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Need advice. My sister-in-law is in her twenties, says she "can't work" because of social anxiety, yet she's in the bar 3 nights a week. (Who does that???) She won't fill out a job application, but will fill out any application
Need advice. My sister-in-law is in her twenties, says she "can't work" because of social anxiety, yet she's in the bar 3 nights a week. (Who does that???) She won't fill out a job application, but will fill out any application for assistance that she can get. She will beg people for a "favor", will accept handouts from anyone (she actually asks for stuff on her FB status!), and will even sell her foodstamps for bar money. My husband (her brother) recently heard from their mother that she is now trying to get disability for her "disorder", and he is pissed. He wants to contact the agency, but I think he should just let it be. If she is scamming the system, she won't get approved, right?
wow. This is really sad. I know a few folks like this. We have applied for assistance and received quite a bit, but I also work my ass off at a job that pays crap money in order to live.
my wife has social anxiety and trying to get her into the grocery store is a challenge-even leaving our front stoop! There is no way Id be able to get her to go to a bar. We've gone a few times with friends and our siblings, but every time that we have gone, we have had an issue with her breaking out in hives, having panic/anxiety attacks and not being able to breath. She has to go outside to get fresh air frequently, its really bad. So we don't even go anymoer.
It sounds like to me that she does NOT have a disability. She is definitely scamming the system. She is lazy is all. I would definitely report her. I hate to say that, about family or even suggest it, but she needs to be stopped. Its folks like this that try to scam the system that make it difficult for people like my wife and her mother to actually GET the help she needs. My wife refuses to apply for disability because she said "no no, i can work, i can do this....i can i can.." but we both know that she can't. her mother was the same way. Worked until she had a nervous break down and physically put herself in the hospital because of her stress level. 10- years later and my mother inlaw FINALLY applied for it after her therapist told her "If you don't get help and stop working where you are working, Im goin to stop seeing you, you need to listen to me" lol. My inlaws and their family are full of stubborn asses lol.
I would report her. Plain and simple. She will have to have a long history to even qualify for disability though. She has to PROVE by quite a bit, that she is disabled and have documentation to back it up. Therapists, doctors, specialists, friends/family and previous employers will need to write up something for her to show a pattern and history of this disorder and it will have to date quite a ways back in order for them to determine she infact does have a disorder. My wife checked into this and her mom has been going through it for months now.
My father in law was actually denied for THREE YEARS for disability for bi polar/anxiety and the like. They finally approved him after the third request, and got back pay for three years lol. But he could prove beyond a doubt that he had a disorder and was unable to work because of it. She is going to have to go through A LOT to prove to them that she has this disorder.
If i were you, I'd be snapping photos of her out, having a good time at the bars. Anything that can prove that she is functional wtihin a social setting, or "able"....I'd be getting photos and submitting that to the agency. Sorry to say, I know its family, but she definitely needs to be slapped.