you ever feel guilty after placing and EF order?

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you ever feel guilty after placing and EF order?

kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
just wondering if its common I do
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02/03/2011
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kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
Quote:
Originally posted by kinky girlfriend
just wondering if its common I do
I ened up paying $65 for the devine toycheast,the prickler,and lingerie that was on sale...I ended up taking off the pinwheel,the toitissue box,and the lace toy box...I still feel guilty yes my boyfriend will love the lingerie and its good I have locking storage...but I only make 1,000 or less a month..should I feel guilty?
02/03/2011
SexyTabby SexyTabby
Quote:
Originally posted by kinky girlfriend
I ened up paying $65 for the devine toycheast,the prickler,and lingerie that was on sale...I ended up taking off the pinwheel,the toitissue box,and the lace toy box...I still feel guilty yes my boyfriend will love the lingerie and its good I have ...
If your bills are covered and you have the money then no you shouldn't feel guilty. We all buy things for ourselves from time to time that aren't needed but simply wanted. No reason to feel bad about it
02/03/2011
DONOTSHOPHERETHEOWNERISPSYCHO DONOTSHOPHERETHEOWNERISPSYCHO
Quote:
Originally posted by kinky girlfriend
I ened up paying $65 for the devine toycheast,the prickler,and lingerie that was on sale...I ended up taking off the pinwheel,the toitissue box,and the lace toy box...I still feel guilty yes my boyfriend will love the lingerie and its good I have ...
I typically wait for some sort of coupon and use mostly gift cards/eden points/commissions to pay for my orders. That way it doesn't cut into our budget by much. We do have a bit of play money we set aside for whatever we want though.

Unless you're impeding your ability to pay your bills, eat and what not then you shouldn't feel guilty for it. If you just feel guilty spending money on yourself that's not necessary. If you're having to borrow money from people or something because you spent part of the electric bill then that's an issue.
02/03/2011
Red Vinyl Kitty Red Vinyl Kitty
I don't feel guilty. As Sarahbear mentions, as long as you don't spend beyong your means there's no reason to feel guilty. Plus, my husband loves all the things I wind up getting, so no complaints from him.
02/03/2011
DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
No. I am responsible with my money and never spend my last dime buying something. I keep an emergency fund and keep my credit card debt at 0. I do not purchase things if I cannot afford them while still keeping an emergency cushion available for the next month.

This applies to ALL purchases, not just sex toys.
02/03/2011
kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
Quote:
Originally posted by DONOTSHOPHERETHEOWNERISPSYCHO
I typically wait for some sort of coupon and use mostly gift cards/eden points/commissions to pay for my orders. That way it doesn't cut into our budget by much. We do have a bit of play money we set aside for whatever we want ...
I think its because I don't have any money saved,don't make much and am unable to work much.
02/03/2011
BluePixi BluePixi
Quote:
Originally posted by kinky girlfriend
I think its because I don't have any money saved,don't make much and am unable to work much.
Maybe its because you are spending money on luxuries and not truly trying to improve your situation. Yes having some money saved up towards a vehicle or moving out would probably help.
02/03/2011
kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
Quote:
Originally posted by BluePixi
Maybe its because you are spending money on luxuries and not truly trying to improve your situation. Yes having some money saved up towards a vehicle or moving out would probably help.
yes...I have to agree...its too temping with the point program and coupons also...

I hate myself for when I was 16 I didn't have ibs then and I wish I worked more and saved money..but I never thought 'what if I can't work" u know?
02/03/2011
sbon sbon
I've ordered a lot from eden, but I don't actually spend much money. I rely heavily on the points program. I actually think it's pretty fun to calculate how many points I need to save up for the products I want and then see how long it takes me to do so.
02/03/2011
kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
Quote:
Originally posted by DeliciousSurprise
No. I am responsible with my money and never spend my last dime buying something. I keep an emergency fund and keep my credit card debt at 0. I do not purchase things if I cannot afford them while still keeping an emergency cushion available for ...
I can still cancel the order..should I just cancel or keep the toy storage and the lingerie and forget about the prickler?
02/03/2011
Illusional Illusional
Quote:
Originally posted by kinky girlfriend
I ened up paying $65 for the devine toycheast,the prickler,and lingerie that was on sale...I ended up taking off the pinwheel,the toitissue box,and the lace toy box...I still feel guilty yes my boyfriend will love the lingerie and its good I have ...
If you took care of your other priorities, then no.
If you skipped something for some toys, then yes.

