Why are they following you

Contributor: ladychristie ladychristie
So lastnight my boyfriend was going to go to sleep and I wasn't tired yet so I was grabbing my laptop to go out to the living room and he said don't you're having an online affair. I was like what are you talking about and he goes well when I used your laptop your email had people following you on that website you go to. I tried explaining to him exactly what that meant and said look if I was trying to hide something my email wouldn't be up on my homepage for you to look at and if you're that curious edenfantasys is bookmarked on my toolbar and I'm always signed in so you can look at it whenever you want. I still didn't take my laptop to the living room though.
03/30/2012
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Contributor: underHim underHim
Yeah. Master has trust issues too. I actually gave him my login info so he can get on my account too. I have nothin to hide and that way he feels more comfortable so it makes me happy.
03/30/2012
Contributor: ladychristie ladychristie
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Originally posted by underHim
Yeah. Master has trust issues too. I actually gave him my login info so he can get on my account too. I have nothin to hide and that way he feels more comfortable so it makes me happy.
I just did that too I never actually thought about giving him my login info just because it's saved on mine.
03/30/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
That's messed up, they seriously need to respect you and your privacy.
03/30/2012
Contributor: underHim underHim
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Originally posted by unfulfilled
That's messed up, they seriously need to respect you and your privacy.
He did not ask for my password, I gave it to him. He does respect me, I just know he has been cheated on alot before so rather than allow him to worry, I offer up my passwords and stuff so he can see it if he wants to. I think you misunderstood. I cannot speak for ladychristine but I know that is what it is for me. We also share a email account. These are things I am comfortable doing, they make him more secure and it is not like I have anything to hide so why not?
03/30/2012
Contributor: Badass Badass
Awe, that's kind of hilarious. I mean it sucks he distrusts you and thought you were cheating but...
This site is like 85% women... and the dudes on here are either A. in a couple, hence they are one here. B. Gay C. Far away. There is no way to "Search for someone local" on this site.
When my bestie T. got on here, her hubby said similar things to her before I explained this to him, thinking she was going to be searching for someone new.
Guy's are just jealous by nature I think.

