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I think many people realize when you stop reacting to the stimulus that caused you such emotional/mental anguish. There is a saying: "I fight with you to help you and to steer you away from bad things. The moment I stop is when I've given
I think many people realize when you stop reacting to the stimulus that caused you such emotional/mental anguish. There is a saying: "I fight with you to help you and to steer you away from bad things. The moment I stop is when I've given up."
And it's true. You can only try and help people so much. Eventually, I'm not going to be your voice of reason. I will only stand back. And watch.
We're so on the same page here. If I'm in your face and challenging you on what you may have done or said, then it means I still care and that I'll be there to fight for you; but the second I stop doing that? That means the "game" is over and I'll let you wallow in your self-inflicted misery.
What actually causes that to happen varies from person to person and situation to situation.
For instance, if you're someone who knows they need to break up with their significant other and all you do is whine about how awful the relationship is instead of asking for a solution to a very specific problem, then chances are my wick is going to be very short and I'll tell you that I still want to be friends but I don't want to hear about it anymore.
There's only so much I'm willing to put on my shoulders and my plate is full enough as it is....OH which reminds me, that's another breaking point. If all someone does is talk about themselves and never asks how I'm doing or if I need help...yeah that ends pretty quickly.
Both fortunately and unfortunately, I'm extremely forgiving because I know I have my own demons and have been a bad friend more than once in my life.
When it comes to obstacles in life, there are very few I waste my time banging my head over. Human nature being what it is and all, it's pretty easy to realize where energy is wasted.