Living expenses come first.
02/03/2011
Illusional Illusional
Quote:
Originally posted by kinky girlfriend
I can still cancel the order..should I just cancel or keep the toy storage and the lingerie and forget about the prickler?
Cancel it if you're just going to dread it.
No sense is having things you won't enjoy.
02/03/2011
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by kinky girlfriend
just wondering if its common I do
I used to until Sigel sat me down and explained to me that he loves me and wanted me to have something that was meant for just me. If it brings me pleasure it brings him pleasure. He is happy to spend the money I ask for and I make sure I don't go insane. I let go of the guilt about buying something for myself and I have been happier than ever.
02/03/2011
Naughty Student Naughty Student
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
I used to until Sigel sat me down and explained to me that he loves me and wanted me to have something that was meant for just me. If it brings me pleasure it brings him pleasure. He is happy to spend the money I ask for and I make sure I don't ...
I am a student and have my own money. When I get something it must be something I do not have or a variation of something that I have but it is more powerful/ecofriendly/s afe, etc. I have felt worried after ordering something before bcs I didn't know how my partner would react but now I don't care anymore.

My partner doesn't want to know about my toys and they are only for me so really he has nothing to say.
02/03/2011
Crystal1 Crystal1
I only order when I have enough EdenPoints & GCs from blogging, so no guilt!
02/03/2011
KnK KnK
I'm broke as hell. If there's an EF coupon, I use it. Even if there isn't I use someone's affiliate code, to get 15% off.

I almost only use points...
02/03/2011
Owl Identified Owl Identified
I have splurged in the past and felt guilty, but for the most part I am careful about how I spend with EF. I typically use points and giftcards, and maybe a little cash to fill in the gaps (say a leftover $12 not covered by the cards and points). I marked "other" because I have done it but don't do it anymore, really.

I think most of us splurge from time to time and feel guilty. It's important to find a balance between living within your means and taking care of priorities, but also treating yourself. I agree with Illusional; if your basic necessities are taken care of then I say enjoy what you're getting! And maybe in the future put off hitting "order" - I often let things sit in my cart for a few days before ordering just to make sure I really want them. If you give yourself time to think through your purchase and don't make "impulse buys" then you are more likely not to feel guilty.
02/03/2011
kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
Quote:
Originally posted by Owl Identified
I have splurged in the past and felt guilty, but for the most part I am careful about how I spend with EF. I typically use points and giftcards, and maybe a little cash to fill in the gaps (say a leftover $12 not covered by the cards and points). I ...
well I will enjoy its just I can live without them..but don't want to?

I'm just very stressed with not enough sleep,not liking living here,I cant work enough hours I"m so ill..then at work I often get sent home early because of too many people and slow days...like right now if I had slept and felt healthy instead of feeling like I need to be in the bathroom even more then I would have just got up its my day off,and go to work

I think I don't enjoy them all that much because I"m sick also I would have been alot happier if I worked more and felt healthy than if I buy tjem feeling like shit everyday...I know how much myboyfriend will love the lingerie and at the same time sex is nice but not great because I always feel like shit
02/03/2011
Jul!a Jul!a
Quote:
Originally posted by Owl Identified
I have splurged in the past and felt guilty, but for the most part I am careful about how I spend with EF. I typically use points and giftcards, and maybe a little cash to fill in the gaps (say a leftover $12 not covered by the cards and points). I ...
I do something similar, but I let them all sit on a wishlist I create for a specific order. I'm always surprised at the amount of things I remove last minute that I'd feel a little guilty actually buying.
02/03/2011
Misfit Momma Misfit Momma
I'm too poor right now to spend actual money so most of my orders are paid with by using gift cards/commissions/poin ts. If I have something in Paypal for advertising or otherwise from my blog I will put that in too if it's needed. If anything I feel guilty because I am getting so many things for free!
02/03/2011
gone77 gone77
I do sometimes. It's always been kinda hard for me to justify non-bill expenses. But that's just my personal neurosis. hehe
02/03/2011
Moein Moein
A good question

