Would you ever use a dating service (match.com, e-Harmony, etc.) to find someone? Why/Why not?

Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
A number of years ago I did e-Harmony for several months but became tired of all the questions & then got too ill to continue. While I did it, though, it was fun & I met some interesting people. I might do it again sometime. Have you ever done this? How did it go? Did you like it? Or is this something you just wouldn't do & why not?
05/10/2013
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Fluke Fluke
I did eharmony a long time ago for the free month they give you. I liked that it had a long questionnaire instead of: I'm 25, show me hot chicks near me pls! It was enjoyable although I had trouble remembering to check it so I'd find I would have 5 responses from girls 2 weeks ago and then I'd check it every day for a week and nothing, haha.

I do feel like a bit of a loser for using it but on the other hand I don't want to short change myself or miss out on something cool so I would use it again.
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bayosgirl bayosgirl
Well, I'm married and happily so but even if I were single...probably not. Call me old fashioned but I'd rather meet someone IRL. I had a bad first relationship that started online so I'm probably biased.
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Edeneve Edeneve
I'm really reluctant cuz I've never heard any good experiences from it. seems there's a lot of deceitful things said. don't want to have to sift through all that garbage.
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Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
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Originally posted by Edeneve
I'm really reluctant cuz I've never heard any good experiences from it. seems there's a lot of deceitful things said. don't want to have to sift through all that garbage.
I know an entire family of 5 siblings who all found their future spouses on e-Harmony! They are Catholic & the most conservative people you ever met! I never would have thought they'd go for it, but it can really work & I consider it another tool in your arsenal, you know?

@ Fluke: I wish you luck should you ever try it again! I do want to mention that since it's been a while since you used it, you might want to take the questionnaire again.

I tried it because I really thought I just wanted to try the free personality assessment offer at the time. But, my parents said they'd pay for a membership, if I wanted & I decided to give it a shot. My advice to people is to always leave their photo visible to others, it saves a lot of time wasted on back & forth only to discover the other person doesn't like whatever it is about your appearance.

Thanks for answering, everyone!
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blondie blondie
I tried okcupid to meet girls since I don't know many open bi/gay girls, but 95% of the people that messaged me were guys so I just gave up.
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sunflower sunflower
I have an okcupid but haven't met anyone on it yet. I've been talking to a few people but I really don't log on that much.
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Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
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Originally posted by sunflower
I have an okcupid but haven't met anyone on it yet. I've been talking to a few people but I really don't log on that much.
I haven't heard of this service before. I haven't looked into any of this in several years, so I might just have to look around & see what's out there, although I don't think I'm prepared to really get involved with someone right now. Then again, why wait?
05/11/2013
Cindi025 Cindi025
I used to be on several dating sites trying to find a man.. never found anyone though... needless to say I gave up and quit trying!
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eri86 eri86
I was on e-harmony for a bit when I could afford it. I had it for six months. Nothing came of it.

But I wouldn't be opposed to giving it another go at some point.
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Zombirella Zombirella
I actually did when I got out of my last long relationship (4 years and engaged). I was sick of going out with friends and meeting guys that thought because I was out that I was some drunk bar slut (though I rarely drank and far from a slut). Once they knew they weren't getting me in bed that night, they were done talking to me. I was still in college but not the type to hang around campus or have the courage to talk to someone I might be interested in. Plus, I was known for coming to class in sweats with wet hair because I was too lazy to get up early to spend 2hrs getting ready for class. But I noticed I wasn't the only one that bummed it alot. So I figured I'd try it and see if I met anyone.

I met one guy on a site and went to meet him at the mall....yeah....he looked NOTHING like his picture. I wasn't attracted at all and didn't have the heart to bail but I didn't return his calls after that. I know it was mean of me but I didn't want to hurt his feelings, though ignoring him probably did the same. I went out with another guy, he was a bit older than me and that was just awkward, he was SO immature. I texted him a few times after that then just stopped because I knew there wasn't going to be anything happening there. Then he shows up at my work one day when I was serving and sat in my section....it was so weird....and he stayed for the longest time. That's another phone call I ignored. After that I said to hell with it and deleted my account from that site.

