Which is more intimate?

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Which is more intimate?

gone77 gone77
I've heard some people say that kissing is far more intimate than oral sex (Pretty Woman, anyone?), and have heard others say that oral sex is more intimate. What do you guys think?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Kissing
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81  (50%)
Oral Sex
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36  (22%)
They're equally intimate
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44  (27%)
Total votes: 161
Poll is closed
08/31/2010
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Kynky Kytty Kynky Kytty
Oh... that's a good question. I do consider kissing and oral sex more intimate than intercourse. But I would have to say that oral sex is more than kissing. At least with kissing, I do not get to taste the other person, which is very intimate. Although, kissing is intimate in the way that feelings can shine through.
08/31/2010
Coralbell Coralbell
I don't think of kissing as being very intimate. Probably because I have kissed a lot of people. But I think oral sex is very intimate. I have only done it with one person. I agree with Kynky Kytty that it is more intimate than intercourse. My partner didn't think oral sex was a big deal at all but that losing our virginity was and I found that mind-set hard to understand.
08/31/2010
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
I voted for oral. I can kiss the wife anytime anywhere, but only on occasion can get oral. This to me is far more intimate. Plus I do not get oral every time we have sex, so oral is like a treat for me.
08/31/2010
LikeSunshineDust LikeSunshineDust
I had (kind of ) this discussion with my sister the other night and she brought up the Pretty woman line.

For me, kissing is more fun than intimate. I have kissed several people just for fun, but I've never gone done on someone who didn't mean a lot to me.
08/31/2010
Sir Sir
I feel that they are equal, but it really depends on the time and situation. I have been kissed passionately, received oral sex equally passionately, and have likewise been kissed and given oral without any passion at all.

Either way, they're both good, and I enjoy receiving and giving both, whichever one is more intimate does not matter much to me!
08/31/2010
Kindred Kindred
I voted kissing because I feel that kissing is always a sign of affection, even if it's just a peck on the cheek. Oral sex can be just that, sex. Yes, you've got someones genitals in your mouth, but that doesn't mean there's any emotion/passion associated with it.

Or put another way, I would never just kiss anyone unless I felt some emotion towards them.
08/31/2010
Sammi Sammi
I think oral is far more intimate.
08/31/2010
Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
The way I see it, you're putting your face in someone's genitals, or someone's putting their face in yours. Call me crazy, but that seems a little more intimate than tonsil hockey I do think that both activities are fun, though.
08/31/2010
twistedheartsx twistedheartsx
I voted kissing. Oral is intimate, but I find kissing, something you are doing passionately and TOGETHER is far more intimate.
08/31/2010
clp clp
I'm voting oral, because it is the one and only act that makes me cry and terrifies/thrills me. Of any aspect of shared sexuality that reaches spirituality, that is the one. I don't want to turn into a tree-hugging hippie here, suffice it to say that kissing is very nice, but it takes a lot of trust and three times the amount of time to get to oral base with me.
(Oral base. What is that, 3rd? I wish I knew sports.)
08/31/2010
deltalima deltalima
I think oral doesn't seem intimate because you're not on eye level. Now that I think about it, I could see both arguments. It is funny though, that personally, I would feel more conscious performing oral on my current boyfriend than I would kissing, just a little side note.
08/31/2010
Liz Liz
I vote for kissing. Kissing (just for the sake of kissing, not necessarily leading to something else) is something I only do with an intimate partner; I've had oral sex with casual partners.
08/31/2010
UrNaughtyaAngel UrNaughtyaAngel
Quote:
Originally posted by Miss Cinnamon
The way I see it, you're putting your face in someone's genitals, or someone's putting their face in yours. Call me crazy, but that seems a little more intimate than tonsil hockey I do think that both activities are fun, though.
I am just as crazy as you sweetie. I am more likely to kiss someone for fun while drunk than to perform or have oral perform on me.
09/01/2010
LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
For me it's about connection.. kissing connects two people on a level that few things do. Oral sex, while fantastic in it's own right, just don't bring me that connection, that greater understanding of who someone is and how they feel about me that I get through kissing.

