Women, menstrual cups -?

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Women, menstrual cups -?

Spiking Glue Spiking Glue
Right, so, I'm still full of uncomfortable puritanical urges when it comes to my bodily functions, but at the same time -- I feel very very strongly about women's menstrual cups.

I fucking LOVE them.

I've used mine for about ten years, and it's altered my life in many pleasant ways. I have saved literally hundreds of dollars, and they're so comfortable and just... in every way superior to pads and tampons (except maybe cloth pads, but that's a different story).

link A good site about 'em on wordpress.
link A very helpful community on livejournal.

If you don't use cups, do yourself a favor and research them.



There! I made the post I've been daydreaming about!
... that felt weird.
11/20/2008
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Dragon Dragon
Quote:
Originally posted by Spiking Glue
Right, so, I'm still full of uncomfortable puritanical urges when it comes to my bodily functions, but at the same time -- I feel very very strongly about women's menstrual cups.

I fucking LOVE them.

I've used mine for about ...
Huh? Never heard of them. My period is pretty heavy sometimes. A friend of mine's is worse. I'm not sure I'd trust those.
11/20/2008
Backseat Boohoo Backseat Boohoo
I've been considering cups, but they're not quite convenient when you have a communal bathroom and kitchen in a dorm. Hopefully I can start using them in grad school...
11/20/2008
Spiking Glue Spiking Glue
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Originally posted by Dragon
Huh? Never heard of them. My period is pretty heavy sometimes. A friend of mine's is worse. I'm not sure I'd trust those.
Mine's really heavy, too. :/ I finish in about 3 days, and the whole time I have dizzy spells and sleep 12 hours plus, a night. Women with 'normal' flow can choose more freely than people like me, people like me need to research.

Sadly, 10 years ago, I didn't have a choice. My learning curve was horrible and messy, but women these days don't have to suffer through it.

I don't have the data memorized, but *most* tampons hold significantly less than a standard sized cup, even the so called 'super' size ones.
11/20/2008
Spiking Glue Spiking Glue
I've changed mine in public restrooms, before. You don't have to wash them with soap every time -- most women actually say it's a bad thing to do that -- since only 1 cup is made of rubber, the rest are medical grade silcone and can simply be boiled at the end.
11/20/2008
Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
I've heard of them but don't use them. My period is so light it doesn't pay to use anything more than a pantyliner. But I've always had super super short arms and fingers so I wonder if I even could use something like this
11/20/2008
Spiking Glue Spiking Glue
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Originally posted by Adriana Ravenlust
I've heard of them but don't use them. My period is so light it doesn't pay to use anything more than a pantyliner. But I've always had super super short arms and fingers so I wonder if I even could use something like this
Hm, I dunno. I don't know what your physical condition is...

On my lite days, I use cloth. Nothing fancy. I have various squares of flannel I bought on sale at Jo Anne's that I zigzagged and I fold it and use it that way.

I've been forced, in the past, to return to disposable pads and tampons. The pads kind of disgusted me, and the tampons caused me physical pain, from sucking up all my fluids. I just remember feeling *injured* afterwards.

It's often bandied a bout the lj comms, that cloth pads make you feel "in touch with your femininity", and cups make you feel like you "don't have a period at all". I've found both to be true, even though I had kinda phooied them before I joined their ranks.
11/20/2008
Nashville Nashville
I tried the Diva Cup, I made sure there was a seal, had perfect placement and yet it leaked. If you have a heavy flow it's not recommended. I bleed very heavily- I can thank that to PCOS, endo, and exuberant endometrial hyperplasia and the Diva just didn't meet my needs. I bleed quick too, there are periods where I go through one overnight pad every 45 mins (this is NOT normal, I've been told on more than one occasion I should be glad I'm not anemic).. and I just couldn't get to a place where I could comfortably and safely empty out the cup. I stick with pads, it's what I know and Walmart brand are cheap. I don't care if they're not eco-friendly but it saves me the personal embarrassment of walking around at my job with blood stained pants.
11/20/2008
Spiking Glue Spiking Glue
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Originally posted by Nashville
I tried the Diva Cup, I made sure there was a seal, had perfect placement and yet it leaked. If you have a heavy flow it's not recommended. I bleed very heavily- I can thank that to PCOS, endo, and exuberant endometrial hyperplasia and the Diva ...
*nods* That's a lot. I'm not claiming they're for everyone, but a significant number of people don't know about them and don't think to lookinto them if they do know.

