Would you be angry if your spouse/lover took "hidden" photos or video's of you...even if they then told you about them?

Bignuf Bignuf
Assuming they showed no one else, but did it for the "thrill", and then told you about it. Would you still feel violated? This was a hot topic among the woman at work today, since one of the hubbies (not mine) did that.
03/29/2013
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PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I wouldn't be pleased at all! As long as he didn't show anyone, it would blow over though and I wouldn't hold it against him forever.
03/29/2013
Kaislee Kaislee
As long as he didn't show them to anyone else and did it for his own pleasure I wouldn't be extremely mad at him. I guess it depends on what I was doing when he took the videos. It could be a turn on for him to get a video of you in the shower and as long as he did not show it to anyone else it would be forgivable in my book.
03/29/2013
Cosmonaut Cosmonaut
No, I don't care if he does.
03/29/2013
surreptitious surreptitious
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Assuming they showed no one else, but did it for the "thrill", and then told you about it. Would you still feel violated? This was a hot topic among the woman at work today, since one of the hubbies (not mine) did that.
I feel like if my lover were going to do this, I would want him to clear it with me /first/ rather than after. He could ask me and then wait for two or three weeks for me to have forgotten about it. I would likely be annoyed if he did it without so much as mentioning that he was in to voyeurism, but that's more because I would be upset that he didn't trust me with something like that.
03/29/2013
Noelle Noelle
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Assuming they showed no one else, but did it for the "thrill", and then told you about it. Would you still feel violated? This was a hot topic among the woman at work today, since one of the hubbies (not mine) did that.
I wouldn't care as long as he told me afterward and didn't show anyone else.
03/30/2013
KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
Given that we're assuming he wouldn't show anyone else (I presume this includes the internet?), I wouldn't mind it at all.
In a sort of fucked up way it would almost be kind of sweet that he went to such lengths to sneak pictures of me.

Then again, I'm an odd one so I tend to view things a bit differently than most. ^_^
03/30/2013
Chelynn67 Chelynn67
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Assuming they showed no one else, but did it for the "thrill", and then told you about it. Would you still feel violated? This was a hot topic among the woman at work today, since one of the hubbies (not mine) did that.
He does, all the time and it scares me a little
03/30/2013
Living Doll Living Doll
I'd definitely rather know about it beforehand.
03/30/2013
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
I'd rather know before. Candid filming is alarming to me.
03/30/2013
Msmueller Msmueller
I'd rather him be up front, in this day and age you never know where your pictures/videos will end up and even if things are good right now they may not be later on, so it would be nice to atleast know what you need to be concerned about in the event of a break up.
03/30/2013
Martiniman Martiniman
I have over 20,000 nude and naughty photos, and hundreds of videos of my wife. With that said, she has told me she doesn't mind me taking photos or videos of her since they are only for our viewing. Sometimes candid photos or videos are better quality and more enjoyable because she is acting normal in a natural environment instead of posing. Therefore, I have done this and told her directly afterwards.

Here's my opinion on the question...If they are not into taking erotic photography, the husband should get a one time approval, then he can candid photo or video all he wants. Being as they were not shared and the wife was informed afterwards, what is the huge issue. Now it would be incredibly different had she found a stash of videos and photos of her in the nude that went back over years that she wasn't aware of.

However, in this day of technology, she might want to now check for tiny spy cameras. Who knows what he has filmed.
03/30/2013
Lioncub Lioncub
I would be livid. There is no reason to talk about it before hand.
03/30/2013
ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Assuming they showed no one else, but did it for the "thrill", and then told you about it. Would you still feel violated? This was a hot topic among the woman at work today, since one of the hubbies (not mine) did that.
I would still feel violated. No evidence unless I approve 1st!
03/30/2013
Sera26 Sera26
I'd like to know first.
03/30/2013
KinkyKatieJames KinkyKatieJames
I'd be a bit annoyed since he knows I would agree if he asked me first. It's all about communication.
03/30/2013
*Camoprincess* *Camoprincess*
I would be pissed my partner makes it very well known when he is going to video or take pics. There is NO reason NOT to ask me. My body and my private time invaded would piss me off
03/30/2013
captainsgirl captainsgirl
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Assuming they showed no one else, but did it for the "thrill", and then told you about it. Would you still feel violated? This was a hot topic among the woman at work today, since one of the hubbies (not mine) did that.
i think i would be upset, but then be ok.
03/30/2013
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