A few years ago, I realized I was becoming "offended" about anything and everything I could. I was almost searching out things to "be offended" about.
I decided I needed to deal with my emotions better, and not look for reasons to get upset all the time. I was harmed as a child, but I am NOT "a survivor" anymore than I am a "victim." The abuse does not define me
giving the abuse too much additional attention (after I dealt with it in therapy) only serves to keep it in the forefront of my mind, and the abuse is far from the most interesting thing that has ever happened to me
I refuse to let the abuser take over my ENTIRE life, he had those minutes, those minutes are GONE and I have healed and moved on. Not a victim, not a "survivor" just a normal woman. I won't give that pedophile a special place in my Identity
Being "offended" by certain words, or considering myself a "survivor" or a "victim" keeps the man who hurt me IN CONTROL of my life, and he no longer has a place in my life. So, I'm NOT a "Victim" nor a "survivor." I don't care for that use of the language. But, others are certainly free to use it if they think it applies to their lives.
So, it doesn't bother me when people use words like "rape" I couldn't care less. I don't use the word for minor things, but being calm and staying calm is more important to me than to look for things to get upset about and analyze every one else's choices about how they want to use words. They are only words, and they only "offend" me if I CHOOSE to let them offend me.
to stay calm, centered and UN-offended.
Just my thing. Your mileage may vary.