I just feel a guilty if only I didn't receive my order.
02/03/2011
Lucidity Lucidity
I don't spend beyond my means. That's a good way to keep from feeling guilty.
If I can't justify it, I don't buy it. If there's something I have to have, I'll save up for it. If by the time I have enough for it, I still want the item, I let myself have something nice. If I do those things, I don't have buyers remorse and can enjoy the things I have because I've worked for them, truly wanted them and use them. Impulse buys are more likely to lead to guilt.
02/03/2011
kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
Quote:
Originally posted by Lucidity
I don't spend beyond my means. That's a good way to keep from feeling guilty.
If I can't justify it, I don't buy it. If there's something I have to have, I'll save up for it. If by the time I have enough for it, I still ...
maybe I should have only gotten the locking storage I need that. At the same time I feel I need to wear lingerie and have a good time with my boyfriend because I'm so down in the dumps I thought it would be a nice surprise even if I feel awful to do it for him he loves lingerie and has mentioned he wanted to see more of it in the bedroom..if my order hasn't shippet yet maybe I will go add all the items back tot he chart and in the future be alot more careful I'm having my taxes done very soon...that money is going towards a bill and the rest to savings..how about that?

oha ya forgot to mention I'm so grateful he puts up with me and has been there for me alot. I ened up saying I really wanted a v day ring,a necklace and the vaultz locking cd storage..that would end up being about $100 all together. I felt guilty i would say ok get it no don't just get the cd storage I need that..I'm just giving him my vesta life ipod speakers I spent over $100 on cuz I don't want to buy a gift and know he wants them
02/03/2011
Pandahb Pandahb
Quote:
Originally posted by sbon
I've ordered a lot from eden, but I don't actually spend much money. I rely heavily on the points program. I actually think it's pretty fun to calculate how many points I need to save up for the products I want and then see how long it ...
I do that too. I feel almost dirty for doing it sometimes too, as if I am taking advantage of such an amazing program. I have to remind myself that the program is meant for this sort of thing and they put limitations to prevent us from over doing it, but at the same time I still feel a little naughty.
02/03/2011
kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
Quote:
Originally posted by Jul!a
I do something similar, but I let them all sit on a wishlist I create for a specific order. I'm always surprised at the amount of things I remove last minute that I'd feel a little guilty actually buying.
how can I re add items I cancelled to my order?
02/03/2011
Pandahb Pandahb
I think the a good way to live within your means is by making a budget. Figure out how much you think you will make each month. Figure out food, bills, etc and see how much you have at the end. I would also suggest setting up a savings account at a bank that is hard to access but easy to deposit money. That way you will save a little each month, but it is harder to take money out of it. This will also help you in emergencies.

Kinkygirlfriend: If you would like me to set up a template for you in excel, let me know because I love doing them.
02/03/2011
kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
Quote:
Originally posted by Pandahb
I think the a good way to live within your means is by making a budget. Figure out how much you think you will make each month. Figure out food, bills, etc and see how much you have at the end. I would also suggest setting up a savings account at a ...
well I already have a savings account...I will figure out my costs more by keeping all reciepts for a few monthes,internet purchases,wal mart..and saving all my pay stubs then find the average right? I'd say doing that for a few monthes?
02/03/2011
Illusional Illusional
Quote:
Originally posted by Owl Identified
I have splurged in the past and felt guilty, but for the most part I am careful about how I spend with EF. I typically use points and giftcards, and maybe a little cash to fill in the gaps (say a leftover $12 not covered by the cards and points). I ...
I do the same thing, I make sure I really want it~!
02/03/2011
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