I didn't get into them to be "eco friendly", actually. I got into them because I was spending 80% of my wages on rent and couldn't afford to eat daily. I wanted to save money. It's a selfish reason, I know, but 'eco friendly' was a big aside for me. Later, it became the most comfortable option as well.

Did you use the smaller size Diva Cup? I know it's not one of the largest sizes available. I have to empty my cup out every 1-3 hours when I use it, on the first day, otherwise I screw up the seal and leak (thus, the flannel... I couldn't spend money on disposable pads and started to shove rags in there).
11/20/2008
Spiking Glue Spiking Glue
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Originally posted by Spiking Glue
*nods* That's a lot. I'm not claiming they're for everyone, but a significant number of people don't know about them and don't think to lookinto them if they do know.

I didn't get into them to be "eco ...
...not trying to convince you, just curious... I know the largest Lunette holds almost 1tb more fluid than a small Diva.... I've still seen people who can't use them, but it really seems an exception than a rule, and these days I'm all about awareness. Fuck man, 10 years! 10 years, I went from using the biggest and the most expensive pads and tampons and still ruining clothes... to just... you know, having it be rather unremarkable. I'm sold, I'm talkative, I'm ready to overcome my shame issues! *fist pumps*

You know, all that.
11/20/2008
LikeSunshineDust LikeSunshineDust
I love cups! I've been using them since last spring. I have a light-"regular" flow and if the cups have ever leaked, it's not been enough to actually leak out, I just notice when I wipe. I totally agree that they're not for everyone, but I'm personally glad that there's something for me besides a pad (which grosses me out on my heavier days) or a dry wad of cotton. I use the disposable ones though...definitely not eco-friendly :-/ I wanted to get the feel of them first before I went for a reusable one.
11/20/2008
Snappy Snappy
I love my Diva cup. I've had menorrhagia (heavy, near continuous bleeding) for about five months now and don't worry about leaking or spending a lot of money to keep up with the flow. I just insert it and forget about it. I've found that checking it every 12 hours usually suffices for me. When I'm bleeding heavily, I check it more frequently. I do suggest that you buy the Diva Wash when you purchase your cup. It's easier to keep it looking good than it is to remove discoloration that occurs over time.
11/20/2008
SerpentLibertine SerpentLibertine
I'm a se worker and I've been using and recommending the Instead softcups to people for years now. While they're not exactly re-usable (some people do re-use them), they do allow you to have intercourse while on your period. Depending on how heavy the flow is, most times their is no leakage at all. They're amazing...and readily available at many drugstores.
11/23/2008
Bulma Bulma
I honesty only need a pantyliner during my (super short) periods because of my IUD, but when I get it taken out (probably not for three years) I will definitely consider using the cup.

When I first learned of it, my reaction was a resounding "EWWWlink." I am a clutz by nature, and I know I would end up dropping the thing at least a couple times. I think it's something that would take time getting used to, but honestly I hate tampons and pads so it sounds like a good option (I'll be honest, I hate periods and everything associated with the process...it's not just the tampons and pads that I hate).

I am especially intrigued now that cups have gotten thumbs up from so many people...if not totally convinced, you've at least peaked my interest to the point where I'm willing to give it a try.
11/23/2008
Spiking Glue Spiking Glue
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Originally posted by Bulma
I honesty only need a pantyliner during my (super short) periods because of my IUD, but when I get it taken out (probably not for three years) I will definitely consider using the cup.

