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Life lessons....that is what I choose to call them. Yes, I learned them the hard way, that is why once burned--I do not ever trust that person again for anything. However, I do believe that there are reasons for everything and that my learning them
Life lessons....that is what I choose to call them. Yes, I learned them the hard way, that is why once burned--I do not ever trust that person again for anything. However, I do believe that there are reasons for everything and that my learning them the hard way has allowed me to help others.
My daughter is wonderful about learning from my mistakes. I have always explained the lessons and background of how I learned what to her--never just said do not...whatever. That way she understands the reason why I have imparted the lesson to her.
And thanks, I appreciate the compliment since I do honestly like people and try to help them avoid some of the pitfalls I dealt with. I think it has made me more compassionate with others and stronger. I just keep a distance and do not let many others in to know me too deeply.
I don't blame you in the least for protecting yourself. I'm glad to hear your daughter took your advice to heart, I think it was partly because you were honest and told her why instead of to do such and such. I think the other part is she is smart enough to listen! My mother has always imparted her wisdom to us which I always listened to, some of my siblings, not so much
Anyway, she made sure to do this because her parents believed in letting children/young adults sink or swim on their own with no input, even if asked! My mom thinks it's her job to at least mention things she knows, whether we listen is up to us, but why withhold valuable life experience? So I really like that you have a similar outlook about trying to let others, not just family, benefit from what you have experienced so they might avoid some missteps or find comfort in what's happening. I try to do the same. In a way it makes whatever we went through serve a better purpose than just something bad that happened to us, it can help someone else.
PS, In my comment above, I accidentally erased part of what I said, I meant I trust my parents and sister the most, but not even they get trusted with everything.