What would you do if you walked in on your partner having sex with someone else?

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What would you do if you walked in on your partner having sex with someone else?

Secret Pleasure Secret Pleasure
My friend just caught her husband cheating so I am curious to see how others would of handled this.
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
walk out and be done with the person
acessorie , BlooJay , Ghost , slynch , Chirple , Rossie , darthkitt3n , ViVix , unfulfilled , mlmac , Ansley , JessCee , jakjak , Cookie Monster Mike , sweetcuppincakes , Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama , Mwar , smashthepatriarchy , Sunshineamine , dbm6907 , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , Beck , squire , SiNn , LilLostLenore , mpfm , SexyRayne , Graniteal , OhMy! , ksparkles16 , MrWishyWashy , TheSinDoll , curious kitten , DreamWolf , Ryuson , Sir , Love Bites , DiamondKoala , Lover of Leather , js250 , Zombirella , All His , Azule , NarcissisticLust , Sohotdinosaur , married with children , Love Perpetua , Tork48309 , SJ88 , indiglo , jmex83 , geliebt , Pixel , bunny love , Jon S , dv8 , Curiouscat , mama2007 , Incendiaire , Djiffy , BusyMe
61  (86%)
fight the person
Swish , Eliyahu , catgirl9 , blacklodge , underHim
5  (7%)
join in or watch cause you knew it was happening
CoffeeCup , Nora , WhoopieDoo , tiggle biddies , Airen Wolf
5  (7%)
Total votes: 71
Poll is closed
02/24/2012
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acessorie acessorie
I don't tolerate cheating one bit.
02/24/2012
BobbiJay BobbiJay
I would probably go bat shit crazy especially if they were doing "it" in my bed. Then I would kick them out and never speak to them again.
02/25/2012
BlooJay BlooJay
I would be done.
02/25/2012
bsgs bsgs
id vote for other, but there was no choice. if they noticed me when i walked in, id beat the living fuck out of the guy. if they didnt, id still beat the living fuck out of the guy. either way id be single very soon afterwards. i will not tolerate cheating.
02/25/2012
Chirple Chirple
If it wasn't something open and discussed, that would likely be it.

I can appreciate how it would be harder for a couple who has been married for years. In that case, I might go for marriage counselling if the other party truly wanted to work on things. If not, parting ways is sometimes the best thing to do.
02/25/2012
ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by Secret Pleasure
My friend just caught her husband cheating so I am curious to see how others would of handled this.
Hmmm. The options don't seem to say anything about accidently rolling his car down a hill or anything. It's a shame...really. LOL!
02/25/2012
unfulfilled unfulfilled
My friend wanted to kill them both but refrained and just beat the crap out of the guy.
02/25/2012
ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by Chirple
If it wasn't something open and discussed, that would likely be it.

I can appreciate how it would be harder for a couple who has been married for years. In that case, I might go for marriage counselling if the other party truly wanted to ...
I'd probably be more mad if my husband of like 20 years was cheating on me than a new bf.
02/25/2012
Ansley Ansley
I would be devastated. I have spent years, literally, getting us to a point where we are both open and honest with our desires and needs. So, if he went behind my back like that in our home, I think I might just die on the spot of a broken heart. I know my blood pressure would be in a very dangerous range, for sure.

It'd be over. No amount of consoling or counseling would be able to fix it.

Starts singing:
"She said: "I'm gonna' hire a wino to decorate our home,
So you'll feel more at ease here, and you won't have to roam.
We'll take out the dining room table, and put a bar along that wall.
And a neon sign, to point the way, to our bathroom down the hall..."
02/25/2012
Ansley Ansley
Quote:
Originally posted by bsgs
id vote for other, but there was no choice. if they noticed me when i walked in, id beat the living fuck out of the guy. if they didnt, id still beat the living fuck out of the guy. either way id be single very soon afterwards. i will not tolerate ...
Why does everyone want to fight the interloper? Whether it was that guy or some other guy, if your lady wants to cheat on you the blame lies completely with her, not the guy in your bed.
02/25/2012
Cookie Monster Mike Cookie Monster Mike
Quote:
Originally posted by Secret Pleasure
My friend just caught her husband cheating so I am curious to see how others would of handled this.
Most surely walk out and be done!
02/25/2012
sweetcuppincakes sweetcuppincakes
Walk out. SO done.
02/25/2012
Beck Beck
Quote:
Originally posted by Ansley
Why does everyone want to fight the interloper? Whether it was that guy or some other guy, if your lady wants to cheat on you the blame lies completely with her, not the guy in your bed.
I totally agree with this, but if the person is someone you know and they know about you then they are guilty too. But of course not as guilty as the one you are in a relationship with.

