Would you help your SO?

Well mama2007, I should probably add that it was for a foot fetish photo pack-the guy simply wanted photos of my feet LOL. Its not "low" when I had discussed it with Jmex before we had started this up again, and he wasn't weird-ed out by it because he is uncomfortable by me camming, he's uncomfortable with the fact that because he views himself as the "bread winner" and he feels that I shouldn't have to work period. It is a pride thing for him. I don't much care for the camming idea either-but in our situation, I feel that its better than having to live off the state until he is able to get a better job. Beings that he met me through this line of work to begin with, he is very familiar with my past and history with it. He trusts me, as I do him. He knows that Im not crazy about doing it, but he also knows that our children are in need of things and we are hoping to save up for a house of our own so that we can own instead of rent by years end.

I can respect your opinions, but we have a very open and trusting relationship, so we do not view me working as a cam model as any type of threat to our love or relationship. I would go out and get a "real job", but with my disabilities and having a new born daughter at home, that simply isn't a choice that I have to fall back on. It would be wonderful if I was able to, but not everyone has that luxury. For some, having a job is a luxury lol. We work with one vehicle, no babysitters or family/friends to watch our baby girl and to get a low paying, minimum wage job at some retail shop around here-It would be enough to cover my gas and day care. I wouldn't trade raising my daughter (instead of strangers) for a minimum wage job that wouldn't even be enough to pay the bills. Thats silly in my opinion.

I would also like to add to this thread, that I am uncomfortable working while he is home because, in the back of mind, I don't feel totally right about being on cam doing what I do or taking photos/videos etc because we are married. Im the same way as most of you. I feel that being married, there is a certain level of privacy and boundaries that should not be crossed. However, he has seen how much money it brings into the home, and with his job being unstable at the moment, and our other situations surrounding the whole "real job" thing-well, its one of those "We can fall back on this until our situation improves". (by the way, neither of us have ANY issues when it comes to seeing how much money it DOES bring in lol).

I would also like to say that its somewhat offensive to say "get a real job". I get paid and pay in taxes just like everyone else that has a normal job. I provide a service to those that would otherwise not be able to have their needs met. There is no emotion in doing such things and he knows that when I go to "work" it stays as "just work". I do not form bonds or emotional attachments. I provide my services and leave it at that. I am VERY open and honest with my clients. They know why I do the camming and what its all about. "Keep it real and call it what it is" is my motto. So, for those of you that have said negative remarks in regards to me as a wife, I would like you to take this into consideration and understand that when things got tight financially, I went to my husband and offered to help financially in the only way that I could see beneficial. He agreed. It was fully discussed. So, before judging someone with how they live their life or make a living, please understand that most of those words come from ignorance of the situation or the occupation and you should choose words a little more carefully. less

Well mama2007, I should probably add that it was for a foot fetish photo pack-the guy simply wanted photos of my feet LOL. Its not "low" when I had discussed it with Jmex before we had started this up again, and he wasn't weird-ed out by it because he is uncomfortable by me camming, he's uncomfortable with the fact that because he views himself as the "bread winner" and he feels that I shouldn't have to work period. It is a pride thing for him. I don't much care for the camming idea either-but in our situation, I feel that its better than having to live off the state until he is able to get a better job. Beings that he met me through this line of work to begin with, he is very familiar with my past and history with it. He trusts me, as I do him. He knows that Im not crazy about doing it, but he also knows that our children are in need of things and we are hoping to save up for a house of our own so that we can own instead of rent by years end.

I can respect your opinions, but we have a very open and trusting relationship, so we do not view me working as a cam model as any type of threat to our love or relationship. I would go out and get a "real job", but with my disabilities and having a new born daughter at home, that simply isn't a choice that I have to fall back on. It would be wonderful if I was able to, but not everyone has that luxury. For some, having a job is a luxury lol. We work with one vehicle, no babysitters or family/friends to watch our baby girl and to get a low paying, minimum wage job at some retail shop around here-It would be enough to cover my gas and day care. I wouldn't trade raising my daughter (instead of strangers) for a minimum wage job that wouldn't even be enough to pay the bills. Thats silly in my opinion.

I would also like to add to this thread, that I am uncomfortable working while he is home because, in the back of mind, I don't feel totally right about being on cam doing what I do or taking photos/videos etc because we are married. Im the same way as most of you. I feel that being married, there is a certain level of privacy and boundaries that should not be crossed. However, he has seen how much money it brings into the home, and with his job being unstable at the moment, and our other situations surrounding the whole "real job" thing-well, its one of those "We can fall back on this until our situation improves". (by the way, neither of us have ANY issues when it comes to seeing how much money it DOES bring in lol).

