Is it weird that my mom and I openly discuss sex toys and even give them as gifts to each other?

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Is it weird that my mom and I openly discuss sex toys and even give them as gifts to each other?

Irish Fyre Queen Irish Fyre Queen
My mom and I are close friends and have been since my early adult years. My husband seems to think it's 'gross' that we are able to talk so freely and that I'll buy her one and she'll buy me one from time to time. We don't talk about our usage of them and we damned sure don't share them. Is this odd?
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wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
I actually think that's a wonderfully healthy relationship. Now, if you two are like trying the toys out together, that's weird, haha.

However, I think it's healthy to talk about those kinds of things, especially once you hit adulthood because those become the things that are typically the norm in your adult life when it comes to your relationship, lack of, or whatever.

Your husband probably just feels that it is awkward because he isn't that open with his family, and he's probably thinking of it from a perspective of you being much younger. Because let me tell you, if my parents had talked to me about sex or toys or anything like that when I was a teenager and still hadn't grown into it myself, I'd be scarred for life and DEFINITELY find it gross for people to talk about it with their parents.

But nah, totally cool.
01/15/2014
Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by wrecklesswords
I actually think that's a wonderfully healthy relationship. Now, if you two are like trying the toys out together, that's weird, haha.

However, I think it's healthy to talk about those kinds of things, especially once you hit ...
This is pretty much exactly what I was going to say. Man, WW you're on fire today!!
01/15/2014
wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
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Originally posted by Ansley
This is pretty much exactly what I was going to say. Man, WW you're on fire today!!
I woke up with a new perspective on a lot of things!
01/15/2014
Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by wrecklesswords
I woke up with a new perspective on a lot of things!
Very nice. I love those days.
01/15/2014
edeneve edeneve
I think it's great that you have such an open relationship w/ your mom!
01/15/2014
LoooveMonkey LoooveMonkey
I think that's awesome. I wish I could do that with my mom. lol
01/16/2014
mfmtrios mfmtrios
I think this is not typical, but it seems you have a great relationship with your mom. Congrats!

