wear a ring. Part of it is because pretty much everything people like about engagement/wedding rings makes me a little cringe-y -- the ownership and hands-off stuff.

One of my favorite movie lines is Inigo Montoya saying "You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means." I think that marriage is supposed to mean just one thing, but really it means a lot of things to a lot of people, and when people wear rings they're embracing their own symbolism of whatever it means to them, but unfortunately they're also signing themselves up for the imposition of whatever meanings other people ascribe to them. If I could just say "here's what our rings mean to us," that'd be great. And in your case, if you want it to be a collar, it's a collar. I mean, collars are the same thing, too -- they're only vested with the values we give them and mean different things to different people. You could even call it a collar -- though people will probably mostly interpret that as a ball-and-chain joke.

I find that a good crusty glance works just to keep me from getting hit on, unless, like FemmeFlo said, I like being hit on, in which case I can just skip the crusty glance. Actually, really, I don't have the getting-hit-on problem that often ...
12/17/2011
marriedlady123 marriedlady123
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Originally posted by Cherry21
me too!
Same here! It was gone for a day getting cleaned and I felt naked without it!
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