Except mine. He doesn't care at all. He will sit by me and watch me, but more like "oh wow that could be cool" "you want that?!? what an icky color!" he doesn't care who i talk to. Ive made a few female friends I message back and forth on here.
03/30/2012
Contributor: ladychristie ladychristie
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Originally posted by unfulfilled
That's messed up, they seriously need to respect you and your privacy.
We both have a past and we both know how we were before we became exclusive. We've both been cheated on and we both have cheated. He didn't ask for my password and never would I just put it by his computer just to say if you want to look there it is. I understand how it looked from the title of the email he never opened it just read the title and it does look odd to someone who doesn't know and I do plan on sitting him down and showing him how it works and from now on I will go back to using my laptop in bed even if he's sleeping. He didn't ask me to but for my comfort I will.
03/30/2012
Contributor: Various Various
Oh wow. Had that happened to me I would have laughed in his face, but that is just how I tend to handle things. Also, my husband knows exactly what I am doing on this site, and how everything works because I'm constantly talking about it!
03/30/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
With all the products we have received, my hubby knows what this site is, however he does freak when I am on the forums or messaging a student. I laugh at him and tell him to get over it--or quit getting toys! I understand about making them secure, most sites on the net are thinly disguised dating/hook up sites. But once you sit down with your partner and show them the site and let them explore it a bit, they should understand.
03/30/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
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Originally posted by js250
With all the products we have received, my hubby knows what this site is, however he does freak when I am on the forums or messaging a student. I laugh at him and tell him to get over it--or quit getting toys! I understand about making them secure, ... more
My hubby isn't the only one! My hubby gets so mad at me if I pop on while he is home. I have too, somethings go on when I am not here! I need to know what is up. I am a busy women on here.
03/30/2012
Contributor: Mwar Mwar
My guy doesn't care. He only does when he wants attention. And he signals this by slowly moving his face above the laptop screen in a slow, hysterical manner. Other than that, he likes the benefits I get from Eden and he has been more active in selecting lingerie
03/30/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
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Originally posted by Beck
My hubby isn't the only one! My hubby gets so mad at me if I pop on while he is home. I have too, somethings go on when I am not here! I need to know what is up. I am a busy women on here.
Exactly!!! I will wait sometimes until he goes to bed and then log in, but then I get the old-when are you coming to bed? Oh, well. Sometimes it is all about me!! And yes, I am pretty busy here as well, some people do depend on me. Like my students???
03/30/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
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Originally posted by js250
Exactly!!! I will wait sometimes until he goes to bed and then log in, but then I get the old-when are you coming to bed? Oh, well. Sometimes it is all about me!! And yes, I am pretty busy here as well, some people do depend on me. Like my ... more
Same here! My phone even gives me alerts to check about EF. I don't like to let my students reviews sit in my care for too long. They are depending on me. My hubby was getting mad at me last night because I kept popping on checking to see what the Point farming post was saying. I wanted to keep up to speed about what was going on. He cared little about it. I was just called an addict.
03/30/2012
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
I just explained to my boyfriend that there are like 7 active male people on here, and that almost all of them are in relationships themselves. I also explained that you can report people if they're harassing you and such. Eden's a friendly place! Explain to him that following is a lot like one-sided facebook friending.
03/30/2012
Contributor: mlmac mlmac
My wife know's that I'm on this forum quite a bit because I'm always trying to share with her the different polls that are presented here. Hopefully, I can get her to sign up with her own profile account, that's my goal anyway.
She is aware that I have followers and I follow and she doesn't have a problem with that at all. She knows that I'm not trying to pick up someone here and that this forum is just something I love being involved with. She respects that, just like I respect anything that she has interests in.
03/30/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
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Originally posted by Beck
Same here! My phone even gives me alerts to check about EF. I don't like to let my students reviews sit in my care for too long. They are depending on me. My hubby was getting mad at me last night because I kept popping on checking to see what ... more
Me too. I might be a bit addicted, however, EF has helped strengthen our relationship or we would not be together right now. He doesn't complain when using the toys, but does when the responsibility of the reviews, etc. is due. WTF?? Can't have it both ways, buddy!!
03/30/2012
Contributor: funluvinmama funluvinmama
My hubby really don't care what sites I go on. He says that I'm too reserved and closed off and there is no way I would ever cheat on him. (this site will help me show him just what I really am.)

He is right, I would never cheat.
03/30/2012
Contributor: MamaDivine MamaDivine
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Originally posted by ladychristie
So lastnight my boyfriend was going to go to sleep and I wasn't tired yet so I was grabbing my laptop to go out to the living room and he said don't you're having an online affair. I was like what are you talking about and he goes well ... more
This sucks when this sort of thing happens. Luckily, my husband and I have had each others passwords/accounts and shared bank info since day one. We've always been pretty trusting of each other. I guess maybe its because we DO have each others information LOL. Who knows.

Either way, sorry you have to deal with this Sucks when the trust factor lacks in a relationship. I am not saying that he IS this type of person, but its usually the accusers (in my personal experience/from what I've seen with my friends) that are the ones that have something to hide, so they try to push the blame or direct their attention to their faithful partner. My girlfriend from high school had this issue with her guy. He always accused her of stuff and come to find out it was HIM that had stuff to hide. Shame

Maybe you could always try to get him to look at stuff with you? Or maybe talk about your convos with him? When I am in chat on facebook Ill mention to my husband "Hey honey? I just spoke with so n so....etc etc" That way he kind of feels like he is apart of things and he knows whats going on in my day to day "online business". Although, honestly, this shouldn't be something that you HAVE to do to make him feel secure. He should definitely try to respect and trust you. If he doesn't have PROOF or even an inclination that you're doing anything wrong, he shouldn't accuse. Just my two cents. Good luck either way hun!
03/31/2012
Contributor: underHim underHim
My husband is my Master and my own personal much wanted stalker too. YAY!
04/04/2012