What would you do if someone shared your real name and hometown location online?

We're discussing this internally. It has been brought to our attention that one contributor has been sharing the real name and location of another contributor - without her knowledge or permission. And this person does not use her real name or location here. We have actual proof, it's not hearsay. So, yeah, we're very upset. And we need to decide how to deal with it.

It's highly disrespectful. I do not understand how someone with good intentions would do something like that. It isn't done, that's all.

A sanction would be appropriate, yes.

Thank you. I have this really nice swamp that would be the best place for a talk.

I have NO shame about my online activities, but I also work in a very conservative field (medicine) and people's careers have been ruined due to rumors and things being said by prudes and gossips. Publishing someone's real name (as it is easy to find people due to the net) is not only a breach of privacy but also dangerous. We don't know all who lurk and troll on this board, and my guess is at least one or two are less than who they say they are. Also, being a women I do fear for my safety, as I am very honest with my sexual feelings and some people see this as a threat.

I would want a ban, as if I wanted my real name used, I would have used it.

I love Eden Community, but I also have children and a husband and a home and a career, and although most people here are very open and unjudging, the OUTSIDE world is not this way.

Sad, but it is true. I'd want a ban, the stuff removed and then the wombat thing.

Wow. Does the contributor know that her info is being spread around?

That's really very unacceptable. I agree with Blinker: I'd say the person spreading it should be banned.

They can give me real name and my home town, cause 1. There is only one person that I know of on this site that actually knows my full name, home town, and address. 2. I am not listed in any phone book to get my home address. 3. hardly anyone in my home town knows me by my married name only my maiden name. 4. She knows what will happen to her if she did give out all this info. KARAMA is a bitch it will bite you in the ass. Plus we are cool like that.

This seems like an isolated thing. All your info (and everyone else's) is still good.

Just remember, don't post anything on the internet unless you want people to know. Have you seen those "Hey Sarah" ads?

Your info is completely safe! This incident is among contributors - someone who knows the other person from outside of Eden. We do know that some people refer friends, we even have a thread about "Who do you know from the community, outside of Eden?" but that doesn't give anyone free license to share the name and location of another person, no matter how they know them.

Hope that clears it up.

:phew:

And no, I have not! Do share

Ah, gotcha. Yes, that definitely clears it up! Thanks, Victoria!

Youtube here

Exactly why I have everything set with as many privacy settings as I can, and the places I can't, I just don't post that kind of stuff.

Oh, wow. That's creepy. But absolutely true.

Reminds me of this one: link
They showed it to us in high school.

I wish my high school had thought to show us a video like that.

That is a very good video for kids to see.

I agree. And now they should be showing this at elementary level, not just high school. I see the kinds of things my little cousins and other kids their age post to their Facebooks and MySpaces (which, by the way, they are legally too young to have, but they just lie about their age on the registration), and it makes me really sad. It's great to be a kid, but it's good to be an adult and understand the potential consequences of your actions.

I totally agree about educating children about what information they give out on the internet. When my brother was in middle school he made a facebook and when he friended me I realized that he had all his personal info on there. His name, full address, birthday, phone number, etc. His facebook wasn't private, so anyone could see this information. Needless to say I made him take it all down. Kids today just don't realize the consequences of the things they do on the internet.

In regards to the breach of privacy-
I have a couple of friends on Eden who I introduced to the site myself and know personally. I know for a fact that none of them would ever do something like that to me. However, if something like that were to happen I would be very upset about it. I feel that it's each persons choice as to how much information they chose to share or not share. That being said, I don't understand why someone else would ever feel the need to give out someone's private information. I've been reading this thread for a while now trying to figure out how I would handle the situation if I was an administrator. At first I thought I would give them a severe warning and let them know that this kind of behavior is unacceptable. However, after I thought about it more I realized that if someone felt the need to be giving out another persons private information than they probably knew at least partly that the action was wrong. Therefore, I would probably ban them from the site.

However I decided to handle the situation though, I would definitely inform the person who's information was being given out and let them voice their opinion as to how the situation should be handled.