Would you be offended?

After a baby's birth, phone calls and emails are the last thing on the parents' mind. FB is the quickest option to reach the widest audience. If I were you, I wouldn't be angry over it.

I think I maybe alone here. I'd be offended. The baby should be offended too. Why would facebook be an acceptable channel to announce something this important?

In this post and in your other post about your other sister-in-law not being concerned about seeing your children...I'm getting the feeling that you care much more about these things than they do. And that's not necessarily a bad thing, but you can't expect people to act just like you did when you birthed your child. The relationship you may feel you have with them may not be the relationship they feel they have with you, does that make sense?

I do understand exactly where you are coming from. Please do not feel like I was trying to push your legitimate feelings to the side. You sound like a conscientious, well mannered and respectful person who was taught to include everyone, write thank you notes (even when you say thanks), and you try to do the right and friendly thing in all circumstances. That is how I was taught as well. Some people are more casual about manners and have a more relaxed opinion about etiquette. Please try to overlook their faux paus and rejoice in the new blessings. Your feelings are very real and legitimate, however there are many different factors at stake. My experience was somewhat similar to yours, however there were a few differences!!

My daughter and her husband live 1786 miles away from me and it was her first and only pregnancy. They called from the hospital and I was on the phone with them for most of the night and part of the next day until the hard labor set in. No phones allowed. I sat and worried my head off for what seemed like eons, but was about 5-6 hours. Finally, my daughter calls and says it is an emergency c-section. I was dead broke, NOT with my only child when she was having my grandchild (I had so planned to be!) and she has to have emergency c-section. I was upset beyond belief that I could not be there, therefore I was actually pissed--at myself for not figuring out how to be there, at my husband for not figuring out how to get me there, at the people who were there and most of all; I was pissed that I was so hurt and left out of the actual special moments that I felt pissed. (Make sense???) My son in law's mom called me and let me know we had a girl, she was healthy and beautiful, my daughter was fine and etc. about half hour after the delivery. I am so grateful to her for that and so damn jealous it isn't funny. I know it is petty, but in the moment I could not look through my mixed emotions. ---All b.s. aside, what bothered me the whole time was that I was unable to be there for ME, my daughter and son-in-law and my grandbaby. The big picture is that I have an amazing daughter & son-in-law, and an adorable, happy, healthy 1 yr. old grandchild I will meet for the first time this year.

Sorry for the book, I hope this may somehow help, at least you know you are not 'alone' in your feelings. (Please, do NOT let my daughter read this post!!!!--silent prayer--)