I am with you about how you would feel too. I would be extremely hurt, especially since we are open and he already has permission to have sex with someone else as longs as I get to watch. So the fact that he would be having sex behind my back would mean that person is something more than sex. I would have to leave the relationship as much as that would hurt me. I would not be able to forgive that.
02/25/2012
Mwar Mwar
I have not experienced this exactly, but I did have one cheating boyfriend. I don't freak out, I don't yell. I am like Ghost or something, because I just disappear from their lives and disassociate myself. It's not worth my time.
02/25/2012
Sunshineamine Sunshineamine
I would definitely be done but I would be crushed. That would hurt so bad. I have been cheated on, my ex husband cheated a whole lot come to find out and it is devastating.
02/25/2012
dbm6907 dbm6907
Honestly, I would be so angry/hurt that I'd probably go on a rampage. I would DEF be done with the person who was cheating!
02/25/2012
Swish Swish
I don't know if i would leave my partner but i would go on a screaming fighting rage
02/25/2012
Nora Nora
Cheating is one thing...that shouldn't be tolerated. However, in my house, we live in an open relationship where we are totally honest with each other. We do try avoid this situation though by "planning" around each others schedules.
02/25/2012
Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
I would be incredibly angry and I probably wouldn't be able to look at my partner for a while. I wouldn't care about the other person involved because it's a waste of energy and time.

Would I leave him? Not automatically. We'd have to look at the reasons why it happened and see if something could be worked out. I don't believe in abandoning my partner unless they asked me to.

I know cheating is bad, but I'm kind of disturbed how much physical violence is recommended in this thread. Self control is your friend, all! Violence doesn't solve anything, and can possibly get you in a lot legal trouble, too.
02/25/2012
squire squire
I think I would swear at em briefly and walk away, writing the person off. I had something similar happen at one point towards the end of a relationship when I was younger, a coworker was hooking up with my partner, and I scared em bad enough to where he quit and stopped talking to her....Looking back..better to just walk away with your pride and say f'em.
02/25/2012
SiNn SiNn
Quote:
Originally posted by Secret Pleasure
My friend just caught her husband cheating so I am curious to see how others would of handled this.
personally if my better half were to ever cheat it would be a huggeee scene mainly because we r already way open and if he wnats alil extra fun he can have it as long as i know so if he goes and has fun with out me knowing and does it to do it ill blow up go off then be done with him
02/25/2012
SexyRayne SexyRayne
Honestly I would probably beat them within an inch of their life. And I say this seriously and not as a joke. If I walked in on it especcialy I think I would end up in prison because I would shoot them!!! I am not ashamed of the fact that I feel this way either.
02/25/2012
Eliyahu Eliyahu
I would be furiously, violently angry...and my marriage would be over.
02/25/2012
Shellz31 Shellz31
No 'kill' option....hehe.
I really don't know what I'd do. I'd be extremely angry and hate him for it.
02/25/2012
ksparkles16 ksparkles16
I would yell my head off and leave the room
02/25/2012
mistressg mistressg
I would go fucking ballistic.
02/25/2012
MrWishyWashy MrWishyWashy
It would seal the deal for me, done!
02/25/2012
TheSinDoll TheSinDoll
I'd be done - but I'd probably go a little bat shit crazy, too.
02/25/2012
DreamWolf DreamWolf
Am imagining it in general, cause my Master would never do such a thing and He also knows it would hurt me as hell not to be told that ahead in time (W/we rather go for it that if there will ever be anyone W/we both like then why no to go for it, but not if A/any of U/us doesn't wanna be with the person), or even if it happened I guess He would do His Best for me about it, so as I didn't see "other" (than leaving and breaking up, arguing, joining in) I just say that if it wasn't my Master to settle things with as calm and cool as possible then in the case of someone else I would leave that fucker alone, and just bid byebye... Hard to imagine though, as I can't imagine myself with anyone else than my Master, but I guess that's what I would do... ^^
02/25/2012
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