I share. But not overshare. I mean, I won't talk about it all the time. But if he has questions. I won't hide anything.
Would you tell your significant EVERYTHING about your previous lovers?
06/24/2012
Everything eventually comes out anyways.
06/24/2012
I'm VERY open about my past, but my husband has made it abundantly clear that he's not interested in hearing about anything, literally. It was sort of difficult at the beginning because there was so much that I felt was important, but now that we've been together for nearly ten years, the past is irrelevant.
06/24/2012
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Smart guy - there are just somethings that should not be shared. You want to have a clean slate - not a 'smeared chalk board'.
Originally posted by
asphyxia
I'm VERY open about my past, but my husband has made it abundantly clear that he's not interested in hearing about anything, literally. It was sort of difficult at the beginning because there was so much that I felt was important, but now
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I'm VERY open about my past, but my husband has made it abundantly clear that he's not interested in hearing about anything, literally. It was sort of difficult at the beginning because there was so much that I felt was important, but now that we've been together for nearly ten years, the past is irrelevant.
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07/04/2012
Some things I would tell and keep the rest private.
07/04/2012
Mr. John
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I think some things are better kept to ones self
Originally posted by
Bignuf
Do you still keep "little secrets" about prior loves, or do you share every single detail with your current significant other?
04/18/2013
it depends what I'm asked - and what I think the response would be to finding out...
04/18/2013
If they ask, I'd say -- but I'd be tactful.
04/18/2013
I've told him most things, but there's one I just gotta keep to myself, you know?
04/18/2013
I've been completely open with him about my past.
04/18/2013
Everyone is different, but in my opinion knowing doesn't really help anything. But it can fuel misconceptions and insecurities. So I prefer to not know anything, and I prefer to share very little. It just seems more considerate to me that way.
04/18/2013
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Sure if either of them are interested....although Sigel was my first lover and Arch tends to feel a bit intimidated since I was his first.
Originally posted by
Bignuf
Do you still keep "little secrets" about prior loves, or do you share every single detail with your current significant other?
04/18/2013
I'd share all, but only if she asks direct questions. I'm not voluntarily going down that road.
04/19/2013
I share anything he wants to know about before him. If you hide stuff then it comes back to bite you in the ass later. I think it is good to be open with each other and the love between all is better.
04/19/2013
If he wants to know I tell him, but I just don't come out and tell him everything...and the same with him, we're very ok and open with everything about ourselves.
04/19/2013
I tell her if she asks, but I don't bring up just anything for no good reason
04/19/2013
I'm entitled to my memories, as is he.
I have never asked ANY details about other lovers he has had. I really don't care, it's the past. He doesn't ask me much, either.
I think it's unhealthy to be asked to or feel you have to "tell everything" to a new partner. What difference does it make in the long run? The past is over and gone.
What we feel for and do with each other is important.
I have never asked ANY details about other lovers he has had. I really don't care, it's the past. He doesn't ask me much, either.
I think it's unhealthy to be asked to or feel you have to "tell everything" to a new partner. What difference does it make in the long run? The past is over and gone.
What we feel for and do with each other is important.
04/19/2013
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You want to have a clean slate - not a 'smeared chalk board'.
Originally posted by
Gunsmoke
Smart guy - there are just somethings that should not be shared. You want to have a clean slate - not a 'smeared chalk board'.
I like that!
04/19/2013
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Right there.
Originally posted by
Gary
Everyone is different, but in my opinion knowing doesn't really help anything. But it can fuel misconceptions and insecurities. So I prefer to not know anything, and I prefer to share very little. It just seems more considerate to me that way.
What little my partner knew caused a little insecurities in the beginning. He eventually got comfortable with that information so now when he asks questions I always ask him in return if he really wants to know the answer.
From the beginning I shared what little he needed to know, such as safety and even went so far as to encourage him to go for STD testing with me.
04/19/2013
I told him everything so he could understand my views and my past, and it has helped him, plus he is on the lookout for a certain ex who is now back in town that has a history of stalking me.
04/19/2013
I would probably tell them everything.
04/19/2013
I keep most things to myself, why should people know about your past relationships when it's not something that would effect them? I think that's doing more harm then good.
04/19/2013
I've told my partner anything he was curious about.
04/19/2013
i share all with who ever i'm with about my past, they don't like it though
04/19/2013
only if he asks me not just gonna flat out say it if it is hurtful to him
04/19/2013
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