I would also like to say that its somewhat offensive to say "get a real job". I get paid and pay in taxes just like everyone else that has a normal job. I provide a service to those that would otherwise not be able to have their needs met. There is no emotion in doing such things and he knows that when I go to "work" it stays as "just work". I do not form bonds or emotional attachments. I provide my services and leave it at that. I am VERY open and honest with my clients. They know why I do the camming and what its all about. "Keep it real and call it what it is" is my motto. So, for those of you that have said negative remarks in regards to me as a wife, I would like you to take this into consideration and understand that when things got tight financially, I went to my husband and offered to help financially in the only way that I could see beneficial. He agreed. It was fully discussed. So, before judging someone with how they live their life or make a living, please understand that most of those words come from ignorance of the situation or the occupation and you should choose words a little more carefully. less

Thank you JustLikeHeaven. I appreciate you saying something in my defense. I wrote a response to her comment as well. I shouldn't have to defend my actions, but it is clear that when someone is clearly ignorant of why/who/what and how-things are said in a tasteless manner. I respect her opinions in how she feels about camming, but I did not appreciate the tone in which she put them across. So I appreciate you saying something. less

I should probably add to that I am EXTREMELY picky about my photo packs. Which, is probably why he was feeling totally weirded out by it. I was like "no no, get this angle. ....No that one has horrible lighting-get another one!" lmao. I am demanding like that and being a perfectionist with stuff drives him AND me nuts sometimes . I've only ever asked him to do a few photo sessions with me, so I think with having him be in the thick of it-was a bit different for him lol. less

my wife just started with cam modeling again after a three year break. She did it when we met, and a little while afterwards but quit because of the birth of our daughters and she says it makes her uncomfortable to "work" when I am home, even if Im in the other room. She asked me today if I could help her take photos for a photo pack she is putting together and I feel kind of weird to be honest. Im not the jealous type or anything, i just hate that she has to go back into camming and the like. so i was wondering-am I weird for feeling weird about this? Would you feel weird helping out your SO for this type of work? less

I don't know how to feel about that. I'm a jealous type and I don't think I could support my partner doing that sort of thing since I'm personally wired for monogamy. I think it would be best to talk it out with her and try to come to a middleground conclusion. less

Girl I am the same way. My neighbor takes my pics for me here and some for the sites I am on as well. But if I don't like it I will ask her to do them over until I do like them. I am that way with my pics I take on my own too. I will keep taking them till I think they are right. We getting paid for them of course they have to be perfect lol. less

I should probably add to that I am EXTREMELY picky about my photo packs. Which, is probably why he was feeling totally weirded out by it. I was like "no no, get this angle. ....No that one has horrible lighting-get another one!" lmao. I am demanding like that and being a perfectionist with stuff drives him AND me nuts sometimes . I've only ever asked him to do a few photo sessions with me, so I think with having him be in the thick of it-was a bit different for him lol. less

stripping naked or close to it for anyone other than your spouse is unacceptable in marriage, total disrespect. and i do have kids, 2 of them actually - 3 and 4 years old. i'd never consider that; if i needed a job i'd get a retail type job at mall again. my husband has a good job welding and painting for a company who fixes and builds railroad cars for the railroad. i'm a stay at home mom. less

Sorry babe! I didn't realize how i worded that lol, my bad!

Yes, what MamaDivine said about me feeling awkward or weirded out by the whole camming thing was accurate. I don't mind taking the photos and I know what she does, when she does it and how and with who (she has always been really open about that). I just feel crappy about it because its my job (or so I feel) to bring home the bacon *oink*

I have to admit that it bugs me that she doesn't feel comfortable doing it while I am home though. I know why, but I still wish that she wouldn't have to send me for a walk with the kids and the dog just to work lol! less

No, it's unacceptable in your marriage. What's okay in someone else's marriage is none of your concern and certainly not worthy of your judgment.

And never say never, you never know where you'll end up in life. Jobs may be available in your area, but they might not be available elsewhere. And I'd much rather have a mother camming for money than dealing with the emotional beatdowns of working retail and being in fast-food. At least when she's camming she has control over those who disrespect her instead of standing there like a doormat hoping and praying she doesn't get fired because someone decided to be a jerk to her that day. less

I'd go back to retail if I needed a job for sure, my parents would be the ones babysitting our kids if that happened but he's got back-up for job if anything ever happened at his job. Retail is very aggitating at times but it's worth it IMO, i liked it I saw people i knew who shopped there and did things thru store to pass the time. but you can't be rude to people just because they're rude, you smile and say have a good day and walk to do something thru the store til u have more customers to help. seasonal job is what I'd do again. I don't need an income, but want to babysit in my home but no luck yet. just put my ad up though. But i wasn't trying to be rude. less

Some people aren't cut out for retail. I know I'm not. Corporate overlords handing down policy when they haven't been inside a store in the last year, if ever coupled with bitchy customers who think you are at their beck and call for every little thing when it's right in front of their face - not my bag. And it's perfectly okay to admit that.