When I first learned of it, my reaction was a resounding ...
Oh, Bulma, you totally made me feel like this whole post was worth it.
11/23/2008
Spiking Glue Spiking Glue
Oh, crap, I forgot to respond to everyone else. >< You'll pardon me, I was just excited to see someone say they're interested.

I did the same thing, LikeSunshineDust. You'd be surprised to note that the Instead cups were around 10 years ago. Back then, they were made of thicker, stronger materials and had a softer, more flexible rim. Since then, they seem to have reformulated their design so the cup part was thinner and the ring part is stiffer. The old style cups were really comfortable and quite *hardy*, I used to wash and resuse 1 per cycle. Again, I was just being a cheap bastard. Nothing ever happened to me. I had such great success with it, I progressed to a 'real' cup (nondisposable). But, for at least five years, I kept a box of Insteads in my truck, juuust in case. The same box. I used a few over time, but I never really quite returned.

Snappy, I have a Diva! I just boil mine, and occasionally wipe it with rubbing alcohol when I feel like making it look like new. Discoloration just happens, I figure. I don't really sweat it.

At the moment, I own 3 cups. Weird, I know. I own my original cup, which is made of natural gum rubber. It's a small sized Keeper. I've owned it for 10 years, and it's fine, in perfectly good condition with no visual or olfactory changes. I also own a small sized Diva cup, which is a 'back up' cup I bought because I kept losing my damn cup. And recently, I sprang for an orange colored Ladycup. I just figured, after 10 years, a little whimsical purchasing couldn't hurt me none. I haven't used it yet, but unfortunately, I'll be using it soon. -_-; I'm actually a little excited to try it, which I can't stop feeling *odd* about. Hah.
11/23/2008
LikeSunshineDust LikeSunshineDust
Quote:
Originally posted by Spiking Glue
Oh, crap, I forgot to respond to everyone else. >< You'll pardon me, I was just excited to see someone say they're interested.

I did the same thing, LikeSunshineDust. You'd be surprised to note that the Instead cups were ...
Since you've tried all three, which one do you prefer to use? I think this thread has convinced me to get a reusable one.
11/23/2008
Dragon Dragon
Quote:
Originally posted by Spiking Glue
Oh, Bulma, you totally made me feel like this whole post was worth it.
The post is worth it. I'd never heard of them, and I'm somewhat curious. I've put the whole idea on the back burner for a bit, but I'll come back to it.
11/23/2008
Bulma Bulma
Quote:
Originally posted by Bulma
I honesty only need a pantyliner during my (super short) periods because of my IUD, but when I get it taken out (probably not for three years) I will definitely consider using the cup.

When I first learned of it, my reaction was a resounding ...
Umm, there should be no link in my post. I didn't realize it only took a few "W's" for the system to think something is a link. I must say it is a little annoying though...

Spiking Glue, this thread is definitely worth it People might see this thread and not post, but still be intrigued enough to look into it more or even try using a cup.
11/23/2008
Spiking Glue Spiking Glue
[LikeSunshineDust] Actually, I haven't used the Ladycup yet. I only got it about a week or two ago, but I'm going to use it on this cycle. Coincidentally, someone on the livejournal community asked me to review it when I was done, and compare it to the Divacup. The Divacup is the most popular brand in North America, since it's so widely available and cheap. I'll make sure to share the review with you guys when its done.

[Devilbluedress] It's fascinating stuff to read about, even if you elect not to use it. I was so creeped out when I first found them (like you, Bulma), but at the same time, ridiculously fascinated. I spent hours reading up on it (link ) and learned a lot about the history of menstruation. It's just not something I was prone to thinking about.... still isn't. But I'm a reasearchy sort, I get my kicks from learning, so when I discovered I had a squick... I just had to *poke* at it.

[Bulma] I noticed the weird www thing. I bet what caused it was the period at the end of www, let's try. www.

I had kinda hoped that it would have that effect. *nods* My experience has been so positive, even though there is a rather tough learning curve. I'd just love for people to get curious and decide, rather than simply be ignorant of the option, you know?

