Well, fucking shit. I can't even reply to just one person.
I grew up a good 5-10 years before some of you (with half of my family being traditional, Cuban, and Catholic--and the other half traditional and Baptist... Progressive they were NOT) and what I was taught about gender, sexuality, marriage, etc. was much different
and as my knowledge broadens and expands I see, now, how narrow it all was. THAT SAID... I agree and disagree.
Yes, I see what everyone is saying about the messages that Disney movies send. (I saw the video and I skimmed the gazillion links.) I watched all these movies. My favorites having been Beauty and the Beast, Mulan, Aladdin, and Lion King. In all honesty though, what I took from these stories is this:
Beauty and the Beast: Reading and knowledge are attractive qualities. (and it's no wonder that the people I'm most attracted to are well-read)
Mulan (yes, a little after my time but OH I LOVE THIS MOVIE): Women can do anything men can do and excel at it (and often do it better)
Aladdin: Aside from the pantaloons (smirk), I learned that it's okay to be choosy and opinionated about love and that you don't have to accept the first offer that comes around. (A lesson I wish I'd remembered....)
Lion King: Often times, women are the more level-headed species. We are adept at keeping our heads and solving problems and it's okay to kick "your man" in the ass to get him to come around if he's got his head up his ass.
My mother was an Army drill sergeant turned single mother, and while I did lust after traditional romance as a child, I was never taught that women, in general, were to be demure, submissive, meek, or powerless without a man. (Though my mother did try to tell me that if I wasn't thin and pretty I would never find a man to marry me. I proved her wrong.) (She wasn't the most loving or supportive parent, but I still respect the life she led before alcohol and cancer destroyed her.
But my mother brings me to my biggest point: parenting. I let my kids watch Disney movies (their favorite is the Toy Story franchise and Cars... they own, but are not big on, the princess movies and will watch them very rarely). I do, however, teach them that they are strong and beautiful girls and that they don't have to try and be someone they're not. I try and teach them to value the same things that I respect in others: Intelligence, respect for others, humor, love... not in gender, but as individual people.
I say it much better here
The article is not as encompassing of sexual orientations as I should have written it, but yeah... I think too much emphasis is placed on what media does and not enough teaching going on from the parents.
(as for the Mars Needs Moms reference: *sigh* I know some AMAZING dads. Like, kick-ass amazing men who are amazing fathers. But in many, many (I'll say it: MOST) traditional families, Moms are the ones who do it all and get no credit. I haven't seen the movie, but I would imagine it's a great tribute to all the work that moms do that is so often unappreciated by kids and husbands)