I think in this day and age, if you can make a healthy paycheck doing what works best for you then that should be fine. I don't think she's going to be running for public office any time soon. less

lol Well I just had a baby 10 months ago, another daughter just before her too and two older kids-so needless to say, I tend to have body concerns too. So, I will make sure the lighting/whats showing in the photo and everything is just right. You're right, we're getting paid for a service and to have them look great!

I also know that a happy customer is a returning one LOL!

I know what you mean about keeping your composure, I about wanted to unleash-but I was nice and tried to explain myself (though I really don't feel as tho that is what my husband intended on me having to do when he posted this ) which by the way he WILL be getting a talkin' to about this one lmao. "Next time, would you SPECIFY on which area of the body Im asking you to photograph!!! Geeez man! " Lmao! less

No, it's unacceptable in your marriage. What's okay in someone else's marriage is none of your concern and certainly not worthy of your judgment.

And never say never, you never know where you'll end up in life. Jobs may be available in your area, but they might not be available elsewhere. And I'd much rather have a mother camming for money than dealing with the emotional beatdowns of working retail and being in fast-food. At least when she's camming she has control over those who disrespect her instead of standing there like a doormat hoping and praying she doesn't get fired because someone decided to be a jerk to her that day. less

Stormy you could not have said it any better then you did. I have worked retail and in fast food. I am definitely not going back to that. My last job I had to leave because I almost beat the crap out of a co worker and she was my boss. I about had enough. Then working for Wal-Mart for 3 years really opened my eyes. I am a stay at home mom as well. I rather be home with my kids and camming then out and getting abused by people in general. I really turned to not liking being in the customer service field. At least at home I can tell someone no and I don't like this or that and have the option to block them. Jobs are hard enough to get these days. I did a program in Billing and Coding and even when I got done going to school for that I could not find a job and ended up in retail. Not everyone has boyfriends or husbands that they can depend on either. If we want to make some money to help out and we enjoy doing what we do, who is anyone to judge.

You are right never say never I know a lot of people already who said oh no I can't do that. Then to turn around and ask me information on it and how to get started in doing it. Don't be a hypocrite. less

stripping naked or close to it for anyone other than your spouse is unacceptable in marriage, total disrespect. and i do have kids, 2 of them actually - 3 and 4 years old. i'd never consider that; if i needed a job i'd get a retail type job at mall again. my husband has a good job welding and painting for a company who fixes and builds railroad cars for the railroad. i'm a stay at home mom. less

No, it's unacceptable in your marriage. What's okay in someone else's marriage is none of your concern and certainly not worthy of your judgment.

And never say never, you never know where you'll end up in life. Jobs may be available in your area, but they might not be available elsewhere. And I'd much rather have a mother camming for money than dealing with the emotional beatdowns of working retail and being in fast-food. At least when she's camming she has control over those who disrespect her instead of standing there like a doormat hoping and praying she doesn't get fired because someone decided to be a jerk to her that day. less

Not to mention your retail job is Minimum wage and a camming job can pay out more than that. You can still remain a stay at hoe mom because you work from home and don't have to fork out money for day care or babysitters. Camming is a great option for all women. I just wish I could get my partner to agree to it. He just doesn't want anyone looking at his women. Should we separate I'm going to start camming. It's how I plan to pay the bills and they are always hiring. less

Not to mention your retail job is Minimum wage and a camming job can pay out more than that. You can still remain a stay at hoe mom because you work from home and don't have to fork out money for day care or babysitters. Camming is a great option for all women. I just wish I could get my partner to agree to it. He just doesn't want anyone looking at his women. Should we separate I'm going to start camming. It's how I plan to pay the bills and they are always hiring. less

my wife just started with cam modeling again after a three year break. She did it when we met, and a little while afterwards but quit because of the birth of our daughters and she says it makes her uncomfortable to "work" when I am home, even if Im in the other room. She asked me today if I could help her take photos for a photo pack she is putting together and I feel kind of weird to be honest. Im not the jealous type or anything, i just hate that she has to go back into camming and the like. so i was wondering-am I weird for feeling weird about this? Would you feel weird helping out your SO for this type of work? less