I should share a few more links.

link -- this is the museum of menstrual health. It's run by a lovely man who loved his mother. He's not creep at all, he doesn't come off that way anyways, and his entire site is just really ... I keep using the word... fascinating. It's like, all this stuff I've never heard of, seen, or even thought of. Cool.

link -- the Keeper natural rubber cup. This was the cup I bought 10 years ago. Please don't view this link as a 100% endorsement of their current product. I like it, and all, but I think I'll hold my opinions back about it until I write my Ladycup review. I'm linking it because I want the casual observer to know what I'm talking about.

link -- the Diva cup. This cup is enormously popular, because it is the cheapest and most abundant cup on the market in North America. It's made of medical grade silicone, and you guys all know what that means. Again, not an endorsement, holding my opinion back until I write my Ladycup review, just want you to know what I'm talking about. It is a very good cup, imho, however.

link -- the Ladycup. This company is fairly new. It recently came out with several COLORS (kickass). I have not used it yet, and therefor do not have an opinion of it yet. I've heard really good things, though, and it is currently the softest cup on the market. It's currently available on the company website, reseller websites, and ebay. You can get it very cheaply on ebay.



And, just in case someone out there has made up their mind to get a Divacup, you can get one at iherb for about $15 within the USA (shipped), buy using this code: POL105 I think it's a referral code, but still, it gets you $5 off, and someone kind passed it on to me from livejournal recently. It *may* also be a 'first time customer' code.

link


And suddenly! I feel like cup pusher. Always did want to be one.
11/23/2008
Beautiful Dreamer Beautiful Dreamer
I still prefer just not having a period. Much, much easier.
11/23/2008
Spiking Glue Spiking Glue
I'm almost done with my first use of the Lady cup. I gotta say, this thing's impressed the hell out of me. I think it's become my favorite cup ever.

I did learn something (not) really surprising about myself this week. When I say "my flow is heavy", I'm not actually imagining it. It's almost a thrill to find out I'm not just crazy. The average woman's period is about 60ml of fluid. I've lost almost 100ml of fluid so far, and I'm not done yet. So, all the weakness, dizziness when I stand, exhaustion, 12-18 hours of sleep, and etc? I'm not being melodramatic, I really am taking a huge hit.

This isn't my review, but I thought I'd drop a note or two about the Lady cup and then wander off.

Obviously, I gave it a good sound work out. It never leaked, was extraordinarily comfortable... and never dislodged as a result of a full bladder or bowel. Frankly, I'm thrilled to bits with it. It's not without its problems, as it can be quite hard to open sometimes, and I honestly suspect that someone who has never used a cup before could handle that specific issue.

Anyways, I'm going to write up a really long, boring, essay about the three cups later this week. If there's anything you'd like me to note specifically, do tell. I'll try and include it.


My newest assignment arrived on the exact day my period started. >< It looks like a really fun toy?
11/28/2008
Spiking Glue Spiking Glue
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Originally posted by Spiking Glue
I'm almost done with my first use of the Lady cup. I gotta say, this thing's impressed the hell out of me. I think it's become my favorite cup ever.

I did learn something (not) really surprising about myself this week. When I say ...
*DOUBLE POST SPECIAL*
... Heh. Weird. The current clinical standard for Menorrhagia is a loss of >80ml, but when I googled normal blood loss (to double check my numbers), it said that most women lose 100ml. So, most women have Menorrhagia? Thank you great and powerful interwebs. I have learned well.

Anyways, I also wanted to mention that I typoed on my Lady cup paragraph, and I typoed in such a way as to change the meaning of the whole sentence.

I do NOT think that a newbie to cups could handle the folding problem the Lady cup has. I think that newbies should use a stiffer cup, like the Lunette or the Diva -- to pull two random names out of a hat. I'm sure after they're used to the cup and enjoy it, they'll want a backup cup just in case one gets lost, and if they ever got to that point, the Lady Cup could step in, take the other cup's place, and ta dah, two cups.

