What's the worst way to receive bad news?

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What's the worst way to receive bad news?

Lildrummrgurl7 Lildrummrgurl7
While I'm sure we all agree there is never a good way to receive bad news, what do you feel is the worst way to learn of bad news?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Over the telephone
TJtheMadHatter , Hummingbird
2  (4%)
In person
Syrus
1  (2%)
Via email or Facebook message
jennifur77 , nikki0668 , GirlOnGirl , Adnerbmw , hillys , P'Gell , charmedtomeetyou , anonymous1298304
8  (17%)
Snail mail (does that even happen anymore?)
The Vixen , Allison.Wilder
2  (4%)
Through a text
PropertyOfPotter , spiced , Silverwinds , KinkyKatieJames , Rossie , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , gsfanatic , Peggi , Virgingasms , eri86 , Allstars316 , Munko , Beautiful-Disaster , Sera26 , Pumpk1nPatch , kandy anjel , U3H , dv8 , Vanille , Lioncub , ViVix , SydneyScreams , SMichelle , unfulfilled , SydVicious , freud13 , Eloquence0 , melissa1973 , namelesschaos , Gluesnffr , kurtster79 , Dixiemomma , CountryPrincess , ZZ , Basalt
35  (73%)
Total votes: 48
Poll is closed
04/06/2013
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PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
Doesn't get much more impersonal than a text message.
04/06/2013
spiced spiced
I guess I've been lucky not to receive any seriously bad news via text...but bad news sucks pretty much any way you get it. Or have to give it.

And yes, bad news does still come via snail mail. A LOT, in fact. That's how publishers let you know they're not interested in publishing your story or book, for example, or how a college lets you know you didn't get accepted for admission. Not to mention "surprise" charges on bills. Ugh.
04/06/2013
TJtheMadHatter TJtheMadHatter
I chose "over the phone" but I meant by voice mail. I hate it when somebody leaves me a voice mail and I check it a day later. Like my grandma had called and I was busy, so I checked the message the next day. I found out my grandpa had a heart attack and was getting stints put in. No more attempts to call me, nothing. I called her and got more info.

A text message I can handle. I've gotten bad news that way. One nice thing is that you can get the info right away. If anything you call that person. As some one that HATES checking voice mails, I'd prefer a text. Usually when I get a voice mail and try to call the person back, it's too late to call or they're not picking up.

I like emails, because I can get the info right away. I keep my email open whenever I'm online. My dad communicates a lot through email and texts, it's the easiest way to get a hold of him.

I hate getting bills and what not, but that's why I don't like getting the mail if I'm not expecting certain packages.
04/06/2013
Silverwinds Silverwinds
There's just sone thing inherently disrespectful about giving important news through text in my opinion.
04/06/2013
marriedlady123 marriedlady123
It depends on the type of news and who is giving it...
04/06/2013
gsfanatic gsfanatic
Texting, since it's a sudden full surprise of bad news
04/06/2013
Virgingasms Virgingasms
Through a text, it's just so detached and uncaring.
04/07/2013
GirlOnGirl GirlOnGirl
Personally, I'd prefer text over Facebook.
04/07/2013
Allstars316 Allstars316
It really depends on what it is. But I guess a text message.
04/07/2013
Munko Munko
Definitely a text. My S/O had someone text him to tell him that his childhood best friend had died the night before. Luckily I had learned of the news first and had JUST finished sitting him down and letting him know what had happened when the text came in. He was LIVID with this other friend, but I can only imagine how much worse it would have been if he didn't already know.

I still think, even if it's easiest to contact someone via text, e-mail, facebook - the polite thing to do is send a message saying "I have something very important to discuss please call me" or "I need to stop by and talk to you about something" etc, etc.
04/07/2013
Beautiful-Disaster Beautiful-Disaster
Through text...or email.
04/07/2013
The Vixen The Vixen
I hate getting bad news through snail mail.
I've had it happen and I'll have questions, but I won't be able to get immediate answers or additional info.
And then I'm paranoid about checking my mail in the future, thinking that I'm going to find more bad news.
04/08/2013
Hummingbird Hummingbird
Over the phone. I can always tell when bad news is about to told to me because people tip toe around it. I mean really, just spit it out. Its just as bad as someone saying some one was lossed or passed away. Get with the program... they died! Isn't it the truth? Why pussyfoot around it?
04/08/2013
kandy anjel kandy anjel
Quote:
Originally posted by Lildrummrgurl7
While I'm sure we all agree there is never a good way to receive bad news, what do you feel is the worst way to learn of bad news?
Any way that isnt to your face is bad
04/08/2013
Adnerbmw Adnerbmw
I am peaking for my husband but when we were kids his uncle called and said im calling to give my condolences and when my husband said what for his uncle said shit you dont know, crap your dad died. Thats the worst way to get bad news
04/08/2013
dv8 dv8
For me, it's a toss up between a singing telegram and sky writing.
04/14/2013
hillys hillys
email or text message.
04/14/2013
Lioncub Lioncub
Text or facebook.
04/14/2013
ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by Lildrummrgurl7
While I'm sure we all agree there is never a good way to receive bad news, what do you feel is the worst way to learn of bad news?
A text is bad, but Facebook is a close call as well. Any bad news should be given in person if possible and by phone otherwise in my opinion.
04/14/2013
SydneyScreams SydneyScreams
text or email. both are so impersonal!!
04/15/2013
Allison.Wilder Allison.Wilder
Quote:
Originally posted by Lildrummrgurl7
While I'm sure we all agree there is never a good way to receive bad news, what do you feel is the worst way to learn of bad news?
I can handle the phone, texts, emails, calls, etc., but I really hate snail mail bad news. It's always something important and life-shattering. I hate it.
04/15/2013
P'Gell P'Gell
My husband and I found out two good friends of ours had died via someone's Facebook post. It was even more impersonal than a text, because it was just posted on someone's page. We were in shock. A phone call would have been much better.

In this day and age of everyone needing to immediately post any news they hear to their FB page, news that should be personal has become a form of entertainment, and not for the better.
04/15/2013
unfulfilled unfulfilled
Text, email, or FB for me.
04/15/2013
charmedtomeetyou charmedtomeetyou
Text or Facebook.....although I suppose I think FB is more impersonal.
04/15/2013
SydVicious SydVicious
I would say anytime that you are getting the news in writing as apposed to having someone speak to you and be their to console you. If i read a text or an email or facebook message it's impersonal. If someone calls or shows up face to face it's much better.
04/15/2013
freud13 freud13
Text message. I once received horrible news that way and I could not call as I was in a meeting. It was so impersonal and not a great way to let someone know something bad.
04/15/2013
melissa1973 melissa1973
All of the above, give it to me face to face, then get me a stiff drink.
04/15/2013
namelesschaos namelesschaos
I voted but changed my mind facebook would be worse.
04/15/2013
Gary Gary
While there is no good way to receive bad news, I prefer urgency. If a text or FB message is the fastest, then text me. I know in person is always deemed as more respectable or more considerate, but I hate the idea of waiting if it's urgent (and bad news usually is).
04/15/2013
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