I would probably keep this talk away from your husband, though. Just sayin...
01/23/2014
PadoruLover PadoruLover
No that's not weird. Me and my mom talk about it and I could see us give them as gifts too.
01/24/2014
smalltalkingbit smalltalkingbit
I agree with WW - and I'm also envious! I grew up in a "we don't talk about things like that" household and it's taken a while to become more 'free' myself as a result.
01/26/2014
Lvstoplay Lvstoplay
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Originally posted by Irish Fyre Queen
My mom and I are close friends and have been since my early adult years. My husband seems to think it's 'gross' that we are able to talk so freely and that I'll buy her one and she'll buy me one from time to time. We don't ...
My mom and I certainly don't buy toys for each other. Honestly I don't think she even owns any. I doubt I'd mind it as much as she would.
04/04/2014
Lvstoplay Lvstoplay
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Originally posted by smalltalkingbit
I agree with WW - and I'm also envious! I grew up in a "we don't talk about things like that" household and it's taken a while to become more 'free' myself as a result.
I know what you mean. I was raised with the whole notion of that sort of thing being "dirty." I don't understand it because my gram isn't that way at all, but my mother is. I've written a few short erotic stories and my mom calls it "smut," but my gram loves it and asks me to send them to her when I write them.
04/04/2014
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Irish Fyre Queen
My mom and I are close friends and have been since my early adult years. My husband seems to think it's 'gross' that we are able to talk so freely and that I'll buy her one and she'll buy me one from time to time. We don't ...
I always had a close relationship to my Mom, but sex was never a topic. My daughter (now grown) and I did discuss pretty much anything openly, but sex toys never has come up and I wouldn't be giving her any (or vise versa). A friend of ours, however, had the strangest experience with her Mom. She was about 30 at the time, and just getting married (had a big career to put on track first). Her mom is very young and attractive (only 50...had her at 20), and so people think they are sisters. However, they never really discussed sex at all either. One day, as they were shopping for some "honeymoon lingerie" at V. Secrets, her mom blurts out, "oh honey, I found the best lube ever for when he wants to fuck you in the ass. I just bought a few bottles, since your dad loves to bugger my ass at least twice a week, and as long as I was shopping I got you a bottle. Remind me to give it to you when we get home". And that was it! From the mom who never, EVER had offered any "sex advice" or discussed anything about bedroom matters beyond the most basic "birds and bee's" and biological "period" talk. Our friend was, well, floored.
04/06/2014
Aesenthia Aesenthia
I think that's healthy. My mother won't even talk to me about tampons and pads. Everything I needed to learn about my period, I had to find out by asking other people and doing research (which is kind of ridiculous considering she's supposed to be my mother and pass along this knowledge).
10/06/2014
Inquisitor Inquisitor
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Originally posted by Irish Fyre Queen
My mom and I are close friends and have been since my early adult years. My husband seems to think it's 'gross' that we are able to talk so freely and that I'll buy her one and she'll buy me one from time to time. We don't ...
Nah, it might be "unusual" but not gross or weird.
11/03/2014
Lvstoplay Lvstoplay
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Originally posted by Inquisitor
Nah, it might be "unusual" but not gross or weird.
I actually think it's nice that they're that open with each other. Strange as it may sound, I'm much more open with my dad that I am with my mom.
07/21/2015
Inquisitor Inquisitor
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Originally posted by Lvstoplay
I actually think it's nice that they're that open with each other. Strange as it may sound, I'm much more open with my dad that I am with my mom.
It is nice that you feel more comfortable discussing your adult activities with your parent. I only say it might be unusual because I don't think many people openly discuss their sex lives with their parents. I know I sure don't. I don't even talk about it with my sibling whom we are closer to in age.
07/21/2015
charmedtomeetyou charmedtomeetyou
I think it's fine. I wouldn't think it's odd, and I think it likely has to do with however things were in his family.
07/21/2015
Lvstoplay Lvstoplay
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Originally posted by Inquisitor
It is nice that you feel more comfortable discussing your adult activities with your parent. I only say it might be unusual because I don't think many people openly discuss their sex lives with their parents. I know I sure don't. I don't ...
It is unusual, but I like it. You said you and your sibling are close in age. Is your sibling a brother or sister? Do you guys have a very close relationship? Those things could make a difference. It's definitely not standard to have that open and honest of a relationship between a dad and daughter but I think it's nice.
07/21/2015
TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
It is not that strange, I have an open dialogue with my mother and even get her stuff.
09/26/2015
sXeVegan90 sXeVegan90
My mother knows I buy/review toys, and we openly discuss it sometimes when she sees I have a new package in the mail. I've even gotten her some things over the years. I don't think it's weird at all, I think it's very healthy, as others have stated.
10/14/2015
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by sXeVegan90
My mother knows I buy/review toys, and we openly discuss it sometimes when she sees I have a new package in the mail. I've even gotten her some things over the years. I don't think it's weird at all, I think it's very healthy, as others have stated.
sXeV, it's great you have this relationship. I don't think either of our parents would be that way. Not sure if it due to culture or that;s just the way it is.
10/14/2015
NJ casanova NJ casanova
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Originally posted by Irish Fyre Queen
My mom and I are close friends and have been since my early adult years. My husband seems to think it's 'gross' that we are able to talk so freely and that I'll buy her one and she'll buy me one from time to time. We don't ...
Had to vote weird...As Iam a "Man". I try not ever thinking about my mom with a toy, talk about lifelong trauma.

If I were her daughter, it would be different. I think it would be normal since you probably talked about everything else, (periods, hormones, BF's, sex, the nasty infections stuff ) already?
10/22/2015
dhig dhig
can't imagine it but i don't think it's weird!
10/22/2015
TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
It's fun. You learn so much...
10/22/2015
FleurDevereux FleurDevereux
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Originally posted by Irish Fyre Queen
My mom and I are close friends and have been since my early adult years. My husband seems to think it's 'gross' that we are able to talk so freely and that I'll buy her one and she'll buy me one from time to time. We don't ...
I openly talk about toys with my mother, and bought her her first one. When it was worn out I took her to a toy shop and I told her I'm buying. She wanted to choose another cheap toy, but I explained to her that better quality toys last longer and generally feel better. I don't find it weird at all and being able to talk openly with your mother about these kinds of things just goes to show how comfortable you are with her.
11/11/2015
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