A few months later, my now fiance randomly adds me on Myspace(back when that was "cool" and everyone had one) because he thought I was cute. He didn't say anything to me for a few days then I played "dumb" and messaged him asking if "I knew him" and that got the conversation started. He ended up living like 3 minuets from me and we have mutual friends and never saw each other before. So, I paid $30 for a month on a damn site and all I needed to do was wait a few more months and I would meet my fiance on a FREE social media site. Wish I would've saved that $30 for something else!!
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Hentialover Hentialover
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Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
A number of years ago I did e-Harmony for several months but became tired of all the questions & then got too ill to continue. While I did it, though, it was fun & I met some interesting people. I might do it again sometime. Have you ever ... More
I've tried three dating sites and am currently still on one. I've managed a few dates over the years, with people I originally meet on the internet. Nothing solid ever came out of it, really. But it was fun, and still kinda is.
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KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
I met one of my current partners (poly) on OKCupid. I don't mind the free ones, but I don't think I would ever pay for a dating service.
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MrWood MrWood
I met my fiancé' on Christian Mingle. It is truly as if God put us together. The chances of us finding each other on our own would have never happened, and we both feel were meant for each other. I have used other sites before and met several people but this time was different. It was truly a connection beyond human possibilities. Simply saying, inspite of all the hype about dating sites, I would have never met the love of my life. We have been together for two yrs and will be married in a few months. The biggest problem with the sites though, is that many, many people are not honest about themselves, including posting photos that are yrs old, so that they look better. I guess these "fake" people think that their potential mates won't notice, lol.
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Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
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Originally posted by MrWood
I met my fiancé' on Christian Mingle. It is truly as if God put us together. The chances of us finding each other on our own would have never happened, and we both feel were meant for each other. I have used other sites before and met ... More
Congratulations on the upcoming wedding! That's just wonderful that you found the perfect person for you. Thanks for sharing that with me!

I just don't understand why someone would stack the deck against themselves by lying about things like you mention; it defeats the whole purpose! It's such an immature thing to do. Then what, hope they are so enamored of you from the online exchanges that the physical just won't matter, not to mention the fact you deceived them? I think it would be better to put it all out there, warts and all. Imagine the relief of not having any of the deceptions hanging over your head. I guess it's like the old Groucho Marx quote, where you'd never want to be a member of a club that would accept you - in this case, you think someone who would accept you as you are, must not meet your standards of someone you'd want to be with!
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ViVix ViVix
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Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
A number of years ago I did e-Harmony for several months but became tired of all the questions & then got too ill to continue. While I did it, though, it was fun & I met some interesting people. I might do it again sometime. Have you ever ... More
If I have to pay for it, I won't use a dating service. It just seems a little like buying a prostitute. LOL.
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Zombirella Zombirella
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Originally posted by ViVix
If I have to pay for it, I won't use a dating service. It just seems a little like buying a prostitute. LOL.
Wow....okay. I'm sorry but that is just a ridiculous comparison! It's a dating tool, I wasn't on there looking for sex, I was hoping for something worthwhile. That is a bit offensive, IMO. It's not like that adult friend finder site!!!
05/11/2013
Zombirella Zombirella
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Originally posted by ViVix
If I have to pay for it, I won't use a dating service. It just seems a little like buying a prostitute. LOL.
Wow....okay. I'm sorry but that is just a ridiculous comparison! It's a dating tool, I wasn't on there looking for sex, I was hoping for something worthwhile. That I'd a bit offensive, IMO. It's not like that adult friend finder site!!!
05/11/2013
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
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Originally posted by ViVix
If I have to pay for it, I won't use a dating service. It just seems a little like buying a prostitute. LOL.
I know you put, "LOL" after your comment, but that kind of humor doesn't translate well on the Net. The "LOL", also doesn't really detract from the insult to those of us who clearly used those services! The prostitute comment only furthers the outdated, ridiculous, stereotype that there is something wrong or desperate about those who would pay for a service to help save time & weed through potential companions. Besides, I would hardly compare a dating service to a hookup service! In fact, part of the reason people try these services is to avoid the meat market & other situations where most are out for sex & few are looking for relationships.
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ShadowedSeductress ShadowedSeductress
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Originally posted by ViVix
If I have to pay for it, I won't use a dating service. It just seems a little like buying a prostitute. LOL.
I agree with Zombriella. That's a bit offensive and way off base. Please consider others feelings especially when you comment on a post where many others have already talked about using dating sites.
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ShadowedSeductress ShadowedSeductress
I have never used a dating site but I do believe something good can come out of them for some people.
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Hummingbird Hummingbird
If I were single today, yes I would, many years ago I joined a singles club for that same purpose, to meet someone, its just a different means of introduction to someone new.
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bog bog
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Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
A number of years ago I did e-Harmony for several months but became tired of all the questions & then got too ill to continue. While I did it, though, it was fun & I met some interesting people. I might do it again sometime. Have you ever ... More
I've used OKCupid before, and found some really phenomenal people. I've made friends for life on the internet!
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ChubbyNerd ChubbyNerd
I wouldn't use one that I would have to pay for, However I do use free ones.
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KinkyKatieJames KinkyKatieJames
I haven't used any and am currently in a serious relationship. However, I see nothing wrong with those sites. My mom used one once and had a bad experience, but that's to be expected; nothing is perfect.
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Zombirella Zombirella
Didn't mean to post twice, thank you "smart" phone!
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