Would you help your SO?

jmex83 jmex83
my wife just started with cam modeling again after a three year break. She did it when we met, and a little while afterwards but quit because of the birth of our daughters and she says it makes her uncomfortable to "work" when I am home, even if Im in the other room. She asked me today if I could help her take photos for a photo pack she is putting together and I feel kind of weird to be honest. Im not the jealous type or anything, i just hate that she has to go back into camming and the like. so i was wondering-am I weird for feeling weird about this? Would you feel weird helping out your SO for this type of work?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I would be totally weirded out by helping out
43  (46%)
I would be ok with it
22  (24%)
Not sure, somewhere in the middle/depends on what I was helping with
19  (20%)
Other
9  (10%)
Total votes: 93
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ghent529 ghent529
I'd totally be pissed... But I'm the jealous type i reackon
05/10/2012
Antipova Antipova
How you feel is totally your own thing---it's not like anybody on an internet forum can say "no way, you're not allowed to feel weird about that!" or "of course, make her stop right now!" I kind of think cam modeling would be awesome, and if a partner was to approach me with it I'd probably ask if we could do a couples' account. But I know that I'm not everyone, and not everyone will think the same as me.

You and she just have to talk about it and make sure you're both feeling good. I guess all I can say is at least you know she is being honest and confiding everything in you. Hooray for having a loving caring wife.
05/10/2012
Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Quote:
Originally posted by jmex83
my wife just started with cam modeling again after a three year break. She did it when we met, and a little while afterwards but quit because of the birth of our daughters and she says it makes her uncomfortable to "work" when I am home, ... More
Not sure, somewhere in the middle/depends on what I was helping with.
05/10/2012
CindyH CindyH
it would be weird
05/10/2012
richsam richsam
Quote:
Originally posted by jmex83
my wife just started with cam modeling again after a three year break. She did it when we met, and a little while afterwards but quit because of the birth of our daughters and she says it makes her uncomfortable to "work" when I am home, ... More
i couldnt do it and i would prob ask her to stop
05/10/2012
powerandintent powerandintent
Honestly, I wouldn't be weirded out, I'd probably be mad. That's just me though.
05/10/2012
TheCleansing TheCleansing
I don't know how I'd feel. It'd be weird. I'd probably be okay with it... but it would be odd definitely.
05/10/2012
meezerosity meezerosity
I don't know how to feel about that. I'm a jealous type and I don't think I could support my partner doing that sort of thing since I'm personally wired for monogamy. I think it would be best to talk it out with her and try to come to a middleground conclusion.
05/11/2012
BlooJay BlooJay
I'm not sure how I would feel about helping. It would probably be weird.
05/11/2012
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
My wife would no do anything like this - not would I allow it in my home.

It's a free country, you do what you think is right.
05/11/2012
Youssii Youssii
Maybe I'm unusual, but I never get jealous. I'm protective of partners but never possessive so I guess I'm a good candidate for poly.
This wouldn't bother me, but I can see why it might.
05/11/2012
js250 js250
My hubby and I will play with the cam together and takes pics together. By doing this as a couple, we have no jealousies about the camming. If I did it on my own he would have definite feelings about it, though. You need to do what feels right for both of you. Maybe you can try couple camming a few times??
05/11/2012
Kitka Kitka
Not sure, but I think it wouldn't be too much of a problem for me.
05/11/2012
SweetXSurrender89 SweetXSurrender89
Not sure, kind of weird
05/11/2012
SaraW0512 SaraW0512
I would love to say "not a problem!" but I know myself better lol, I would have an absolute bitch fit! Hope things work out for you both.
05/11/2012
mama2007 mama2007
Quote:
Originally posted by jmex83
my wife just started with cam modeling again after a three year break. She did it when we met, and a little while afterwards but quit because of the birth of our daughters and she says it makes her uncomfortable to "work" when I am home, ... More
hell no. that's really low IMO. when you're married, you don't do camming. if she wants a job, then there's retail or whatever else job. i would NEVER help my husband and then again he'd never even consider this type of work and neither would I.
05/11/2012
Beck Beck
I'd be totally okay with it. My hubby wouldn't. Which is a shame. I want to.
05/11/2012
yarii yarii
can u say awkward?
05/11/2012
xOhxSoxScandalousx xOhxSoxScandalousx
That would be AWKWARD! I wouldn't let my husband go into cam modeling nor would I take PRIVATE photos of him for others viewing pleasure. Does she enjoy cam modeling for the fun of it or for the money? Does she make a lot being a cam model? I'm sorry but you should talk her into quiting and finding a better, more fullfilling job. If it makes you uncomfortable that she is cam modeling then you should express your concerns about it or it will eat away at you and one day you're gonna explode. Something like this should be agreed upon by both partners.
05/11/2012
married with children married with children
I do not understand why someone would let their spouse model for sexual purposes.
05/13/2012
31 Flavors 31 Flavors
It would be a major problem for me.
05/13/2012
RonLee RonLee
The people here who would criticize you should all be ashamed of themselves. Anybody else who gives you grief about it are A-Holes.
If your wife is ok with it and you, jmex83, are ok with it... that's all that matters.
05/13/2012
PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
Nope my partner would help me out if I needed to take pics for my camming. If I asked him to join me in a couples account he said he would do it as well. If you feel weird then see if she has a girlfriend to do it for her. There is a reason she is back at camming again after all these years. Why be upset about it. If it is helping to pay bills and especially if you need it. Then if you don't want her to do it then find something else she can do. That is just that.
05/13/2012
Ansley Ansley
Quote:
Originally posted by mama2007
hell no. that's really low IMO. when you're married, you don't do camming. if she wants a job, then there's retail or whatever else job. i would NEVER help my husband and then again he'd never even consider this type of work and neither would I.
That's easy to say from where you sit, but when you have children to feed, you'll do anything to make sure it gets done. There's absolutely nothing wrong with being a cam model, married or not, so long as everyone involved agrees and there isn't tension in the marriage over it.
05/13/2012
mama2007 mama2007
Quote:
Originally posted by Ansley
That's easy to say from where you sit, but when you have children to feed, you'll do anything to make sure it gets done. There's absolutely nothing wrong with being a cam model, married or not, so long as everyone involved agrees and ... More
stripping naked or close to it for anyone other than your spouse is unacceptable in marriage, total disrespect. and i do have kids, 2 of them actually - 3 and 4 years old. i'd never consider that; if i needed a job i'd get a retail type job at mall again. my husband has a good job welding and painting for a company who fixes and builds railroad cars for the railroad. i'm a stay at home mom.
05/13/2012
PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
Quote:
Originally posted by mama2007
stripping naked or close to it for anyone other than your spouse is unacceptable in marriage, total disrespect. and i do have kids, 2 of them actually - 3 and 4 years old. i'd never consider that; if i needed a job i'd get a retail type job ... More
Not everyone has good jobs like your husband does. Not everyone can find a job these days that easily either. It will take them a long time. So if she chose to go back into it there must be a reason she did.
05/13/2012
MamaDivine MamaDivine
Quote:
Originally posted by mama2007
hell no. that's really low IMO. when you're married, you don't do camming. if she wants a job, then there's retail or whatever else job. i would NEVER help my husband and then again he'd never even consider this type of work and neither would I.
Well mama2007, I should probably add that it was for a foot fetish photo pack-the guy simply wanted photos of my feet LOL. Its not "low" when I had discussed it with Jmex before we had started this up again, and he wasn't weird-ed out by it because he is uncomfortable by me camming, he's uncomfortable with the fact that because he views himself as the "bread winner" and he feels that I shouldn't have to work period. It is a pride thing for him. I don't much care for the camming idea either-but in our situation, I feel that its better than having to live off the state until he is able to get a better job. Beings that he met me through this line of work to begin with, he is very familiar with my past and history with it. He trusts me, as I do him. He knows that Im not crazy about doing it, but he also knows that our children are in need of things and we are hoping to save up for a house of our own so that we can own instead of rent by years end.