Ok sometimes kissing is two people swapping spit and having a good time, but sometimes it's not.
09/01/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by gone77
I've heard some people say that kissing is far more intimate than oral sex (Pretty Woman, anyone?), and have heard others say that oral sex is more intimate. What do you guys think?
I have found that if the kissing is deep, passionate and complete with tongue, lips and stuff that it is equally as intimate as oral sex. Especially if you get that whole "I wanna crawl into your mouth and consume you" kinda thing goin'.
09/01/2010
Waterfall Waterfall
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
I have found that if the kissing is deep, passionate and complete with tongue, lips and stuff that it is equally as intimate as oral sex. Especially if you get that whole "I wanna crawl into your mouth and consume you" kinda thing goin'.
I totally agree with this! I consider the type of kissing you describe as VERY intimate and its my favorite type
09/01/2010
Liz2 Liz2
I never really thought about it before but I believe kissing is far more intimate then oral for me. In the past..., I have given oral and had oral with very little intimacy.
In porn there is little passionate kissing as most actresses reserve kissing for their private intimate moments.
09/01/2010
ScottA ScottA
It depends - while O.S. is in a way more intimate (it does involve the genitals and removing clothing), kissing does have the deep eye-to-eye connection that O.S. doesn't. At least I find it hard to maintain eye contact while I'm between my wife's legs without getting a crick in my neck or feeling ridiculous.
09/01/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
After reading the posts - everyone had good points - but I cum down on the side of oral sex. Kissing can be intimate or not - oral sex is always intimate.
09/01/2010
Envy Envy
I kinda think of intimacy as being diff from sexual and kissing to me is more intimate while oral is more sexual, so yeah.
09/01/2010
Blinker Blinker
I've never really thought of comparing the two so I had to think for a minute, but I would say kissing is more intimate. There's just something to be said about wet lips and breathing into each other, and soft words. I've never really enjoyed kissing until I met my current partner. I wanna eat his face all the time now
09/01/2010
TitsMcScandal TitsMcScandal
Kissing.

I'm pretty much an oral whore (hey at least I admit it). I don't need to have a connection with someone to go down on them.

However, kissing is something that I only do with someone who I have a connection with.

My Man and I have dabbled with group sex and such (and will continue to dabble ) and one of our rules is no opposite sex kissing. So I can't kiss boys and he can't kiss girls (and he doesn't like boys which means he can't kiss anyone). I can kiss girls though... But anywhoodle, it is because we feel that kissing involves something much more intimate than getting your jollies off from mouth to naughty bits.
09/01/2010
Andromeda Andromeda
I think they can be equally intimate or equally not intimate at all. Really, it depends on how you approach it and what you're feeling at the time. You can kiss someone for the heck of it and there may not be any intimacy at all. The same goes for oral sex, or anything really. How you feel about the person and your reasons behind the action are what make something intimate or not.
09/02/2010
Naughty Student Naughty Student
I voted kissing but I am torn. This is a good question.

I can kiss and always have passionate kisses. I can give little pecs that are affectionate but not intimate. It's the same with oral. I can really be into it and it can be a very intimate experience OR I can be bored and do it to get it out of the way or bcs I don't want to have him penetrate me.

So I guess both are equal?
09/02/2010
Liz2 Liz2
Quote:
Originally posted by Naughty Student
I voted kissing but I am torn. This is a good question.

I can kiss and always have passionate kisses. I can give little pecs that are affectionate but not intimate. It's the same with oral. I can really be into it and it can be a very ...
Your response helped be parse this further......I can give oral and totally not be into it but I can not really kiss without passion.
09/02/2010
ScottA ScottA
A peck on the cheek?

There is a wide range of kissing, and I would imagine that there's a range for O.S. as well, from long-term couples who know all of each other's hot points and hit them to the "Monica & Bill" type event.
09/02/2010
iceman681 iceman681
you kiss ones you love and oral is pure fun
09/20/2010
Trashley Trashley
Well, as a former prostitute, I always viewed kissing as more intimate than oral sex. The oral sex was always easy, but every client I kissed, I felt like they were sucking a part of my soul away. I eventually ended up following the no kissing, just fucking rule. It got too much to handle. Kissing just seems so beautiful and sacred to me.
09/21/2010
Blow Baby Blow Baby
I think oral is. You can kiss anyone.
09/21/2010
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