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I think many kids in HS are already eager to experiment, but are unsure about buying condoms or are afraid of the reprimands of getting condoms (like from parents or nurses at a school). I think it is important for teenagers to feel comfortable
I think many kids in HS are already eager to experiment, but are unsure about buying condoms or are afraid of the reprimands of getting condoms (like from parents or nurses at a school). I think it is important for teenagers to feel comfortable enough to ask their parents and if for some reason their parent is the type that is a "wait until marriage" kind of person, schools need to have proper sexual education so they understand WHY they NEED condoms, what is best to get, where to get them and so they can make educated decisions. A lot of people use the argument "well if they can't go to the store and pick up a box of condoms then they shouldn't be having sex" and perhaps that's right, but that is only going to prevent them from buying condoms, not prevent them from having sex. I have terrible anxiety and sometimes I have an issue just going to the store to buy deodorant and it was worse when I was in high school so I never went to buy condoms (I also didn't really have sex either).
I think you're post is very fair. I agree kids should be educated properly. Abstinence is a valid OPTION but parents need to be realistic and not just leave a sex talk at that.
They need to be educated properly on how their bodies work (like how a woman's cycle typically works and how sperm exist in pre ejaculation) but alongside that we need to make them comfortable asking questions and asking for condoms or other birth control.
Telling your child "they're out"-like I was- if they ever get pregnant doesn't help either. The risks of sex should be discussed (hurt feelings if the person get's dumped after, stds, unplanned pregnancy) but options for if an unplanned pregnancy does occur should be frankly spoken about too. I've never had one but there's no way I would have disclosed my changed state to my family if it had!
I'm not a fan of the idea of having condoms in schools-I just don't think it's the school's job to get directly involved in a student's sex life- but I DO get why those that say it's a good idea do so. I definitely want them to be safe but I think the school should encourage that by proper education and working with the parents too (like talking about sex education during PTA meetings). Even having counselors trained to talk about sexual things would be ok. I think it's fine too if they want to give them info on where they can obtain contraceptives and whether or not they have to have parental counselor (does it very by state?) but I think the rest should be left to the parents.
Some parents may not be doing their jobs, but unfortunately we don't get to pick our families. But the kids should definitely have access to good, truthful information through their school at least, if not other places.