I simply suspect, Heavily suspect, that the Lady Cup has too sharp of a learning curve, despite its amazing attributes. I should just start writing that review already. ><
11/28/2008
LikeSunshineDust LikeSunshineDust
Do any of you ever get yeast infections when you use cups? I just finished my period and I used one Instead and made sure to wash it really well every 12 hours. And now my vagina is REEAALLY pissed about something, but I can't figure out what I did to make her so upset.
12/06/2008
LikeSunshineDust LikeSunshineDust
I talked to my roommate and she said that if I didn't rinse the soap off well enough, it could have raised my pH, which would let beasties grow. I feel like that makes sense, but has this happened to anyone else?
12/06/2008
Spiking Glue Spiking Glue
Quote:
Originally posted by LikeSunshineDust
I talked to my roommate and she said that if I didn't rinse the soap off well enough, it could have raised my pH, which would let beasties grow. I feel like that makes sense, but has this happened to anyone else?
Your roommate is right. *nods*

I haven't had it happen to me, but I've read of other ladies who find yeast infections to be problematic, especially when using a cup that can't be sterilized, like the Insteads.

What kind of soap are you using? An often recommended soap is Cetaphil (oddly enough), because it washes away clean and is good for sensitive skin.
12/08/2008
LikeSunshineDust LikeSunshineDust
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Originally posted by Spiking Glue
Your roommate is right. *nods*

I haven't had it happen to me, but I've read of other ladies who find yeast infections to be problematic, especially when using a cup that can't be sterilized, like the Insteads.

What kind of ...
I used unscented Dial soap. Thanks for the recommendation.
Also, I'm getting a Diva Cup for Christmas!!
12/08/2008
CaptainBunnyKilla CaptainBunnyKilla
I have a Diva Cup and I adore it. I'm really tempted by the Ladycup, though, mostly because of the colors. Also, I had no idea you could wear Instead Softcups during sex! That's great! But yeah, I really can't recommend the Diva Cup enough.
12/24/2008
Spiking Glue Spiking Glue
Sorry about my silence, I've been having a bit of a hard crack at life. I'm sure you understand.

I looove my Ladycup, toygirl2. My Divacup may never see use again. For the first time, I'm able to remove my cup without spilling, and I can use it without leaking 100% of the time. With the Diva, I had been convinced that some of the leaks were normal... not huge splurgy weird leaks, but mild leaks that I was told came from the walls of the vagina, and not the cervix. Since I've switched to the Ladycup, I don't get seepage at all, unless I have totally filled the cup.

I've seen criticism for people like me, who own more than one cup. :/ All I can tell you, is I can lose something I had in my left hand simply by switching it to my right. I can lose anything. In fact, I've lost my first Divacup and I have *no* idea where it is. I needed a backup cup, because I would often lose one and find the other.

How I wound up with four cups? oO I bought the Lunette on impulse (haven't used it yet), and I bought the Ladycup at the same time I bought a Divacup.... it was an accident, I swear. Let's just say, never again shall I drink Jack Daniels and shop online at the same time! (who am I kidding, I think I did that yesterday)

re: Instead Softcups; I heard the man often doesn't feel a thing, too. I even read one lady claim, she didn't tell her man she was menstruating and just let it happen naturally. How strange! I had always figured it was physically possible, I just didn't think it wasn't noticable.
12/27/2008
LikeSunshineDust LikeSunshineDust
I got my Divacup for Christmas and have used it for the past 3 days, and I love it! Day 1, it leaked a little but it wasn't blood, it was residual stuff that was probably on my vaginal walls. Day 2, I did a little, um "chimney sweep" in the shower before I put the cup in and didn't have any leakage. Both days it felt a little weird, it wasn't uncomfortable but I could feel it in there. Today I turned it inside out to see if that would help, and it did and still no leaks. I'm very, very happy with my Divacup, and I probably wouldn't have decided to get one if it weren't for this thread.
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