Curious again over here. I want to know, when you guys go out to a party and the people there continue bombarding everyone with kid-stuff, does it get under your skin? Do you get annoyed when at a party and someone there just keeps on and on about kids when it's your night away and you (and likely everyone else at the party) is trying to enjoy the night of kid-free fun?
I'm not saying I hate the talk of kids at all. I don't mind any actually until it gets to the point that the entire night that was supposed to be an adult party starts feeling more like a damn baby shower.
Okay, I'll admit. I could be just a tad bitter about the whole kid-thing anyways, but I think my annoyances are... legit.
What brings this question to mind is a close friend of my partner and I had plans to party tonight -- one of our other friends who's been in the military comes home this time each year, so it's tradition to party). This is a night we all look forward to every year. So our friend, my partner and I met up with our friend (the one we were partying for) and went about an hour away for our party that only happens once a year.
There happened to be a girl there who was new to the "gang" and from the very second she showed up it was all baby this and baby that. I didn't mind at all, and actually enjoyed it for the first hour. Lots of cute photos. Yay. Congrats. And then as she continued to get drunk, it seemed the baby-talk got worse. And worse. And worse.
I think the point where I really got fed up was after a few hours of being there, I'd had a headache that turned into a raging migraine and here she was right behind us everwhere we sat. For instance, someone asked me what was wrong and was I tired. And she says "you really don't know tired until you have to stay up all night with a new baby and then get up at 6AM all over again." Okay, that's fine. She's saying she's tired. But why is it that she assumed I would not understand that? She never asked if I had kids! I do know that. I know that with 4 different children actually.
Maybe that was part of it. Perhaps that assumption, the migraine and the continuous baby, baby, baby all piled up and caused my irritation. I did feel a little icky when she said that like I must not understand.
And number two: if she was so tired all the time why did she spend her night at a party instead of sleeping? Maybe I'm just ill at this point.
Then on another instance, completely out of the blue, she said "people always tell me that I don't look like I've not had a baby.'" And she told me that she always responds to them with "Duh! It's called working out, you should do it too!" I don't know if she actually tells people that when they say she doesn't look like she's had a child -- a compliment, I'd think -- and to respond with "you should too" just came off as something a rude person would say. Maybe that was another point that I was subconsciously knocking off on her?
And then when it came to the keg stand, I turned down my opportunity and boy was that wrong. I did not want to be turned upside down and be sloppy drunk, and especially not with the migraine I have. I just wasn't comfortable with that tonight. It's been a long time since I've had a lot to drink, and a keg stand would've turned me into one messy fool.
She never shut up about it. I'm totally weird for not participating. Tons of other people didn't do it, why am I the weird one? And then after she had more beer she urged me again to take a turn at the keg stand. When I said I've not drank a whole lot in so long that I'd make a fool of myself, she said "it's an every weekend thing for me." That's fine, but you can't complain about never getting sleep due to your child if your up til' the crack of down partying each weekend! Then she made a remark about how if you have kids you'll drink as much as you can, as often as you can. What? She simply assumed I'd not ever had kids, but never asked. And no, not every parent feels that way. I don't! I don't drink every weekend.
After it went on and on, I was beginning to be annoyed and kind of insulted by her remarks. Before she started drinking though, I really enjoyed her company and thought she was fun. I don't know if I was just a little irritated from the headache and the assumptions (and the baby-bitterness?) that I got a little icky about her or what.
However, any time I'm at a party, I do not want to constantly talk about kids. That is all we do all week long. The kids need shoes, the 24th is M's b-day, what are we going to do for her? Is the middle kid going to have a way to football? Is he going to have his pink socks he can't live without? For the love of Pete! Let's just leave the kid convo for just a couple hours while partying. Parties are supposed to be stress free. And it was agitating to be having a nice conversation about what our friend had been through while stationed in TX, only to have her pipe in with "well, dude, if you had a kid, there's no way you'd do something like that." Really!
