We used to run around a lot. Both families (his mother refuses to have parties, so she used to want us to just come over to their house and do nothing all day, while my family was having big parties, they started going to FLA in the fall and not bothering with Christmas. It sucks for my husband. Now, with my FIL dead, my MIL goes to FLA and refuses to fly home for Christmas. She's a PITA.)
We decided between my family broken up (so many silly fights and grudges that it is impossible to see them) we have Christmas here, but my brother's wife has to have every holiday with her own Mother
so I don't see him until the day after Christmas now. She hasn't learned that you have to make some sacrifices when you get married. In all the years I've known her (my brother used to bring his kids to our house for Christmas without her, because even though I'd invite her mother, she had to have HER children all at her house for everything) she has NEVER been to my house. She always has to be with Mommy. (She's a grown woman. It's ridiculous.)
So, my brother ends up having Thanksgiving, and then if he wants to see the rest of the family, he has a party the day after Christmas. We have Christmas at our house, and it used to be a huge celebration. But, my dad is BiPolar and gets weird and paranoid and makes up some illness almost every year and stays home while his wife comes to our house. My Man gets so angry, he has threatened to not host Christmas anymore. Where will that leave our children?
We have New Years Eve at our house with friends. But, my best friend's husband is dying of cancer, so I have no idea if we'll be able to see them, either.
On top of that My Man is going on about "don't spend a lot of money this year." Basically, he has virtually no one to buy for except the kids and I, all he does is send his mother a bouquet, because all she does is send a check made out to HIM, without my name on it anywhere
which is supposed to be "our" Christmas present. And his family is crazier than mine so there's no one for him to buy for there. So, most of the presents are for people in my family. And most of "our" friends are my friends. He COULD see some of his family, but....I don't want to get into it. He usually thinks of it late on Christmas Eve, after he's been drinking and heaven knows, what everyone wants to hear from
it's a drunken relative you haven't heard from in a year!
The holidays are going to SUCK this year.
Sorry for the bummer.