I can respect your opinions, but we have a very open and trusting relationship, so we do not view me working as a cam model as any type of threat to our love or relationship. I would go out and get a "real job", but with my disabilities and having a new born daughter at home, that simply isn't a choice that I have to fall back on. It would be wonderful if I was able to, but not everyone has that luxury. For some, having a job is a luxury lol. We work with one vehicle, no babysitters or family/friends to watch our baby girl and to get a low paying, minimum wage job at some retail shop around here-It would be enough to cover my gas and day care. I wouldn't trade raising my daughter (instead of strangers) for a minimum wage job that wouldn't even be enough to pay the bills. Thats silly in my opinion.

I would also like to add to this thread, that I am uncomfortable working while he is home because, in the back of mind, I don't feel totally right about being on cam doing what I do or taking photos/videos etc because we are married. Im the same way as most of you. I feel that being married, there is a certain level of privacy and boundaries that should not be crossed. However, he has seen how much money it brings into the home, and with his job being unstable at the moment, and our other situations surrounding the whole "real job" thing-well, its one of those "We can fall back on this until our situation improves". (by the way, neither of us have ANY issues when it comes to seeing how much money it DOES bring in lol).

I would also like to say that its somewhat offensive to say "get a real job". I get paid and pay in taxes just like everyone else that has a normal job. I provide a service to those that would otherwise not be able to have their needs met. There is no emotion in doing such things and he knows that when I go to "work" it stays as "just work". I do not form bonds or emotional attachments. I provide my services and leave it at that. I am VERY open and honest with my clients. They know why I do the camming and what its all about. "Keep it real and call it what it is" is my motto. So, for those of you that have said negative remarks in regards to me as a wife, I would like you to take this into consideration and understand that when things got tight financially, I went to my husband and offered to help financially in the only way that I could see beneficial. He agreed. It was fully discussed. So, before judging someone with how they live their life or make a living, please understand that most of those words come from ignorance of the situation or the occupation and you should choose words a little more carefully.
05/13/2012
MamaDivine MamaDivine
Quote:
Originally posted by PeaceToTheMiddleEast
Not everyone has good jobs like your husband does. Not everyone can find a job these days that easily either. It will take them a long time. So if she chose to go back into it there must be a reason she did.
Thank you JustLikeHeaven. I appreciate you saying something in my defense. I wrote a response to her comment as well. I shouldn't have to defend my actions, but it is clear that when someone is clearly ignorant of why/who/what and how-things are said in a tasteless manner. I respect her opinions in how she feels about camming, but I did not appreciate the tone in which she put them across. So I appreciate you saying something.
05/13/2012
MamaDivine MamaDivine
Quote:
Originally posted by Ansley
That's easy to say from where you sit, but when you have children to feed, you'll do anything to make sure it gets done. There's absolutely nothing wrong with being a cam model, married or not, so long as everyone involved agrees and ... More
Definitely Stormy! When kids are involved, its a whole new ballgame! lol.
05/13/2012
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