Now it looks like I've went crazy and vented. Lol. Just curious though, am I just in a crappy mood tonight or do you guys get the same way at parties?
I'm not saying I hate the talk of kids at all. I don't mind any actually until it gets to the point that the entire night that was supposed to be an adult party starts feeling more like a damn baby shower.
Okay, I'll admit. I could be just a tad bitter about the whole kid-thing anyways, but I think my annoyances are... legit.
What brings this question to mind is a close friend of my partner and I had plans to party tonight -- one of our other friends who's been in the military comes home this time each year, so it's tradition to party). This is a night we all look forward to every year. So our friend, my partner and I met up with our friend (the one we were partying for) and went about an hour away for our party that only happens once a year.
There happened to be a girl there who was new to the "gang" and from the very second she showed up it was all baby this and baby that. I didn't mind at all, and actually enjoyed it for the first hour. Lots of cute photos. Yay. Congrats. And then as she continued to get drunk, it seemed the baby-talk got worse. And worse. And worse.
I think the point where I really got fed up was after a few hours of being there, I'd had a headache that turned into a raging migraine and here she was right behind us everwhere we sat. For instance, someone asked me what was wrong and was I tired. And she says "you really don't know tired until you have to stay up all night with a new baby and then get up at 6AM all over again." Okay, that's fine. She's saying she's tired. But why is it that she assumed I would not understand that? She never asked if I had kids! I do know that. I know that with 4 different children actually.
Maybe that was part of it. Perhaps that assumption, the migraine and the continuous baby, baby, baby all piled up and caused my irritation. I did feel a little icky when she said that like I must not understand.
And number two: if she was so tired all the time why did she spend her night at a party instead of sleeping? Maybe I'm just ill at this point.
Then on another instance, completely out of the blue, she said "people always tell me that I don't look like I've not had a baby.'" And she told me that she always responds to them with "Duh! It's called working out, you should do it too!" I don't know if she actually tells people that when they say she doesn't look like she's had a child -- a compliment, I'd think -- and to respond with "you should too" just came off as something a rude person would say. Maybe that was another point that I was subconsciously knocking off on her?
And then when it came to the keg stand, I turned down my opportunity and boy was that wrong. I did not want to be turned upside down and be sloppy drunk, and especially not with the migraine I have. I just wasn't comfortable with that tonight. It's been a long time since I've had a lot to drink, and a keg stand would've turned me into one messy fool.
She never shut up about it. I'm totally weird for not participating. Tons of other people didn't do it, why am I the weird one? And then after she had more beer she urged me again to take a turn at the keg stand. When I said I've not drank a whole lot in so long that I'd make a fool of myself, she said "it's an every weekend thing for me." That's fine, but you can't complain about never getting sleep due to your child if your up til' the crack of down partying each weekend! Then she made a remark about how if you have kids you'll drink as much as you can, as often as you can. What? She simply assumed I'd not ever had kids, but never asked. And no, not every parent feels that way. I don't! I don't drink every weekend.
After it went on and on, I was beginning to be annoyed and kind of insulted by her remarks. Before she started drinking though, I really enjoyed her company and thought she was fun. I don't know if I was just a little irritated from the headache and the assumptions (and the baby-bitterness?) that I got a little icky about her or what.
However, any time I'm at a party, I do not want to constantly talk about kids. That is all we do all week long. The kids need shoes, the 24th is M's b-day, what are we going to do for her? Is the middle kid going to have a way to football? Is he going to have his pink socks he can't live without? For the love of Pete! Let's just leave the kid convo for just a couple hours while partying. Parties are supposed to be stress free. And it was agitating to be having a nice conversation about what our friend had been through while stationed in TX, only to have her pipe in with "well, dude, if you had a kid, there's no way you'd do something like that." Really!
Now it looks like I've went crazy and vented. Lol. Just curious though, am I just in a crappy mood tonight or do you guys get the same way at parties?
